Best Jula The Anxious To Secure Coach Podcasts (2025)

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77: (5 hidden) LIES driving your relationship anxiety (Part 02) Cognitive Distortions 12:12

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Ever catch yourself thinking… “Did I do something wrong?” “They’re pulling away... what if they’re losing interest?” “This relationship feels OFF, but I don’t know why.” You’re not “too much.” You’re not dramatic. You might just be stuck in cognitive distortions...sneaky thought patterns that fuel anxious attachment and make you feel unsafe in love…

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76: 5 Stages How to Heal & Rewire After a BREAKUP (when you have an Anxious Attachment) 22:25

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This episode is for you if you’re in the breakup loops and trying to heal and move through it. You said you were DONE. You swore you wouldn’t reach out again. But now you're spiraling. Checking their last seen. Reading old messages. Feeling that sick ache in your chest like you need them back just to feel okay. When you have anxious attachment, a b…

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75: 6 LIES your brain tells you when you’re Anxiously Attached (and how THIS sabotages your Relationships without you realizing) 18:15

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Ever spiral after a text delay? Feel rejected by a vibe shift? Think “this ALWAYS happens” - even if it’s just once? That’s not you being “crazy” or “too much.” It’s your brain running on ✨anxious survival mode✨ whispering LIES it thinks will protect you 😳 In this episode, we’re calling out the 6 BIGGEST cognitive distortions your anxious brain tel…

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74: "Dear AVOIDANT Attachment" -If Anxious Attachment Could Speak - 5 Things They’d Say 9:16

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“I’m not trying to control you… I’m just scared.” If you’ve ever wished your avoidant partner really understood what’s happening inside your body when they pull away… This episode is for you It’s a love letter from your anxious attachment style to the person who feels hard to reach. And maybe… You’ll want to share it with them 💌 Not to convince or …

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73: Why You Keep Attracting the Same Kind of Avoidant Person (Even When You Swear You’re DONE) 20:16

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You thought you had finally learned the lesson. You told your friends, “I’m DONE with emotionally unavailable people.” You even went to therapy. Bought the book. Blocked the ex. But somehow… here you are again… F alling for someone who: ➞ Pulls away when it gets deep ➞ Says “I’m just not ready right now” ➞ Makes you feel like you're “too much” just…

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72: Dejon and Megan: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap on Love Island - Explained by a Relationship Coach 34:10

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Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship where you're doing everything to make it work… but the more you try, the more distant they become? Today, we’re diving into the viral anxious-avoidant trap through the lens of a very public couple: Dejon and Megan from Love Island UK 2025. Yes, the ones who:✔️ Became boyfriend and girlfriend super fast ✔️ …

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71."Dear ANXIOUS Attachment" - If Avoidant Attachment Could Speak - Things They’d Say to you 7:10

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"Hey… it’s me. The avoidant partner you never quite understood." This episode is different 🖤 It’s a letter from Avoidant Attachment… to Anxious Attachment. To the part of you that’s been chasing, aching, spiraling not knowing why they keep pulling away 🪞 If you’ve ever felt like: ✨ “Why do they shut down when I get close?” ✨ “Why do they ghost, avo…

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70: How to Emotionally Detach from Your Ex (Girlfriend / Boyfriend / Partner) in 10 Steps to stop your world from collapsing 35:16

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If your breakup feels like the end of the world 🌪 If your chest physically aches… If your brain knows it’s over but your body is still begging for one more text… This episode is for you 🖤 I’m walking you through 10 steps to emotionally detach from your ex - in a way that feels safe, slow, and actually doable when you're stuck in the spiral. Because…

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69: Why Breakups Hurt So Much When You Have an Anxious Attachment Style (and your Avoidant Partner left you) 20:57

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Why do breakups hurt SO much more when you have an anxious attachment style? If you’ve been stuck in a breakup spiral, thinking about them 24/7, scrolling through old messages, checking their social media, and replaying every single moment in your head… you’re not alone. But here’s the truth: if you have an anxious attachment style, heartbreak isn’…

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68: How to Lose an Avoidant Guy in 7 Steps (Your Perfect Recipe for Breakup) 21:08

