Best Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children Podcasts (2025)

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Toxic Parents: Why Their ‘Good Intentions’ Don’t Matter—Focus on Behavior Instead 15:11

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In today’s episode, I’m sharing one of the most important mindset shifts for healing from narcissistic parents or emotionally immature parents: stop asking if they’re a “good person” and start focusing on their repeated behaviors. So many cycle breakers get stuck in the what ifs: What if they don’t mean to hurt me? What if they’re doing their best?…

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576- Beat The Clock: Time Estimation and Management Help for Students with ADHD 58:52

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Beverley Holden Johns discusses why students with ADHD have time-management and other executive function challenges; how to teach and practice time estimation; how to use visual aids, reminders, timers, and planners; and more. Time-Management Skills for Students: Additional Resources Free Download: Executive Dysfunctions in the Classroom Read: The …

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Peeling the Onion One Layer At a Time (Layer 1) - Overview of Coercive Control and Estrangement 11:41

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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. In this episode of When Our Adult Children Walk Away, Dr. Janet Steinkamp helps you peel back the first layer of the topic of coercive control. If you’ve noticed your estranged adult child suddenly changing the…

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Vulnerability Without Judgment: Shifting Parent-Adult Child Dynamics 39:13

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Send us a text Relationship and Friendship expert Shasta Nelson shares powerful insights on transforming parent-adult child relationships and building meaningful connections throughout life. Emphasizing her Friendship Triangle framework of positivity, consistency, and vulnerability. 1. The Triangle of Healthy Relationships : Shasta introduces a pow…

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75. Trained by Trials: How God's Discipline Leads to Peace and Holiness 16:25

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Friend, what if the hardship you’re walking through right now isn’t rejection from God, but His love? In today’s episode, I’m diving deep into Hebrews 12:4–13 to show you how God’s discipline isn’t punishment — it’s fatherly training that shapes us into holiness and peace. I’ll walk you through the passage verse by verse, unpacking key Greek words …

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575- An Adult’s Guide to ADHD Treatment Considerations 1:00:48

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Join John Kruse, M.D., Ph.D., to learn about stimulants vs. non-stimulants; side effects of ADHD medication; how to determine optimal dosing; combining ADHD medications; and more. Adult ADHD Treatments: Additional Resources Free Email Class: New! ADHD Treatment Guide for Adults Read: Adult ADHD: A Guide to Symptoms, Signs, and Treatments Read: ADHD…

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I’ve Been Self-Gaslighting a Lot Lately: Why It’s Happening, What I’m Doing, and Why I’m Not Freaked Out 18:43

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Lately, I’ve caught myself spiraling into self-gaslighting quite a bit—wondering if I’m exaggerating my childhood trauma, if maybe my mom wasn’t really a narcissist, or if I’m just “too sensitive.” If you’ve ever doubted your own reality, you’re definitely not alone. In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, I share: Why self-gaslighting shows up (espec…

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The Universal Reaction That Exposes Toxic People 6:54

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TOXIC PODCAST: The Universal Reaction That Exposes Toxic People In this episode of Toxic, Jonathan Murphy, PMHNP explores the immediate, involuntary nervous system reaction that toxic people display the moment you set any boundary. Learn why this instant response reveals someone's true nature before their conscious mind can mask it. Key topics cove…

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574- The Disorder That Never Sleeps 7:54

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J.J. Sandra Kooij, M.D., Ph.D., explains how ADHD night owls can reset their internal clocks and achieve more restful sleep. This special episode is a feature article from the Fall 2025 issue of ADDitude magazine. To listen to the full issue — and receive new issues as they're published — subscribe now at additudemag.com/subscribe. ADHD and Sleep: …

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74. Faith Over Fame: Living with Grace in a Performance-Driven World 1:15:00

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What happens when you’ve reached the top of your game — but realize fame and performance don’t fill the ache in your soul? This week, I’m joined by Belinda Halloran, a retired professional athlete, native Australian, and now a sports psychologist and mental performance coach living in Sonoma, California. Belinda’s story is one of grit, grace, and t…

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Four-Step Boundary Blueprint for Toxic Relationships 11:21

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Why most "boundary advice" fails: Understanding the neuroscience of toxic relationships Tired of advice that ignores what's really happening in your body and brain when facing toxic people? This episode delivers a research-backed, four-step framework that fuses neuroscience and attachment theory to create boundaries that actually stick. Most bounda…

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573- Social Emotional Learning Techniques for Students with ADHD 1:00:19

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Social-emotional learning (SEL) teaches five core competencies: self-awareness, self-regulation, social awareness, relationship skills, and problem-solving. Steven Tobias, Psy.D., explains how to teach SEL skills to students with ADHD. Social-Emotional Learning: Additional Resources Free Download: 5 Ways to Improve Emotional Control at Home Read: Y…

