Best TWFO Couple Matt & Paige Robinson Podcasts (2025)

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#272 - Mindset Monday: Holiday Relapses, Boundaries, Mourning, and Hope 1:16:45

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this Mindset Monday, Matt gets real about why the holidays are a pressure cooker for people in recovery and for the families who love them. He shares hard personal memories from his last Christmas in active addiction and his first Christmas sober, and breaks down the three stages of relapse, emotional, mental…

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#271 - Anger Part 1: What Your Anger Is Trying To Tell You In Active Addiction 1:10:17

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this first episode of our three part anger series, we talk about what anger really is when you are still with someone in active addiction or someone sober, but unhealed. Anger is not a flaw to fix or a sign that you are the problem. It is a mobilizing, revolutionary emotion that is trying to tell you that you…

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#270 - Mindset Monday: Questions Men Secretly Ask 45:48

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this Mindset Monday, Matt sits down with the questions men usually ask in private. These are the messages he gets from guys in crisis who are trying to get sober, repair their marriage, and figure out what it actually means to be a good man. We'll go rapid fire through questions like: • “Why do I have to be t…

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#269 - Paige's Perspective: Survival Mode Isn’t a Free Pass: It’s a Challenge 8:49

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this Paige’s Perspective, I talk about something I see online all the time. There is a lot of content that normalizes staying stuck. People laugh about being overwhelmed or blame survival mode for how they treat others, and it removes the accountability that actually creates change. I share my own experience …

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#268 - Mindset Monday: Scared of Failing or Scared of Succeeding 47:13

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode Matt breaks down why people struggling with addiction and people in relationships with addicts keep their standards low and stay stuck in the same cycles. He explains why so many men fear success more than failure, why sobriety feels terrifying even when you know you can do it, and how comfort be…

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#267 - The Truth About Trauma No One Wants to Say 1:11:46

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! We live in a world that is obsessed with asking, “Why am I like this?” and “Why are they like this?” Trauma, childhood wounds, addiction, nervous systems, attachment. All important pieces of the puzzle. But at some point, just understanding the why stops moving your life forward. It can quietly turn into a hall …

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#266 - Paige's Perspective: How to Feel Alive Again 8:26

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! If you’ve been stuck in your head replaying old memories, planning out future disasters, or living on autopilot, this one’s for you. This week I sat down at my drum set and, for the first time in a while, felt my brain quiet down and my body wake up. It reminded me how powerful presence really is. In this short …

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#265 - TWFO Classic: You Can Do Hard Things 1:20:21

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Replay. Originally aired in July 2024. We’re bringing this back because the tools here (resilience, boundaries, timelines, and real talk about equal partnership) stay relevant. This is an episode designed more like a charcuterie board than a main course. We discuss Independently Strong because we don't think we'…

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#264 - From Flaw to Feature: The Truth About Addictive Traits 54:08

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Addictive traits aren't bugs, they're features. When I first got sober, I was terrified I’d become boring. No more adrenaline. No more chaos. Just… normal life.I thought I’d be the “square dad” mowing the lawn in tucked-in polos while everyone else was still out living. What I learned was the opposite. Addiction…

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#263 - Paige's Perspective: Why Not Me: The Question That Changed Everything 8:57

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Paige opens up about one of the most powerful questions she’s ever asked herself: “Why not me?” In this raw and empowering episode, she shares how that simple question pulled her out of self-doubt and helped her become the woman she never thought she could be. A leader. A podcaster. A motivator. Someone who keep…

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#262 - Are You Coping or Are You Healing? 1:10:28

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, Matt and Paige take a deep dive into the difference between coping and healing. From self-care routines to emotional boundaries, they explore how coping can be both a bridge and a trap—necessary for survival but not meant to last forever. They share personal stories about burnout, triggers, and …

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# 261 - Mindset Monday: Rehab Q&A; Thoughts on Treatment 1:04:35

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Rehab is a reset, not a miracle. In this straight talk Q&A, Matt answers the questions we hear most from spouses, partners, and people heading to treatment. What actually happens day to day, how detox works, why some centers involve family and others do not, what to expect while they are inside, what to plan for…

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#260 - Paige's Perspective: How We Misuse Recovery Language (and What to Do Instead) 9:54

