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116. Who are you when the house goes quiet?

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When your children leave home, the loudest voice isn't always the one you want to hear—it's your inner critic. It whispers doubts, tells you "you shouldn't," "you can't," or "you're not enough," leaving you feeling stuck and uncertain about how to move forward. However, there's a practical, proven framework that can quiet the noise and help you reclaim your peace: Positive Intelligence (PQ).

In this episode, we sit down with coach Kevin Gazarra to demystify PQ and explore how it applies to life after the nest empties. Kevin introduces us to the Judge and its nine accomplice saboteurs—Controller, Hyper-Achiever, Restless, Stickler, Pleaser, Hyper-Vigilant, Avoider, Victim, and Hyper-Rational—that hijack our thoughts with seemingly true but unhelpful stories. He explains how these saboteurs influence our daily lives and how shifting into the Sage mindset—empathy, curiosity, creativity, and decisive action—can transform challenges into opportunities.

Highlights & Key Takeaways:

Positive Intelligence (PQ) offers a prescriptive, practical approach to mental well-being.
The Judge and its nine saboteurs undermine confidence and clarity.
Moving from threat-based thinking to Sage powers—empathy, curiosity, creativity, and decisiveness—shifts your perspective.
After caregiving and life changes, reframe your identity for reinvention instead of loss.
The Pleaser pattern can lead to burnout—setting oxygen-mask boundaries prevents that.

Join us and challenge the noisy inner critic. Map out a clear, actionable path for growth, reinvention, and community—because the person you already are has everything it takes to lead your best life.

Here's your free PQ assessment and practical next steps!

Kevin Gazzara Bio
Dr. Kevin Gazzara - CEO of Magna Leadership Solutions, Management & Leadership Expert, Executive Positive Intelligence Coach, Professor at 5 Universities, Speaker, & Author of The Leader of OZ. Kevin worked for 18 years at Intel Corporation in positions from Program and Product Management to Leadership Development. He holds a BS in Commerce and Engineering, an MBA and a Doctorate of Management in Organizational Leadership.

Find Kevin Online: Facebook, Linke

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Chapters

1. Why Your Inner Voice Blocks Joy (00:00:00)

2. What Positive Intelligence Really Is (00:00:24)

3. Reinventing Identity After Caregiving (00:04:51)

4. Sage vs Saboteurs: The Mental Model (00:08:25)

5. Meet the 10 Saboteurs (00:11:27)

6. Taming The Pleaser Without Guilt (00:19:22)

7. Practice, Neuroplasticity, and Daily Reps (00:22:35)

8. Beating Social Isolation with PQ (00:26:18)

9. A Grandparent’s Mindset Shift (00:31:05)

10. Take the Assessment and Act (00:34:50)

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