In this week’s episode, Pamela opens her heart about what it truly means to choose yourself — even when that choice goes against expectations. Inspired by her story featured in Tara Jefferson’s upcoming book Bloom How You Must, this episode is about reclaiming your peace, rewriting the rules of self-worth, and learning to bloom unapologetically in your own time and way.

Pamela shares how choosing herself first became the foundation for her personal reset — and how every woman deserves the same freedom. This is a conversation for every woman who’s ever poured into everyone else and realized she left nothing for herself.

Because choosing you isn’t selfish — it’s sacred.

Episode Breakdown

[00:00 – 04:00] — Opening Reflection: The Courage to Bloom

Pamela welcomes listeners and introduces Bloom How You Must. She shares the power behind her feature in Tara Jefferson’s new book and why blooming sometimes looks messy before it becomes beautiful.

[04:01 – 10:00] — The Turning Point: Choosing Me First

She opens up about the moment she realized she was being everything to everyone and nothing to herself — and how resetting her life began with one radical decision: choosing peace.

[10:01 – 17:00] — The Courage to Choose You

Pamela explores the bravery it takes to choose yourself when others expect you to stay the same. She reminds us that it’s not our job to carry the weight of other people’s expectations. Choosing you is not selfish — it’s necessary.

[17:01 – 22:00] — The Lesson: You Can’t Pour From an Empty Soul

She challenges the narrative that self-sacrifice equals worthiness and redefines what love looks like when it includes yourself.

[22:01 – 28:00] — The Bloom: Redefining Wholeness

Pamela shares how her own bloom now looks like peace, joy, and alignment — and offers ways for listeners to begin their own process of blooming how they must.

[28:01 – End] — Closing Reflection: Bloom Without Apology

She closes with a reminder that your bloom doesn’t need permission. You have one life — live it for you, fully and unapologetically.

Key Takeaways

• You can’t be everything to everyone and still have space to be yourself.
• Choosing yourself is not selfish — it’s courageous.
• Your peace deserves protection.
• You are allowed to evolve, even when it makes others uncomfortable.
• Blooming isn’t always pretty, but it’s always necessary.

Reflection Prompt

Where in my life have I been shrinking when I should be blooming?

Pull Quote

“Choosing you doesn’t make you selfish — it makes you whole.

Tara Pringle Jefferson's Information: https://www.tarapringlejefferson.com/

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