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75: *6 LIES* your brain tells you when you’re Anxiously Attached (and how THIS sabotages your Relationships without you realizing)

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Ever spiral after a text delay?
Feel rejected by a vibe shift?
Think “this ALWAYS happens” - even if it’s just once?

That’s not you being “crazy” or “too much.”
It’s your brain running on ✨anxious survival mode✨ whispering LIES it thinks will protect you 😳

In this episode, we’re calling out the 6 BIGGEST cognitive distortions your anxious brain tells you when it feels unsafe - and giving them a loving reality check

You’ll learn:

🧠 Why “I feel it, so it must be true” is NOT the whole truth
🪫 The sneaky spiral of catastrophizing (aka “it’s over” after a 3-hour text delay)
🧨 How “mind reading” + “shoulds” quietly sabotage your connection
🪞 Why your brain blames YOU (or them) and what to do instead
💬 Powerful coaching questions to interrupt spirals in the moment
📝 A 7-day challenge to start REWIRING your inner stories + get real results

Want more support?

➞ Monthly Text + Talk Support 📲 🖤

(daily coaching, check-ins + reassurance and becoming secure, text by text, commitment free support, cancel any month)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

➞ Monthly Coaching Calls 📞🖤

(2x calls a month or unlimited calls + text support to help you become secure)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/oneononecoachingsubscription

➞ SHOP:

https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

COURSES 👩🏻‍💻📓✍🏻(for little money)

➞ How to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship with Your Avoidant Attached Partner in 4 Steps

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

➞ How to Stop OBSESSING over your text in 21 days or less (did they reply? why haven’t they texted yet? what did they mean only texted a thumbs up?)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

Grab more FREE resources:

ALL: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach

Like….

CHAPTERS:

00:00 6 LIES Your Brain Tells You When You’re Anxiously Attached
01:44 01 Emotional Reasoning
03:43 O2 Overgeneralization
06:28 03 Should Statements
08:34 04 Labeling and Blaming
10:11 05 Mind Reading
12:49 06 Catastrophizing
15:05 Challenging Cognitive Distortions to feel less anxious
15:53 Cognitive Distortion Exercise for 7 days

This episode will help you stop believing everything your anxious mind says
So you can:
➞ Create more emotional safety
➞ Stop the spiral before it ruins your connection
➞ Trust yourself again

PS: Awareness is powerful…
But action = real transformation

▶️ Listen in now to spot your anxious brain’s biggest tricks — and rewrite them
Your future secure self is already PROUD of you

Ready to stop spiraling, chasing, and questioning your worth in love?

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

  continue reading

79 episodes

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Content provided by Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

Ever spiral after a text delay?
Feel rejected by a vibe shift?
Think “this ALWAYS happens” - even if it’s just once?

That’s not you being “crazy” or “too much.”
It’s your brain running on ✨anxious survival mode✨ whispering LIES it thinks will protect you 😳

In this episode, we’re calling out the 6 BIGGEST cognitive distortions your anxious brain tells you when it feels unsafe - and giving them a loving reality check

You’ll learn:

🧠 Why “I feel it, so it must be true” is NOT the whole truth
🪫 The sneaky spiral of catastrophizing (aka “it’s over” after a 3-hour text delay)
🧨 How “mind reading” + “shoulds” quietly sabotage your connection
🪞 Why your brain blames YOU (or them) and what to do instead
💬 Powerful coaching questions to interrupt spirals in the moment
📝 A 7-day challenge to start REWIRING your inner stories + get real results

Want more support?

➞ Monthly Text + Talk Support 📲 🖤

(daily coaching, check-ins + reassurance and becoming secure, text by text, commitment free support, cancel any month)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

➞ Monthly Coaching Calls 📞🖤

(2x calls a month or unlimited calls + text support to help you become secure)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/oneononecoachingsubscription

➞ SHOP:

https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

COURSES 👩🏻‍💻📓✍🏻(for little money)

➞ How to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship with Your Avoidant Attached Partner in 4 Steps

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

➞ How to Stop OBSESSING over your text in 21 days or less (did they reply? why haven’t they texted yet? what did they mean only texted a thumbs up?)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

Grab more FREE resources:

ALL: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach

Like….

CHAPTERS:

00:00 6 LIES Your Brain Tells You When You’re Anxiously Attached
01:44 01 Emotional Reasoning
03:43 O2 Overgeneralization
06:28 03 Should Statements
08:34 04 Labeling and Blaming
10:11 05 Mind Reading
12:49 06 Catastrophizing
15:05 Challenging Cognitive Distortions to feel less anxious
15:53 Cognitive Distortion Exercise for 7 days

This episode will help you stop believing everything your anxious mind says
So you can:
➞ Create more emotional safety
➞ Stop the spiral before it ruins your connection
➞ Trust yourself again

PS: Awareness is powerful…
But action = real transformation

▶️ Listen in now to spot your anxious brain’s biggest tricks — and rewrite them
Your future secure self is already PROUD of you

Ready to stop spiraling, chasing, and questioning your worth in love?

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

  continue reading

79 episodes

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