Go offline with the Player FM app!
#233 - Should I Stay or Should I Go? How to Finally Know for Yourself
Manage episode 502688012 series 3399874
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!
“Should I stay or should I go?” It’s the question every spouse of an addict whispers in the dark, and the one that can paralyze you with fear, guilt, and hope. It's the question with no clear answer. It's not "leave" or "run" or any other number of invalidating things you've heard...it's also not "stay no matter that" or "In sickness and in health used to mean something". It's usually somewhere in between - unless there's abuse - and yes, addiction is a form of abuse. But we're going to discuss it with nuance.
In this episode, Matt breaks down the truth behind that question so you can finally stop spinning in circles and start discerning what’s right for you.
You’ll learn:
- The real reasons you tolerate so much (and why your biology fights against leaving).
- How to separate survival wiring from reality so you can see the relationship clearly.
- The gut-check questions that cut through denial, like: Would they have stuck around for you?
- Why expectations are setting you up for heartbreak.
- What to do if you can’t leave yet—and how to lower your expectations for survival without losing yourself.
- The non-negotiables that prove sobriety isn’t enough without growth and accountability.
By the end of this episode, you won’t just be asking “Should I stay or should I go?” - you’ll have a better idea, and possibly even the answer on how to answer it for yourself.
Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!
On the web:
www.twfo.com
Support the Show:
Buy Us a Coffee!
Online Course:
www.independentlystrong.com
Use code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!
Soberlink Device:
www.soberlink.com/wheels
Check out our blog:
https://twfo.com/blog
Follow us on TikTok:
https://tiktok.com/@twfo_couple
Follow us on Instagram:
https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/
Follow us on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCouple
Follow us on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_couple
Find Taylor Counseling Group:
https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/
Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:
Donate Here
234 episodes
Manage episode 502688012 series 3399874
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!
“Should I stay or should I go?” It’s the question every spouse of an addict whispers in the dark, and the one that can paralyze you with fear, guilt, and hope. It's the question with no clear answer. It's not "leave" or "run" or any other number of invalidating things you've heard...it's also not "stay no matter that" or "In sickness and in health used to mean something". It's usually somewhere in between - unless there's abuse - and yes, addiction is a form of abuse. But we're going to discuss it with nuance.
In this episode, Matt breaks down the truth behind that question so you can finally stop spinning in circles and start discerning what’s right for you.
You’ll learn:
- The real reasons you tolerate so much (and why your biology fights against leaving).
- How to separate survival wiring from reality so you can see the relationship clearly.
- The gut-check questions that cut through denial, like: Would they have stuck around for you?
- Why expectations are setting you up for heartbreak.
- What to do if you can’t leave yet—and how to lower your expectations for survival without losing yourself.
- The non-negotiables that prove sobriety isn’t enough without growth and accountability.
By the end of this episode, you won’t just be asking “Should I stay or should I go?” - you’ll have a better idea, and possibly even the answer on how to answer it for yourself.
Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!
On the web:
www.twfo.com
Support the Show:
Buy Us a Coffee!
Online Course:
www.independentlystrong.com
Use code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!
Soberlink Device:
www.soberlink.com/wheels
Check out our blog:
https://twfo.com/blog
Follow us on TikTok:
https://tiktok.com/@twfo_couple
Follow us on Instagram:
https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/
Follow us on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCouple
Follow us on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_couple
Find Taylor Counseling Group:
https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/
Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:
Donate Here
234 episodes
All episodes
×Welcome to Player FM!
Player FM is scanning the web for high-quality podcasts for you to enjoy right now. It's the best podcast app and works on Android, iPhone, and the web. Signup to sync subscriptions across devices.