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Have you ever wondered why your avoidant partner pulls away the second you get close? Why he goes quiet after a great date, or suddenly needs “space” when things feel perfect? This episode is for YOU if you’ve ever caught yourself thinking: ✔ “What did I do wrong?” ✔ “Why does he shut down instead of talking about it?” ✔ “How do I make him stay… wi…

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67: Anxious Attachment: “I never feel like a priority in my relationship” DO THIS 25:24

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If you've ever thought... “Why don’t I feel like a priority in my relationship?” “Why do I spiral the moment they cancel plans or go quiet?” “Why is my Avoidant Attached partner always me feel I don't matter..” Then this episode is for you: In today’s deep-dive, I break down: ✶ Why your brain + nervous system are constantly scanning for signs you d…

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66: Why am I Anxious in my relationship + Dysregulated EVEN though I’ve Done the Work? 21:11

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3-min Attachment Quiz, to KNOW your attachment with certainty: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz You’ve done everything to feel better in your relationship, right? ✅ You journal. ✅ You listen to nervous system experts. ✅ You know you're anxiously attached. ✅ You meditate, you breathe, you even go to therapy or coaching... An…

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65: (5 sneaky) phrases I BANNED from my vocabulary while healing my anxious ATTACHMENT and becoming SECURELY attached 13:26

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NEW OFFER Monthly 1:1 Coaching (2x Calls a month) https://tr.ee/PInPmy “5 Phrases I BANNED from My Vocabulary While Healing Anxious Attachment 🧠✨ (And What I Say Instead Now as a Secure Partner)” Ever said “He makes me feel anxious” or “They NEVER show up for me”? Yep... me too 🖤 But once I started healing my anxious attachment, I realized somethin…

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64: How to Process Emotions in a Healthy Way (In Just 90 Seconds) ✨ Stop Letting Anxiety Control Your Relationship 23:05

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Free Attachment Style Quiz: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz If you struggle with anxiety in relationships... If your emotions feel like they’re too much... If you overthink, spiral, or shut down when you're triggered... This episode is for you 🖤 You’ll learn a simple, science-backed 3-step formula to process emotions in a …

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63: The Body Keeps the Score Summary + Anxious Attachment: Healing Your Nervous System 28:49

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Have you ever thought… “I know my partner loves me, so why do I still spiral over a delayed text?” “Why does my body feel like it’s under attack - even when nothing’s wrong?” Or why can't I feel calm when Im telling myself to calm down? In this episode, I’m sharing something that changed the way I see my own anxiety..and my body. The Body Keeps the…

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62: Q+A Series 3: Can anxious and avoidant relationships work? How to break the anxious avoidant cycle 26:51

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I remember one night… I was crying. Not loudly. Just quietly. Silently. And he didn’t even look up. I didn’t need him to fix it. I just needed him to care. To ask. To hold me. To see me. But instead.. I felt invisible. Like I was too sensitive… or just not enough to be comforted. That moment? It stuck with me. Not because of what he did — but becau…

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61:Q+A Series: How I healed my Anxious attachment & Why its Easier than you think Part 02 32:52

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3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz 🖤 Attachment LIBRARY: FREE Attachment LIBRARY (worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach 🖤 1:1 Support + Courses: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach I used to think healing anxious attachment would take YE…

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60: Q+A Series: How attachment theory changed my relationship + life: From breakdown to Breakthrough Part 01 48:37

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🖤 3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz 🖤 Attachment LIBRARY: FREE Attachment LIBRARY (worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach 🖤 1:1 Support + Courses: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach I once threw a remote across the room. 😮‍💨 I’m not pro…

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59: the ONE thing you're doing WRONG if you have an anxious attachment (and what works better with the avoidant partner) 20:52

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If you’re anxiously attached and feel like you’re RUINING every good relationship... this episode might just be your wake-up call 🖤 Do you chase closeness when your partner pulls away? 🖤 Do you try to FIX the disconnection… by doing MORE? 🖤 Do you spiral in your head wondering “Did I say something wrong?” 🖤 Are you exhausted from overgiving, overth…

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58: Anxious Attachment Q+A: How to Stop Overthinking and Ruining a Good Relationship - 4 Steps 37:13

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Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety ✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached Are you with someone GOOD…but you can’t stop overthinking, spiraling,…