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No Contact Isn’t Trendy: The Truth About How Hard Cycle Breakers Fight for Toxic Parent Relationships 15:43

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In this episode, therapist and boundaries coach Torie Wiksell (and fellow cycle breaker) exposes the myth of “no contact as a fad” and validates the years—sometimes decades—of exhausting effort cycle breakers pour into maintaining relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature parents before making the heartbreaking decision to step back. …

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When the Green Monster Rears Its Head: Jealousy and Estrangement 27:52

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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Jealousy is a natural emotion, and still, it can complicate an already painful estrangement. In this thoughtful episode, Dr. Janet helps parents and adult children understand the role jealousy plays in their st…

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Your Adult Child's Boundaries are not a Rejection of You 43:06

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Send us a text Have you ever sent an impulsive text when feeling rejected by your adult child? That desperate "What did I do wrong?" message that you later regretted? You're not alone. The relationship between parents and their adult children exists on a delicate continuum—from deep connection to painful estrangement and everything in between. Dr. …

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572- Why ADHD Brains Go Over-Bored 8:05

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Nicole C. Kear explores the research that explains why tedium is intolerable for people with ADHD — and how to bear boredom better. This special episode is a feature article from the Fall 2025 issue of ADDitude magazine. To listen to the full issue — and receive new issues as they're published — subscribe now at additudemag.com/subscribe. ADHD and …

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73. When the Miracle Hasn't Come Yet: Lessons From the Tomb 16:34

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There’s a moment in Mark 15:42–47 that we often rush past—the space between the cross and the resurrection. Jesus’ body is in the tomb, the stone is rolled in place, and to everyone watching, it looks like the end. But I want to remind you—God was still working. In this episode, I’m inviting you into those quiet, in-between seasons of life when the…

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571- Combined Treatment Options for Pediatric ADHD: Sequencing Your Child’s Care 59:19

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Mark A. Stein, Ph.D., will provide an overview of pediatric ADHD treatment options, explain why it's crucial to personalize treatment, and how to combine and sequence medication and other treatments for optimal care. ADHD Treatments for Children: Additional Resources Free Download: Take Charge of Your Child’s Medication Read: ADHD Treatment Options…

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Can Boundaries Work With Narcissistic Parents? The Nuanced Truth 13:08

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Can boundaries actually work with a toxic parent? In this week’s episode of You’re Not Crazy, host Torie Wiksell, therapist, boundaries coach, and fellow cycle breaker, unpacks one of the most common (and confusing) questions adult children of narcissistic, borderline, or emotionally immature parents ask: “Is it even possible to set boundaries with…

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Taking Back Your Name and Space 8:13

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In this powerful solo episode, Jonathan Murphy reveals how even our names can become weapons in toxic family systems. Jonathan shares his personal journey of diminishing himself by going by "Jon" - a pattern that began with his mother's taunting sing-song use of his full name and continued long after he left home. Through raw, honest storytelling, …

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570- Best Jobs for ADHD Brains: How to Pinpoint Your Ideal Work Environment 57:53

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Kathleen Nadeau, Ph.D., and Bruce Hughes, M.A., will guide you through a proven process for discovering your ideal work environment that best fits your interests, strengths, and executive functioning needs. You'll also learn how to avoid workplace mismatches. Jobs for Creative People with ADHD: Additional Resources Free Download: What to Ask Yourse…

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72. The Danger of Loud Crowds and Half-Truths 16:35

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In Acts 19:23–41, we see a full-blown riot break out in Ephesus after the gospel disrupts the city’s economy, pride, and idol worship. What started with one man’s complaint turned into hours of shouting — and most people didn’t even know why they were there. In today’s episode, I’m unpacking what really happened in Ephesus that day and why mob ment…

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You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind: Here's Your Permission to Pivot 9:07

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In today’s episode, we’re talking about a powerful and underrated concept that every cycle breaker needs: “for now.” When you're navigating toxic family dynamics, it’s easy to get paralyzed by the pressure to make the “perfect” decision—whether it’s going no contact, setting a new boundary, or reaching out for support. But healing isn’t linear, and…

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When They are Little, They Sit on your Lap: When They are Big, they Sit on Your Heart 52:16

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Send us a text This is one funny episode. Today we interview Susan Engel, a professor of psychology at Williams College and the author of the New York Times Article: When They're Grown, The Real Pain Begins. Joining Denise as co-host is a dear friend Val Haller. Val is the mother of four boys, very similar to the ages of Susan's boys when she wrote…

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71. From Rules to Relationship: How Dying to the Law Brings Life to Your Faith, Marriage, and Parenting 33:39

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Are you living in “Law Mode” without even realizing it? In this episode, we unpack Romans 7:1–6 in plain language and explore how legalism can quietly creep into your faith, your marriage (yes, even intimacy), and your parenting. You’ll hear real-life stories, practical examples, and biblical wisdom to help you move from rule-driven to Spirit-led l…

