If your breakup feels like the end of the world 🌪
If your chest physically aches…
If your brain knows it’s over but your body is still begging for one more text…
This episode is for you 🖤

I’m walking you through 10 steps to emotionally detach from your ex - in a way that feels safe, slow, and actually doable when you're stuck in the spiral.

Because detachment isn’t about going numb.
It’s not about deleting your feelings or pretending you’re over it.
It’s about coming back to yourself with softness, safety, and self-trust.

I’ll show you how to:

✨ Stop retraumatizing your nervous system
✨ Grieve not just the person — but the future you imagined
✨ Break the addictive loop of checking their profile or rereading texts
✨ Shift the emotional “hook” that’s keeping you stuck
✨ Replace their role in your body with safety YOU create

And most of all I’ll help you understand why it’s so hard to let go…
Especially if you have anxious attachment, abandonment fears, or grew up needing love to feel okay.

Inside the episode, we’ll also explore:

🧠 Why your body still thinks they’re your safe person (even if your mind knows better)
🖤 How to replace those dopamine “hits” with self-regulating rituals
💭 What you’re actually missing (it’s usually not just “them”)
📱 Why muting/blocking isn’t mean it’s medicine
🌱 How to rebuild your identity when you feel like you’ve lost yourself in the relationship

This isn’t just about moving on.
It’s about healing the root — so you stop chasing, spiraling, or second-guessing your worth.

Hi, I’m Jula 🖤

I used to feel crushed by breakups. I didn’t know who I was without a relationship.
But through deep healing work... I learned how to regulate my nervous system, stop abandoning myself, and become my own safe person.

Now I help others do the same.

If you're ready to stop checking their profile and start rebuilding your sense of self…
this episode will walk you there, step by step.

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Like….

• Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ

• Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety

• ✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached

• How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

CHAPTERS:

00:00 How to Emotionally Detach from Your Ex (Girlfriend / Boyfriend / Partner) in 10 Steps
00:27 What is emotional detachment?
02:17 The 10 Steps to Emotionally Detach from your Ex
02:27 1. Tell the TRUTH: They are not your safe person anymore
04:19 2. Grieve the LOSS - not just the person
05:53 3. Cut the cord - physically, digitally, and emotionally
10:58 4. Shift the HOOK: “What are you actually missing?”
16:41 (How to work with me 1:1 and create security from within YOU)
19:13 5. NAME your core wound - it’s not about THEM
22:24 6. Build micro-trust with your body + break the addiction routine
24:32 7. Rebuild IDENTITY outside of them
27:25 8. Grieve the fantasy - not just the person
29:28 9. Practice REJECTION Reframes
30:59 Bonus Exercise
32:13 10. Visualize your secure self

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.