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, Paige gets real about something she’s noticed in the healing and recovery space: the temptation to use growth language as a weapon. When we finally find words for our pain, it can feel powerful; but if we start using those words to shame, prove, or control others, we’ve missed the point. Paige u…

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#259 - Separate the Behaviors from the Addiction 1:14:28

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This week we’re taking a short break from recording and revisiting a powerful episodes from mid 2024, Separate the Behaviors from the Addiction. How much should you focus on the substance? To what degree is the substance responsible for someone's behavior? Is it easier to forgive someone's bad behavior because t…

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#258 - Guys, Let's Start Talking 1:21:23

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This one’s for both sides of the table - the person who’s sober but still hiding, and the partner who’s done begging for honesty. If you’re trying to rebuild, this is how we did it. If you’ve already walked away, this may remind you why you made that choice. I break down what it actually took to open up, how we …

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#257 - Paige's Perspective: The Healing Swing No One Talks About 16:21

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week’s Paige’s Perspective, I’m talking about something most people don’t discuss enough: the pendulum swing in healing. It’s that moment when you go from being quiet and careful to suddenly not caring what anyone thinks. You’ve spent years shrinking yourself to stay safe, so when your voice finally retu…

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#256 - The Rest vs Grind Episode 1:02:38

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Burnout anyone? Whether it's recovery and healing burnout, work burnout, health and fitness burnout, or flat-out-burned out burnout Let's compare two honest approaches to stress and growth. One of us has lived by all gas, no brakes. The other knows when to pause and protect their nervous system. Both of us hit b…

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#255 - Mindset Monday: Reigniting Your Fire After Burnout 56:51

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Have you hit a wall lately and wondered if it’s time to walk away? Whether it's your recovery, a relationship, a job, or something that one held deep meaning to you...we get tired. I just went through this...In this mindset Monday Matt talks about what burnout really is, why motivation fades, and how to keep mov…

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#254 - Paige's Perspective: You’re Allowed to Pause 11:09

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This week on Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about what it really means to take a breather in your healing. Sometimes it feels like you’re doing everything “right,” from therapy and journaling to podcasts and growth work, and you still hit a wall. You’ll learn how to recognize when you’re overwhelmed, the dif…

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#253 - Betrayal Trauma 1:14:48

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! We’re taking a short break from recording and re-releasing a powerful episode — Betrayal Trauma. This conversation was originally recorded in 2024, and while our language and understanding have evolved since then, the message still holds true. If you’re new here, this is one of the episodes that helped so many p…

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#252 - Paige's Perspective: When “Just Stay Positive” Stops Working 14:08

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m breaking down the difference between toxic positivity and the power of pivoting. We’ll talk about how social media, family, and even traditional recovery spaces sometimes weaponize positivity to silence your pain, and how serenity has been mistaken for emotional shutdo…

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#251 - Why “One Day at a Time” Isn’t What You Think 1:10:37

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! “What if” feeds anxiety. “Even if” builds a plan. In this episode we unpack what “one day at a time” actually looks like for both spouses and people in recovery. We break down how to use it as a call to action instead of a reason to wait it out. You’ll learn how to swap future-tripping for present-focused steps,…

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#250 - Mindset Monday: Shame 1:16:12

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Shame can keep you stuck in self-judgment or help you grow, depending on what you do with it. In this Mindset Monday, Matt talks about what shame really is, where it comes from, and how to move through it without collapsing or running from it. You’ll learn how to handle the first wave of emotion when it hits, re…

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#249 - Paige's Perspective: You’re Not Overreacting: Why We Minimize Instead of Catastrophize 12:29

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Many spouses believe they’re catastrophizing — blowing things out of proportion, imagining the worst — when in reality, they’re minimizing. In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we explore how minimization shows up as a survival strategy, how addicted partners manipulate us into shrinking the truth, and how so…

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#248 - Is What They Say When They’re Drunk True? 1:04:04

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! You’ve probably heard the saying, “A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts” But is that really true? In this episode, we break down drunken honesty and get real about what alcohol does (and doesn’t) change. From the science of lowered inhibitions to the deeper beliefs and resentments that surface when the…

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#247 - Mindset Monday: Living Amends Aren't Enough 1:18:52