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57: How to soothe your ANXIETY with 💛✨the 3 Course DOPAMINE Menu (30+ ideas)) 30:35

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Here are Dopamine Menu Ideas That ACTUALLY Work For Anxious Attachment ✨💛 Your dopamine menu is EVERYTHING if you have an anxious attachment style Why? Because it helps you stop chasing those quick emotional hits from your partner. You’ll stop needing constant texting, reassurance, or obsessing over every little thing 💭📱 Even that urge to stalk you…

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56. (15 STEPS) How to Fix an Anxious-Avoidant Relationship - the pyramid method 29:48

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Are you stuck on the anxious‑avoidant relationship rollercoaster? Feeling like every conversation ends in confusion, distance, or chasing? In this episode of the Anxious to Secure podcast, you'll learn how to fix an Anxious‑Avoidant Relationship in 15 Steps. I’m breaking down a powerful 15‑step pyramid framework from the five BIGGEST mistakes that …

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55: You DON'T want A Secure Partner and Relationship...You want THIS: 28:31

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You don’t actually want a relationship. Not really. Not in the way you think. You don’t want someone just to text you good morning… or cuddle you at night… or talk about the future 🛏📱💍 You think that’s the dream. But underneath all of it? You’re chasing a very different outcome - one you don’t always realize. You want to finally feel SAFE. You want…

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54: Listen BEFORE you BREAK UP with Your Avoidant Partner - 5 Reasons You Can’t Find a Secure Partner 36:20

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🖤 3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz "Why can't I find a secure partner?" Let me share with you 5 reasons why... Ever wondered why the “safe” ones feel boring... or why you keep falling for hot/cold dynamics that leave you spiralling? You're not broken. You're just wired to seek love that feel…

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53: (10 Hidden) Signs of Anxious Attachment at WORK 👩🏻‍💻(and How to Be More Secure at Work) 33:08

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Ever feel like you're walking on eggshells at work — even when no one’s mad at you? 😰 Constantly reading between the lines of Slack messages? Replaying convos in your head for hours? Avoiding conflict, hiding your voice, and lowkey doubting yourself even though you're SMART as hell? 🖤 You might be experiencing anxious attachment at work. In this ju…

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52: Avoidants DON'T Need Space... Here's What They ACTUALLY Need (This Changes Your Relationship) 36:15

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You’ve been told: “Just give them space”... But that’s NOT the whole story ✶ And if you’re anxiously attached... You’ve probably felt like giving space only makes it worse 😮‍💨 Hi, I’m Jula — anxious attachment coach + podcast host 🖤 I’ve been where you are... spiraling after “I need time” texts And what I’ve learned? It’s not about giving more spac…

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51: Psychology Based Manifestation Guide⚡How to Manifest FAST (it's not about the method) Part 2 22:06

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MYTH: Manifestation is about your vision board, your scripting journal, or how many times you say your affirmation... 👉 But here's the REAL tea: It’s not about the method - it’s about the moment. It’s about the state your body and brain are in when you're calling in what you want 🧠💭 It’s about your frequency aka your energy. Your nervous system is …

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50: Psychology Based Manifestation Guide:🔮How to actually MANIFEST healthy, secure LOVE & stop attracting emotionally unavailable partner 35:19

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Why You Keep Attracting the SAME Type of Guy (It's Not What You Think) I used to roll my eyes at manifestation until I discovered the neuroscience behind it. Turns out, you're already manifesting every single day - even when you don't believe in it. And if you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners who pull away the second you get close, …

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49: Why is my Avoidant Partner SO DEFENSIVE? 🛡 Gottman Warns: this can END Relationships 20:35

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Defensiveness KILLS relationships, not overnight but slowly. Painfully. Like emotional water damage, you don’t notice until the floor caves in. In this episode, relationship coach Jula (hi! that’s me) breaks down: ✶ Why your avoidant partner gets defensive-especially when all you want is closeness ✶ How anxious attachment can unknowingly trigger th…

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48: ✨ 10 Things I Wish I KNEW in My 20s about relationships, love, mindset, anxiety, dating (BEFORE healing my Anxious attachment) 21:38