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Breaking the Cycle: How to Parent After Narcissistic Abuse and Cut Financial Control Ties 16:36

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Welcome back to Toxic - the podcast that goes deep on narcissistic family dynamics where other platforms can't. This is part of the Compass Point Institute podcast network. This isn't therapy, and it's definitely not another "forgive and move on" narrative. This is reality-based insight from someone who's lived it and professionally understands the…

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569- Top ADHD Challenges (and Solutions) for Teen Boys 58:51

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Join Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., to learn how to partner with your teen boy to navigate the frustrations, defiance, emotional volatility of adolescence with ADHD and help them grow into the capable, compassionate adult you know they can be. Challenges and Solutions for ADHD Boys: Additional Resources Free Download: Evaluate Your Teen’s Emotional Control …

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Stop Setting Yourself on Fire to Keep Others Warm 13:19

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In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, boundaries coach and licensed therapist Torie Wiksell unpacks one of the most damaging cycles cycle breakers face: being scapegoated by toxic parents. Here’s how the pattern works: your boundaries are violated again and again until you finally react—crying, yelling, or shutting down. That’s when your family poin…

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How Do You vs Your Adult Child - Decide Whether to Attend Social Events on High Risk Days? 21:57

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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Join me as I walk you through the challenges and some solutions when you need to respond to invitations scheduled on or related to high-risk days. So often, these events include your adult child. So what then?!…

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Scapegoat Survival: Owning the Role That Shaped You 14:06

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Welcome back to Toxic - the podcast that goes deep on narcissistic family dynamics where other platforms can't. This is part of the Compass Point Institute podcast network. This isn't therapy, and it's definitely not another "forgive and move on" narrative. This is reality-based insight from someone who's lived it and professionally understands the…

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70. From Chattanooga to London: Worshipping with My UK Family 13:05

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While traveling through the UK with my daughter Reese in July 2025, we had the incredible privilege of worshipping at Hillsong Church Central London. The praise was powerful, the Word was rich, and the Spirit of God was moving in a way that reminded me — His Kingdom truly has no borders. In this special mini episode (recorded on my phone as a voice…

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568- Social Skills and Executive Functions in Teens with ADHD: Interventions That Help 1:01:52

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Steven W. Evans, Ph.D., explains why youth with ADHD often have problems with academic and social functioning, and shares evidence-based approaches proven to help in these problematic areas at home and at school. Social Skills for Teens with ADHD: Additional Resources Free Download: Free Guide to Improving Your Students’ Social Skills Read: The Soc…

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Why Perfect Healing Doesn’t Exist (and What to Aim for Instead) 12:44

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Feeling like you’re “not healed enough” from your toxic family patterns? You’re not broken—and you’re not alone. In this powerful episode of You’re Not Crazy, therapist and boundaries coach Torie Wiksell dismantles the harmful myth of perfect healing that keeps so many cycle breakers stuck in shame and self-judgment. You’ll learn why healing from n…

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Navigating Awkward Questions About Your Estrangement: Kindly Setting Boundaries 12:26

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Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. When estrangement is part of your life, even small talk can feel fraught. In this episode, I help parents prepare and practice responses for when people — from close friends to casual acquaintances — ask about …

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From Helicopter to Helper: Navigating Your Child's College Transition and Beyond 20:48

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Send us a text Growing up doesn't end at 18—it's just beginning. Dr. Sara Klein, Vice President for Student Affairs at Stevens Institute of Technology, delivers a powerful message about the college transition that resonates far beyond freshman year: parents need to back off. After decades of helicopter parenting from preschool through high school, …

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69. Planks, Specks, and Real Change: What Jesus Really Meant About Judgment and Healing 50:34

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What if the person you’re blaming in your life right now is actually the mirror God is using to heal you? In this episode, we’re diving deep into Jesus’ words in Matthew 7:1–5—about planks, specks, and the kind of heart work that leads to real change. I share part of my personal story, including how I spent years blaming others for how I felt, how …

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567- Why Does ADHD Undermine Productivity? How to Ditch Procrastination and Develop a Productivity Mindset 1:00:01

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Productivity hacks and strategies are helpful — but only if you use them. The right mindset, however, can keep you track at work and in your personal life. Ari Tuckman, Psy.D., teachers us how to develop a resilient, productivity mindset. Productivity Hacks for ADHD: Additional Resources Free Download: Focus Your ADHD Brain With 5 Helpful Hacks Rea…

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3 Reasons Toxic People Hate You (And Why That's Actually Good) 7:08

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Jon breaks down the exact reasons toxic people lose their minds over your mere existence - and why their hatred is actually proof you're doing something right. Reason #1: You have interests that don't revolve around them (how dare you take pottery classes without permission!) Reason #2: You're effortlessly authentic while they're exhausted method a…