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this Mindset Monday, Matt tackles a listener’s question about “living amends” - why they’re often a cop-out in recovery and never enough to repair a relationship. He breaks down why true amends require naming the harm, validating the pain, and offering repair, and why skipping this step leaves partners carryi…

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#246 - Paige's Perspective: Turning Guilt Into Growth 10:33

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about the power of change and choices. How many times have you thought, “I’ve messed up. I’ll never change. I’ll never be enough”? Maybe it was after snapping at your kids, numbing out with your phone, or slipping back into an old pattern. One bad moment does…

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#245 - Parenting Through Triggers; When Your Kids Act Like Your Spouse 1:16:45

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! When your child’s tone, excuses, or sneaky moments feel eerily familiar, it can trigger real fear - are we replaying my partner’s behaviors? In this episode, we unpack the difference between normal child development and harmful adult patterns. We dig into nature vs. nurture (genes load the gun; environment pulls…

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#244 - Mindset Monday: The Myth of the “Good Dad” 1:20:44

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! We’ve all heard it: “At least he’s a good dad.” It sounds comforting, but it’s often a cover for hard truths. In this Mindset Monday, we dig deep into what fatherhood really means - and why showing up at games, birthday parties, or posting highlight-reel moments doesn’t make the cut. You cannot be a bad husband …

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#243 - Paige's Perspective: Not All Stress Is Bad - How to Spot What Builds You vs. What Breaks You 18:45

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I break down the difference between eustress (productive stress that builds resilience) and unsafe stress (toxic, chronic stress that erodes your health and peace). We’ll explore why your body often confuses the two, how adrenaline and cortisol show up in both, and the key…

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#242 - How To Support Someone In Recovery 1:25:39

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! “How do I support their recovery?” is probably the most common question families ask in addiction recovery, but the answers they get are often vague, contradictory, and unfair. In this episode, we unpack what treatment centers hand out to families, why so much of it is confusing, and what support really means. W…

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#241 - Mindset Monday: Values Over Moods 1:00:25

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Emotional intelligence is not soft. It is how you stop letting feelings run the show and start letting values drive your choices. In this Mindset Monday I break down what emotional intelligence really is, why it decides the quality of your marriage, fatherhood, and career, and how to build it with simple daily r…

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#240 - Paige's Perspective: The Truth Behind Your Triggers 12:08

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this Paige’s Perspective, we get honest about triggers; the sounds, smells, and behaviors that send spouses of addicts into panic. Too often, these reactions are dismissed as character defects or controlling behavior. The truth? Triggers are trauma responses. They’re alarms your body sets off when safety is m…

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#239 - Partners Are Not Collateral 1:06:05

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Spouses are told to learn the addict, but who teaches the addict what their choices did to the spouse’s brain, safety, and sense of self? In this conversation, Matt and Paige build on Paige’s recent mini episode to name the gap in traditional recovery. We break down why amends without education fall short, how b…

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#238 - Mindset Monday: Patterns Don't Lie 55:44

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Our brains love comfort, routine, and the familiar - even when the familiar keeps us stuck. In this Mindset Monday, Matt breaks down pattern recognition: why we miss our own loops, how denial and rationalization create blind spots, and how simply naming the pattern turns “I’m stuck” into something you can actual…

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#237 - Paige's Perspective: Why Spouses Deserve More Than Addiction Education 14:15

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I dig into a powerful comment from one of our listeners: “As the spouse, I’m basically told to become an expert on their addiction, yet they don’t have to become an expert on my trauma.” This one line exposes the imbalance in the recovery world. Spouses are often told to g…

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#236 - Resentment and Forgiveness 1:08:59

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Matt and Paige pull the lid off a loaded topic: resentment. You’ve been told to “let it go,” to forgive, to be grateful - but what if your resentment isn’t a defect...what if it’s a warning? In this conversation, we separate toxic positivity from real safety, show how resentment protects you in unhealthy dynamic…

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#235 - Mindset Monday: The Sunk Cost Trap 38:32

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! We’ve all said it: “I can’t walk away, I’ve already put too much in.” That’s the sunk cost fallacy talking. In this episode, Matt breaks down why we stay in jobs, relationships, and habits that don’t serve us, and the five psychological traps that keep us stuck. More importantly, we'll share practical ways to st…