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🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz 🎧 Listen now BEFORE you turn 30: (Or honestly… even if you’re already past it ✨ this still hits.) If you're in your 20s, anxiously attached, and OVER second-guessing yourself in relationships, friendships, or your life path ...this episode is a wake-up call 📱🖤 I’m bre…

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47: How to use CHATGPT 🤖❤️‍🩹 as THERAPIST for healing your ANXIOUS attachment with prompts 1:04:29

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STEAL MY FREE 3o+ ChatGPT Prompt PDF (for this episode) NOW: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/chatgptprompts Ready to STOP Being Controlled by Your Anxious Attachment? 🧠✨ How to Use ChatGPT as Your 24/7 AI Therapist (and finally heal those attachment wounds!) In this episode of The Anxious to Secure Podcast, I'm revealing my SECRET WEAPON that's …

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46: How to HEAL Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 STEPS) 21:03

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How to Heal Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 Steps) Feeling stuck in overthinking, overgiving, or over-controlling in your relationships? You’re not alone. This episode is for the women who feel EXHAUSTED from constantly doing, fixing, proving, and chasing... but deep down, just want to feel safe enough to soften…

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45: Do THIS When he Doesn't REPLY to Your Text - Anxious to Secure Attachment GUIDE 30:03

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🖤 WHEN HE DOESN’T TEXT BACK... (it's NOT about him. You DON'T need his reassurance.)🖤 🖤📱 ON SALE: "Stop Obsessing Over Texts in 21 Days or Less" — https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety (It's packed with tools to calm your anxious brain & Finally stop spiralling after every “seen” or emoji reply) If your stomach drops every time he leaves y…

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44: 10 ways to DECENTER men in relationships in 2025 (to Stop Chasing Male Validation and Choose YOU) 27:38

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🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach 🎙️ 10 Ways to Start Decentering Men in 2025 (To Stop Chasing Male Validation + Choose YOU) | Anxious to Secure Podcast ✨ Tired of obsessing over HIS texts, HIS moods, HIS validation? ✨ Ready to stop letting your anxious attachment call the shots? ✨ Want to feel like the main c…

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43: 10 Things I would NOT Do Anymore as the Secure, Best Version of Myself (Signs of a Secure Attachment Style) 26:33

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Ready to EXIT Your Insecure Era? 🖤✨ 10 Things I would NOT Do Anymore as the Secure, Best Version of Myself (bye bye Anxious Attachment - HELLO Secure Attachment) In this episode of The Anxious to Secure Podcast, I’m sharing the TOP 10 things I used to do when I was stuck in anxious attachment mode 😩... that I no longer do as the secure, grounded, h…

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42: How to stop NEEDING constant reassurance (how to feel certain from within) 16:19

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Do you constantly need reassurance in your relationship? Are you always seeking validation from your partner and feeling anxious when they don't respond? I get it - I used to be the same way. In this episode of the Anxious to Secure PODCAST, I'll show you how to stop needing constant reassurance and finally feel certain from WITHIN. The only, empow…

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41: GUIDE How to feel CHOSEN seen and valued in your Anxious Avoidant Relationship 22:23

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How to Feel Chosen, Seen & Valued in Your Relationship (Without Chasing or Overgiving) 🖤✨ PART 5 of the "Meet Your Relationship Needs" Series ✨🖤 If you’ve ever felt like… 🔸 You're always giving more than you receive 🔸 You're tired of feeling invisible or not good enough 🔸 You're constantly second-guessing texts, convos, and even your place in the r…

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40: 4 STEPS: How to Break the Anxious-Avoidant Trap 🔄❤️‍🩹 26:24

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🎙️ How to Break the Anxious-Avoidant Trap | Anxious to Secure in Love 🧠💬 If you feel stuck in a confusing hot-and-cold relationship dynamic, this episode is your lifeline. We’re breaking down how to break the anxious-avoidant trap—even if your avoidant partner isn’t doing the work (yet). You'll learn the exact steps to go from anxious to secure, wi…

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39: 🚩 Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? How do you know if an Avoidant likes You? 23:16

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🚩 Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? How to Know If an Avoidant Likes You | Anxious Attachment Relationship Advice Is your partner emotionally distant... or just not that into you? 😳 If you're anxiously attached, this question can spiral you FAST. 💭 “Are they avoidant and scared of intimacy—or are they just not interested?” In this episode, I'm breakin…

