Stop Setting Yourself On Fire To Keep Others Warm You're Not Crazy: A Podcast For Cycle Breakers With Toxic Parents podcast

Content provided by Torie Wiksell. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Torie Wiksell or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for Cycle Breakers with Toxic Parents »
Stop Setting Yourself on Fire to Keep Others Warm

5d ago 13:19

MP3•Episode home

In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, boundaries coach and licensed therapist Torie Wiksell unpacks one of the most damaging cycles cycle breakers face: being scapegoated by toxic parents.

Here’s how the pattern works: your boundaries are violated again and again until you finally react—crying, yelling, or shutting down. That’s when your family points at you as “the problem.” This toxic blame-shifting convinces you that your needs are unreasonable, leading you to overextend yourself at work, in relationships, and even in friendships.

We’ll cover:

The scapegoat cycle: why you’re labeled “too sensitive” when the truth is the opposite.
How overfunctioning shows up in adulthood—as the fixer, the peacemaker, or the one who sacrifices everything to avoid conflict.
Why it feels easier to burn yourself out than to ask others to step up.
Steps to reclaim your capacity by setting boundaries around your emotional, physical, and financial energy.

Torie also shares her own story of overgiving in her career—and how healing meant learning to stop “lighting herself on fire to keep others warm.”

If you’ve ever wondered why relationships leave you drained, or why you carry responsibility that isn’t yours, this episode will help you see the truth: it’s not you.

Support the show

A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors!

🎧 Ready for More?
➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private

➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!)

📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App
iOS and Android

Let's be friends:
tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach
instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries

Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline.

You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

Chapters

1. Stop Setting Yourself on Fire to Keep Others Warm (00:00:00)

2. Welcome to You're Not Crazy (00:00:40)

3. Membership Benefits and Resources (00:01:41)

4. "Too Sensitive" Myth and Scapegoating (00:04:29)

5. Breaking the Overextension Cycle (00:06:28)

6. Setting Sustainable Boundaries (00:09:49)

7. Episode Closing and Next Steps (00:12:47)

38 episodes

#Fitness #Society #Self-Improvement #Mental Health #Torie Wiksell #Borderline Personality Disorder #Toxic Parents #Bpd Mom #Dysfunctional Family #Boundaries With Parents #Emotionally Immature Parents #Borderline Mom #Conversations #Podcasting Education #Narcissistic Personality Disorders #Narcissistic Mothers #Narcissistic Father #Narcissistic Parent