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I Went Viral On TikTok: Here's What it Taught Me About Healing 14:46

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This week, I’m sharing a personal story I never expected to be telling: what it’s been like to go viral on TikTok as a boundaries coach for adult children of toxic parents. Spoiler alert—if you’ve ever wondered whether your healing work is actually paying off, I promise this episode will help you see your own progress more clearly. I talk about the…

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68. Called, Not Qualified: Parenting with Purpose When You Feel Unequipped 17:36

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Ever feel like you’re not cut out for parenting? Like someone else would do a better job raising your strong-willed, emotional, or struggling child? In this episode, we look at Luke 6:12–16 and the unexpected team Jesus chose to change the world—and how that speaks directly to your role as a parent. Jesus didn’t pick the most qualified. He picked t…

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566- A Self-Confidence Toolkit for Parents: How to Counteract Criticism for Your Child with ADHD 59:34

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Children with ADHD endure much too frequent criticism from people in their lives. Larisa Litvinov, Ph.D., offers practical tools to help counteract negative feedback and build resilience and self-confidence in children with ADHD, from elementary school through high school. Self-confidence and Resilience with ADHD: Additional Resources Free Download…

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You Deserve Support: Overcoming Mental Blocks to Healing 14:52

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You’re not stuck because you’re lazy—you’re stuck because you were trained to put everyone else first. In this episode, I walk you through the mental blocks that keep cycle breakers paralyzed—especially the guilt that makes boundary-setting feel impossible. Plus, I’m sharing a one-time offer to get everything you need to finally break through—insid…

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#71: Announcing The Recovering Family and the 5 Principles 34:09

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In this podcast, Jen announces the rebranding of her podcast from Maneely Consulting to The Recovering Family, focusing on helping families with substance abuse issues. She outlines five principles for creating unbreakable boundaries: the Exchange Principle, emphasizing equal exchanges in financial, time, and energy; the Action Principle, stressing…

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When To Speak Up, When To Bite Your Tongue: Dr. Lawrence Steinberg on Parent-Adult Child Dynamics 50:29

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Send us a text Dr. Lawrence Steinberg sheds light on the evolving relationship between parents and their adult children in today's challenging economic landscape, offering practical advice on when to speak up and when to bite your tongue. He explains how the elongation of adolescence and unprecedented financial pressures have transformed traditiona…

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The Face Every Toxic Person Makes (And Why It Haunts You) 5:38

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You’ve seen it. That cold, blank stare that stops you in your tracks—the moment you realize something is deeply wrong. In this episode of TOXIC, Jon Murphy, PMHNP breaks down “the narcissistic face,” the chilling signal of emotional withdrawal, control, and contempt. We’ll explore what it really means, why it shows up when you’re finally feeling go…

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67. Do You Want to Get Well? Confronting the Comfort of Brokenness with Jesus at Bethesda 55:11

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What if the thing keeping you stuck isn’t your circumstances—but the comfort you’ve found in them? In this powerful, Spirit-led episode, we unpack the story of the man at the pool of Bethesda in John 5:1–15 and the question Jesus still asks us today: “Do you want to get well?” Through deep biblical teaching, real-life examples, and personal stories…

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565- How Mindfulness and Meditation Build Emotional Regulation in People with ADHD 59:37

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ADHD brings with it intense emotions, impatience, and stress. Mark Bertin, M.D., explains how mindfulness can offer a powerful counterbalance to these feelings, and how people with ADHD can apply specific mindfulness-based strategies. Meditation for Emotional Regulation: Additional Resources Free Download: Make Mindfulness Work for You Read: Medita…

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The Hidden Codependency Behind Your Need to Over-Explain 16:22

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Do you catch yourself writing paragraph-long texts just to say “no”? Do you feel the urge to explain every decision, anticipate every reaction, or soften your truth with a long-winded disclaimer? That’s not overthinking. That’s overexplaining—and it’s a trauma response. In this episode, we’re talking about the exhausting cycle of overexplaining you…

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66. The Labels We Carry: How Childhood Roles Shape Adult Identity 32:20

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What if the way you show up in marriage, parenting, and conflict isn’t who you truly are—but a role you learned to play as a child to survive dysfunction, earn love, or avoid pain? In today’s powerful and eye-opening episode, we will peel back the layers of childhood dysfunctional roles—like The Fixer, The Rebel, The Black Sheep, The Hero/Golden Ch…

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564- A Summer to Remember: How to Set Behavioral Boundaries That Unlock Fun 59:59

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Dave Anderson, Ph.D., shares practical strategies to help parents create a balanced summer routine that promotes fun and reduces stress for children with ADHD, including how to maintain a semi-structured schedule and manage screen time. Summer Activities and ADHD: Additional Resources Free Download: Your Guide to a Smarter Summer Read: How to Survi…