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92: Too much ❤️‍🔥 masculine energy? how it triggers your ANXIOUS attachment and heal

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Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs

Too Much Masculine Energy? The Hidden Link to Your ANXIOUS Attachment

You chase, they pull away.

You panic, they withdraw. It’s exhausting. 🧨

Ever catch yourself texting again even though you already asked if they’re okay?

Or over-explaining something you said just to keep them from pulling away?

Or maybe you plan three dates in one week because you’re scared they might lose interest? If any of that sounds like you… you’re not alone. And it’s not your fault.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the hidden connection between masculine and feminine energy and anxious attachment patterns the part no one talks about.

You’ll discover:

  • Why anxious attachment isn’t actually feminine energy

  • How both anxious and avoidant partners get stuck in survival masculine energy

  • The nervous system secrets behind your tiny fight-flight reactions in love

  • Practical ways to rebalance your energy so you feel safe, grounded, and fully yourself

  • Real examples for anxious women and men showing what “secure energy” really looks like

By the end, you’ll know how to:

  • Pause before reacting

  • Notice your micro-chasing behaviors

  • Reconnect with your natural energy balance

  • Break the anxious-avoidant rollercoaster for good

Stop overthinking.

Stop panicking.

Start holding space for yourself and your partner in a way that actually works.

Hit play and start seeing the hidden energy dynamics that are running your relationships and how to finally take back your calm and confidence in love. 🎧

🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

CHAPTER:

00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Energy Dynamics
02:46 What Are These Energies Really?
04:20 The big myth: feminine = anxious, masculine = avoidant
07:30 The Nervous System Connection
09:44 Finding The Perfect Balance (with the 80/20 rule)
13:58 Breaking The Cycle
14:31 How to support your Avoidant Partner
16:10 For The Anxious Attached Men
21:14 Real Transformation
22:53 5 STEP ACTION STEPS TO REBALANCE
28:21 Reminder + Summary

Listen back to EPISODE 46:

"How to Heal Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 Steps)"

Spotify: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-enxxw-18a55d4

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_uR3XhGPCJY&list=PLkaamihHgLaGB8Cui2BEQqnZDO5jK2GYf&index=41

🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY

(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)

https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach

🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

  continue reading

94 episodes

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Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs

Too Much Masculine Energy? The Hidden Link to Your ANXIOUS Attachment

You chase, they pull away.

You panic, they withdraw. It’s exhausting. 🧨

Ever catch yourself texting again even though you already asked if they’re okay?

Or over-explaining something you said just to keep them from pulling away?

Or maybe you plan three dates in one week because you’re scared they might lose interest? If any of that sounds like you… you’re not alone. And it’s not your fault.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the hidden connection between masculine and feminine energy and anxious attachment patterns the part no one talks about.

You’ll discover:

  • Why anxious attachment isn’t actually feminine energy

  • How both anxious and avoidant partners get stuck in survival masculine energy

  • The nervous system secrets behind your tiny fight-flight reactions in love

  • Practical ways to rebalance your energy so you feel safe, grounded, and fully yourself

  • Real examples for anxious women and men showing what “secure energy” really looks like

By the end, you’ll know how to:

  • Pause before reacting

  • Notice your micro-chasing behaviors

  • Reconnect with your natural energy balance

  • Break the anxious-avoidant rollercoaster for good

Stop overthinking.

Stop panicking.

Start holding space for yourself and your partner in a way that actually works.

Hit play and start seeing the hidden energy dynamics that are running your relationships and how to finally take back your calm and confidence in love. 🎧

🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

CHAPTER:

00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Energy Dynamics
02:46 What Are These Energies Really?
04:20 The big myth: feminine = anxious, masculine = avoidant
07:30 The Nervous System Connection
09:44 Finding The Perfect Balance (with the 80/20 rule)
13:58 Breaking The Cycle
14:31 How to support your Avoidant Partner
16:10 For The Anxious Attached Men
21:14 Real Transformation
22:53 5 STEP ACTION STEPS TO REBALANCE
28:21 Reminder + Summary

Listen back to EPISODE 46:

"How to Heal Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 Steps)"

Spotify: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-enxxw-18a55d4

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_uR3XhGPCJY&list=PLkaamihHgLaGB8Cui2BEQqnZDO5jK2GYf&index=41

🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY

(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)

https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach

🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

  continue reading

94 episodes

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