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The Double Standard of Assertiveness — Why Women Who Speak Up Get Labeled ‘Aggressive’ (and How to Change It)

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n this episode, we’re diving into a topic that’s both frustratingly common and crucially important for professional growth: The Double Standard of Assertiveness.

If you’ve ever spoken up at work and been called “too aggressive,” “bossy,” or “too emotional,” this conversation is for you.

We break down:

  • The psychology behind the double standard: Why assertive women are judged differently than men showing the same behavior

  • The backlash effect: Decades of research proving the penalties women face for showing leadership traits

  • The role of emotional intelligence and calm leadership: How emotional regulation can help you stay grounded and effective when speaking up

  • Real-world communication tools: Evidence-based scripts to use in meetings, negotiations, and feedback conversations

  • Systemic solutions: What organizations and allies can do to dismantle these biases and create fairer leadership pipelines

You’ll walk away with:
✅ A deeper understanding of the social psychology and bias behind the “assertiveness penalty”
Practical, evidence-based tools you can use to assert yourself with confidence and calm
✅ A renewed sense of empowerment to speak up, set boundaries, and lead — without apology

This isn’t just about individual change. It’s about structural transformation — shifting workplace cultures so that confidence and competence are celebrated equally, regardless of gender.

Assertiveness isn’t aggression.
Confidence isn’t arrogance.
Calm leadership isn’t weakness — it’s mastery.

When we learn to channel our voices with clarity and emotional intelligence, we change not just how we lead, but how leadership itself is defined.

  • Free workbook: “Reclaiming Your Inner Peace” — download it now at powerofpeacefulness.com

  • Studies by Rudman & Glick on gender backlash and agentic behavior

  • Role Congruity Theory research by Eagly & Karau

  • Frameworks on Emotional Intelligence (Salovey & Mayer) and Emotion Regulation (Gross)

🎙️ Listen now on your favorite platform!
If today’s episode resonates with you, take a moment to:
Subscribe so you never miss an episode
Leave a review to help more women find this show
Share it with a colleague or friend who needs to hear that her voice matters

✨ Until next time, take a deep breath, embrace the present moment, and keep walking your path to peace.

#womeninleadership #doublestandardofassertiveness #womenempowerment #assertiveness #leadershipdevelopment #emotionalintelligence #calmleadership #communicationbias #careeradvancement #professionalwomen #womenleaders #speakup #confidence #innerpeace #leadershipmindset #selfgrowth #workplaceequality #mindfulleadership #careerstrategy #womenwholead #powerofpeacefulness #emotionalregulation #personaldevelopment #leadershipskills #podcastforwomen

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Content provided by Sharon T McLaughlin MD FACS. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Sharon T McLaughlin MD FACS or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

n this episode, we’re diving into a topic that’s both frustratingly common and crucially important for professional growth: The Double Standard of Assertiveness.

If you’ve ever spoken up at work and been called “too aggressive,” “bossy,” or “too emotional,” this conversation is for you.

We break down:

  • The psychology behind the double standard: Why assertive women are judged differently than men showing the same behavior

  • The backlash effect: Decades of research proving the penalties women face for showing leadership traits

  • The role of emotional intelligence and calm leadership: How emotional regulation can help you stay grounded and effective when speaking up

  • Real-world communication tools: Evidence-based scripts to use in meetings, negotiations, and feedback conversations

  • Systemic solutions: What organizations and allies can do to dismantle these biases and create fairer leadership pipelines

You’ll walk away with:
✅ A deeper understanding of the social psychology and bias behind the “assertiveness penalty”
Practical, evidence-based tools you can use to assert yourself with confidence and calm
✅ A renewed sense of empowerment to speak up, set boundaries, and lead — without apology

This isn’t just about individual change. It’s about structural transformation — shifting workplace cultures so that confidence and competence are celebrated equally, regardless of gender.

Assertiveness isn’t aggression.
Confidence isn’t arrogance.
Calm leadership isn’t weakness — it’s mastery.

When we learn to channel our voices with clarity and emotional intelligence, we change not just how we lead, but how leadership itself is defined.

  • Free workbook: “Reclaiming Your Inner Peace” — download it now at powerofpeacefulness.com

  • Studies by Rudman & Glick on gender backlash and agentic behavior

  • Role Congruity Theory research by Eagly & Karau

  • Frameworks on Emotional Intelligence (Salovey & Mayer) and Emotion Regulation (Gross)

🎙️ Listen now on your favorite platform!
If today’s episode resonates with you, take a moment to:
Subscribe so you never miss an episode
Leave a review to help more women find this show
Share it with a colleague or friend who needs to hear that her voice matters

✨ Until next time, take a deep breath, embrace the present moment, and keep walking your path to peace.

#womeninleadership #doublestandardofassertiveness #womenempowerment #assertiveness #leadershipdevelopment #emotionalintelligence #calmleadership #communicationbias #careeradvancement #professionalwomen #womenleaders #speakup #confidence #innerpeace #leadershipmindset #selfgrowth #workplaceequality #mindfulleadership #careerstrategy #womenwholead #powerofpeacefulness #emotionalregulation #personaldevelopment #leadershipskills #podcastforwomen

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