Law demands all of you. Parenting does too. Why the lawyer-parent double bind makes you feel like you’re failing everywhere.

This episode unpacks why the double bind hits women lawyers who are parents especially hard, how it quietly drains your energy and joy, and why feeling stretched and guilty in every direction isn’t a personal failing. It’s the product of competing cultural scripts.

From day one, lawyers are trained to prove their worth through hours, perfection, and relentless availability. Parents (especially moms) are taught that love equals self-sacrifice. When those rules collide, the math never adds up. And for women of color, LGBTQ+ lawyers, and first-gen professionals, the bind can feel even tighter.

But here’s the truth: you’re not failing these scripts. These scripts are failing you. And because they were taught, they can be questioned and rewritten.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The two competing scripts (lawyer vs. parent) and why they collide.
• The hidden costs of “doing it all”: sleepless nights, strained relationships, and the quiet loss of joy.
• Why “balance” is a myth when both sides demand everything.
• How systemic structures, not personal weakness, create this no-win setup.
• Simple shifts that begin to bend the rules: letting one ball drop, closing the laptop earlier, saying no to what doesn’t matter.

🌱 Key takeaway: It makes sense if you're struggling with the lawyer-parent double bind. The rules were impossible from the start. Every small act of reclaiming your time, your needs, or your limits is proof that the old scripts don’t define you.

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Full Show Notes, Episode Transcript, Plus More Resources for Women in Law:
019 The Lawyer-Parent Double Bind: Why It Feels Like You’re Failing at Work and at Home
https://www.heathermillscoaching.com/blog/019-lawyer-parent-double-bind

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018 The Hidden Curriculum of Law: How We Were Trained to Ignore Ourselves
https://www.heathermillscoaching.com/blog/018-hidden-curriculum-of-law

017 Why Exhaustion Became a Badge of Honor in Law
https://www.heathermillscoaching.com/blog/017-exhaustion-as-a-badge-of-honor-in-law