The Hidden Codependency Behind Your Need to Over-Explain

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for Cycle Breakers with Toxic Parents

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Do you catch yourself writing paragraph-long texts just to say “no”?

Do you feel the urge to explain every decision, anticipate every reaction, or soften your truth with a long-winded disclaimer?

That’s not overthinking. That’s overexplaining—and it’s a trauma response.

In this episode, we’re talking about the exhausting cycle of overexplaining yourself, especially if you grew up with a narcissistic or otherwise toxic parent. I’ll walk you through why it started, why it still feels so necessary, and how to start letting it go.

You’ll learn:

How childhood invalidation trains us to justify our existence
Why toxic parents weren’t misunderstanding you—they were never interested in knowing the real you
How overexplaining becomes a codependent pattern that follows us into adulthood

This one’s for the cycle breakers who are tired of holding their breath after hitting send.

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Chapters

1. The Hidden Codependency Behind Your Need to Over-Explain (00:00:00)

2. Welcome to You're Not Crazy (00:00:40)

3. Private Feed Announcements (00:01:16)

4. The Habit of Over-Explaining (00:03:01)

5. Breaking the Over-Explanation Pattern (00:06:55)

6. Healing Is Not a Finish Line (00:13:05)

7. Episode Closing and Reminders (00:16:25)

39 episodes

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