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38: 5 ways to 👩🏻‍🍼 STOP MOTHERING Your MAN: Your Anxious Attachment kills attraction 24:43

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📢 ON SALE 📢 🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety 🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse Stop Mothering Your Man: How Anxious Attachment Kills Attraction & How to Break Free In …

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37: How to feel 🤍 CONNECTED with your Avoidant Partner (Without Feeling Clingy) in Your Anxious Avoidant Relationship 27:40

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🤍 ON SALE: STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse 🔄 Feel like the more you reach for connection, the more your partner pulls away? Girl, same! I've been there too! In this How to Connect with Your Avoidant Partner - Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle guide, I'm…

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36: 10 Micro Habits to DETACH from YOUR need for APPROVAL to stop the endless chase of validation 34:44

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Are you tired of constantly seeking approval and validation from your partner? Yes?? Then THIS episode is for you. 10 powerful micro habits that help you detach from your need for approval and transform your anxious attachment into secure confidence. Learn practical ways to detach yourself from someone without compromising your relationship. These …

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35: (7 Ways) How to make HIM realise your WORTH + VALUE YOU again 35:02

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👩🏻‍💻📚 FREE Attachment Library: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach 💖 Are you feeling undervalued in your relationship? Discover 7 powerful ways to make him see your WORTH again (without manipulation)! This episode reveals why proving yourself never works and what actually does. 🔥 Are you... Constantly going above and beyond for his attent…

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34: How to Stop ABANDONING Yourself in a Relationship in 4 Steps (& Heal Your Anxious Attachment) 36:30

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📢 ON SALE 📢 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤 only 7 EURO. (👀 Anxious spin to Secure within) https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101 🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety 🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner https://www.the-marriage-coach.com…

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33: Identifying Your 2 Unmet Needs: The Secret to Stop Self-Sabotage (PART 02) 29:10

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FREE Discover YOUR top 2 UNMET Relationship Needs (to stop sabotage) https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs Discover Why You're Secretly Sabotaging Your Relationships Are you always in your head about your relationship? Constantly checking their texts or feeling anxious when they don't reply right away? You're not alone! This episode reveals how…

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32: Am I too needy? Healthy Needs vs. 🚩Unhealthy Needs: What's the Difference? (PART 01) 27:21

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FREE: Find your Core Unmet Relationship needs: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs Attachment Library: 25+ resources https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach HEALTHY VS UNHEALTHY NEEDS IN A RELATIONSHIP: Am I Too Needy? What's the Difference? Ever wondered "am I too needy in my relationship" or "am I asking for too much"? In this episode…

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31: 4 STEPS: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST 35:27

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🔓 4 STEPS: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST | Stop the obsession & reclaim your power 🔓 Discover how to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST through these proven 4 steps. If you're constantly obsessing over someone, checking their social media, and feeling anxious when they don't respond, this episode is for YOU. I'm …

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30: I was the 🚩RED flag in my relationship: 10 raw Lessons I Learned as an ANXIOUS Partner 24:04

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📘 GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! 🔐 Get on the waitlist (link below) for exclusive early-bird pricing! https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint 🔍 Are you struggling with relationship red flags and don't know why your relationships keep “failing” or feel unfulfilling? In this deeply personal episode, I pull back the curtains on somet…

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29: WATCH THIS before you CHASE your partner's VALIDATION: 7 Powerful Steps to STOP Being Insecure in Relationships 24:23

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Are you a CHASER and your partner is ESCAPING (= pulling away and withdrawing)? Then... WATCH THIS before you CHASE your partner's validation: 7 POWERFUL Steps to STOP Being Insecure in Relationships 🔥 Because if you need a lot of approval, validation or reassurance... then we need to talk. THIS will trigger your (Avoidant) Partner's Core wounds of…

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28: How to Stop Being JEALOUS & COMPARING Yourself (Social Media, His Ex, TV & More) Around Your AVOIDANT Partner 25:12

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Take my Free 3 MIN Attachment Style QUIZ Now. Are you struggling with relationship insecurity and worried your partner is comparing YOU to women on screen or in real life? I've got you. In this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, discover the ROOT CAUSES of jealousy and comparison that nobody talks about! Learn why you feel triggered by socia…