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When You Stop Choosing Yourself: How Self-Abandonment Turns into Resentment

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What if the key to thriving isn’t in pushing harder, but in understanding the ways your nervous system brilliantly learned to protect you? In this episode, we will explore how self-abandonment is an adaptive response many of us found, often in early childhood, to maintain safety, belonging, or connection. Sarah unpacks why this pattern, while protective, can also lead to resentment in our relationships, work, and sense of self.

Through the lens of the nervous system and attachment, she shares how chronic giving without receiving can disrupt our internal balance and impact our emotional, physical, and relational well-being. Drawing parallels from nature's rhythm of give-and-receive, Sarah reminds us that honoring our needs isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. When we stop abandoning ourselves, we start making space for deeper connection, creativity, and vitality.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:15 What Is Self-Abandonment?

03:34 Receiving Is a Natural Part of a Child’s Development

06:10 Having Needs is Not a Weakness

07:58 How Self-Abandonment Shows Up in Our Adult Life

13:15 Long-Term Effects of Self-Abandonment

15:37 The “As If” Tool

17:24 Identify and Connect with Your Resentment

21:02 Communicate Your Needs in a Tolerable Way

23:20 How to Stop Abandoning Yourself

24:48 Question #1 - Rescuing Others Isn't Your Job

28:31 Question #2 - Self-Care and Nourishing Yourself

32:01 Question #3 - Getting to Know Your Doer Part

Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:

Want more science-backed tools? Take her free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck?” to learn more about your nervous system specific to you. You’ll get a downloadable worksheet and personalized guide to help you feel better in your body and life.

https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz

Connect with Sarah on:

Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/

Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/

Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

  continue reading

37 episodes

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Manage episode 486572668 series 3654630
Content provided by Sarah Baldwin Coaching and Sarah Baldwin. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Sarah Baldwin Coaching and Sarah Baldwin or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

What if the key to thriving isn’t in pushing harder, but in understanding the ways your nervous system brilliantly learned to protect you? In this episode, we will explore how self-abandonment is an adaptive response many of us found, often in early childhood, to maintain safety, belonging, or connection. Sarah unpacks why this pattern, while protective, can also lead to resentment in our relationships, work, and sense of self.

Through the lens of the nervous system and attachment, she shares how chronic giving without receiving can disrupt our internal balance and impact our emotional, physical, and relational well-being. Drawing parallels from nature's rhythm of give-and-receive, Sarah reminds us that honoring our needs isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. When we stop abandoning ourselves, we start making space for deeper connection, creativity, and vitality.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:15 What Is Self-Abandonment?

03:34 Receiving Is a Natural Part of a Child’s Development

06:10 Having Needs is Not a Weakness

07:58 How Self-Abandonment Shows Up in Our Adult Life

13:15 Long-Term Effects of Self-Abandonment

15:37 The “As If” Tool

17:24 Identify and Connect with Your Resentment

21:02 Communicate Your Needs in a Tolerable Way

23:20 How to Stop Abandoning Yourself

24:48 Question #1 - Rescuing Others Isn't Your Job

28:31 Question #2 - Self-Care and Nourishing Yourself

32:01 Question #3 - Getting to Know Your Doer Part

Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:

Want more science-backed tools? Take her free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck?” to learn more about your nervous system specific to you. You’ll get a downloadable worksheet and personalized guide to help you feel better in your body and life.

https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz

Connect with Sarah on:

Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/

Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/

Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

  continue reading

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