The Courage to Say “No”: How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt or Burnout
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“Protecting your time isn’t selfish — it’s self-respect in action.”
Do you ever say yes when every part of you wants to say no — and walk away wondering why you agreed in the first place?
Learn how to say no without guilt or apology. In this solo episode, Jason Lim explores the psychology of boundaries, how over-agreeing drains our energy, and how clear, values-based decisions protect focus, time, and peace of mind.
Key Takeaway Insights & Tools
- Every “No” Protects a “Yes” (03:19)
Clarity about what truly matters is the foundation of boundaries. Every time you say no to what’s meaningless, you’re actually saying yes to what’s essential — your family, focus, or health.
Tool: Write down your top three priorities for the week and use them as a filter for new requests. - Do a Time Audit (05:03)
We underestimate how much time “just one call” or “just a few minutes” consumes. Learn to ask not “Can I fit this in?” but “What will I have to give up to make room for it?”
Tool: Track your week to see where attention leaks occur and replace “I’m sorry” with “I don’t have the bandwidth to give this the attention it deserves.” - Assertive Communication (06:52)
Boundaries falter not from lack of words, but lack of permission. Say what you mean, stop over-explaining, and let silence reinforce your certainty.
Practice: Record yourself saying, “Thanks for thinking of me, but I can’t take that on right now.” Play it back until it sounds calm and grounded. - Boundaries Build Trust (08:03)
Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re agreements about respect. When you set limits early and consistently, you become more predictable, reliable, and respected.
Example: “I’ve started keeping my mornings clear for deeper work, so I’m not available before nine.” - Delegate to Empower, Not Escape (10:45)
Saying no doesn’t mean shutting people out. It means redirecting requests to where they belong and letting others grow.
Tool: For one request this week that doesn’t require you, delegate it. Notice that the world doesn’t fall apart — it expands. - Saying “No” Is a Practice (11:26)
The discomfort and guilt you feel when you start saying no isn’t a signal of wrongdoing — it’s a sign of change. Over time, this habit sharpens focus and gives your “yes” real weight. - Reflection: When a new request arrives, pause and ask:
- Does this align with what matters?
- Do I have time and energy for it?
- What will it replace if I agree?
If this episode helped you reclaim a bit of peace or perspective, share it with someone who struggles to say no. Subscribe to It’s an Inside Job on your favorite podcast platform, and keep building resilience — one boundary at a time.
Host Bio
Jason Birkevold Liem is a resilience coach, leadership consultant, and host of It’s an Inside Job, a podcast exploring the science and psychology behind resilience, well-being, and self-leadership. Through practical strategies and candid storytelling, Jason helps leaders and professionals strengthen their mental and emotional fitness.
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Chapters
1. The Courage to Say “No”: How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt or Burnout (00:00:00)
2. Introduction to the Podcast (00:00:16)
3. Practical Tips for Everyday Challenges (00:01:42)
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