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#234 - Paige's Perspective: Boundaries Aren’t About Them 12:13

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, Paige talks about the difference between boundaries and expectations, how to shift your language so boundaries feel empowering instead of exhausting, and why they’re less about fairness and more about safety. Boundaries are the rules you live by — not rules for anyone else. If you’ve ever strugg…

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#233 - Should I Stay or Should I Go? How to Finally Know for Yourself 1:02:17

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! “Should I stay or should I go?” It’s the question every spouse of an addict whispers in the dark, and the one that can paralyze you with fear, guilt, and hope. It's the question with no clear answer. It's not "leave" or "run" or any other number of invalidating things you've heard...it's also not "stay no matter…

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#232 - Mindset Monday: How to Be Sober in a World Obsessed With Alcohol 1:24:57

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Getting sober is one thing. Staying sober - living sober in a world where alcohol is everywhere - is another challenge entirely. In this episode of Mindset Monday, Matt dives into what it really looks like to be sober day-to-day, from battling boredom and navigating social situations to understanding the brain s…

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#231 - Paige's Perspective: Why the “Codependent” Label Gets It Wrong 16:59

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m breaking down the truth about betrayal trauma — and why it’s so much more than cheating. From financial betrayal to chronic lies, gaslighting, broken promises, and crossed boundaries, betrayal in a relationship takes many forms and leaves deep wounds. Too often, betray…

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#230 - Beyond Sobriety: The Real Checklist for Change 1:13:55

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Sobriety alone doesn’t prove someone has changed. Real recovery is measured in behavior - respect, honesty, accountability, and humility - not just the absence of a substance. In this episode, Matt breaks down Lundy Bancroft’s Checklist for Assessing Change and adapts it to the realities of addiction recovery. Y…

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#229 - Mindset Monday: Imperfect Action Beats Perfect Conditions 40:36

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This week on Mindset Monday, Matt takes on one of the biggest traps we fall into—waiting for the “right time.” Whether it’s getting sober, leaving a toxic relationship, or simply taking the next step toward the life you want, we convince ourselves that better conditions will magically arrive to make change easie…

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#228 - Paige's Perspective: Why I Don’t Like Talking About Addiction 11:25

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I share why I don’t like talking about addiction — and why I believe it’s often just a convenient cover for behaviors that need to be addressed no matter what. Too often we focus on understanding addiction, thinking it will give us the answers we need to heal, when the tru…

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#227 - The Most Asked Questions Wives Have for Us – Part 2 1:18:40

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this follow-up to one of our most popular episodes, Matt dives deeper into the questions wives, girlfriends, and partners send in about men, addiction, recovery, and relationships. From understanding why logic rarely works with someone in active addiction, to how appreciation, boundaries, and emotional suppor…

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#226 - Mindset Monday: Five Skills Every Guy Must Master 1:15:56

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this Mindset Monday, Matt takes men beyond sobriety into the deeper work that actually rebuilds trust and creates lasting change. Drawing from his own journey of repairing his marriage after a decade of addiction, he unpacks the five components of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-regulation, socia…

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#225 - Paige's Perspective: It Didn’t Happen to Me, It Happened for Me 12:21

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week’s episode of Paige’s Perspective, I unpack a quote from Ted Lasso that stopped me in my tracks: “This didn’t happen to me; it happened for me.” I talk about what it’s like to sit with anger, resentment, and grief (even after years of healing) and why it’s okay to not be grateful for the pain itself,…

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#224 - The Most Asked Questions Wives Have for US - Answered Honestly 1:17:51

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! If you’ve ever wanted to understand what was actually going on in my head when I was lying, numbing, and pretending to change, this is the episode to save or reference back to. I'm not an authority on all of the questions you may have about your addicted loved one, but I've been through it myself and walked thro…

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#223 - Mindset Monday: The Cost of Staying the Same & Why Change Feels Like Death Before It Feels Like Freedom 1:06:30

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This episode is for the man standing at the crossroads, the one who knows the truth but hasn’t taken action yet. The one who’s tired of lying to everyone, especially himself. Matt gets brutally honest about what it really takes to change...not just to get sober, but to become the kind of man you can respect. The…