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Most people don’t like conflict. But some fear it so much they avoid it entirely—and that avoidance can quietly erode communication, teamwork, and leadership.

In this BiteSize Fridays episode of It’s an Inside Job, I unpack the fear of conflict through the experience of Michael, a thoughtful senior financial analyst who avoided disagreement at all costs. His calm exterior masked deep discomfort. But when team dynamics and innovation began to suffer, he realized: his fear wasn’t protecting peace—it was preventing progress.

Through Michael’s journey, we explore how the contrarian mindset helps us see conflict not as something to fear, but as a powerful doorway to truth, trust, and meaningful growth.

Perfect for You If You’re Asking:

• Why do I always shut down when tension rises?
• How can I stay composed during tough conversations?
• Is there a way to be direct without being combative?
• How do I stop mistaking silence for harmony?

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why avoiding conflict can do more harm than good
• How to recognize when conflict is a signal, not a threat
• Simple techniques to stay grounded in tense situations
• How to build deeper trust and psychological safety through open dialogue
• Practical tools to turn discomfort into clarity and connection

If you find yourself retreating from conflict to “keep the peace,” this episode gives you the mindset and skills to lean in—gently, intentionally, and powerfully.

Contrarian Strategies from This Episode

• Practice quiet courage
  Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes it means staying present when your instinct is to flee. Small acts of honesty can reshape a team dynamic.
• Build social bridges
  Ask open, curious questions. Hold space for differing perspectives. You don’t need all the answers—you just need to create room for real ones to emerge.
• Embrace obstacles as opportunities
  That gut feeling of discomfort? It’s a clue. When handled with care, conflict reveals what matters most—and where the real breakthroughs live.
• Focus on reality, not emotional reality
  Name the emotion. Acknowledge the tension. Then anchor in what’s actually been said—not what fear wants you to hear.
• Practice equanimity
  Stay steady in the storm. Use breath, grounding questions, and calm body awareness to remain present—even when things get hard. That presence is contagious.

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