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Episode 66 – From Boy to Man: Why Men Aren’t Stepping Up & How to Build Safe, Balanced Relationships with Alessandro Frosali
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🐚Topics covered
- Alessandro's personal journey to becoming a men's coach
- Why men aren't stepping up - pendulum swing from toxic to passive masculinity
- The difference between "spine" versus "heart" in men
- Cultural role models shifting from the Marlboro Man to Homer Simpson
- Creating safe spaces for men to share vulnerably
- Speaking truth without negative consequences
- The Boy to Man model - five key differences
- Men operating from boy patterns without rites of passage
- Life ship concept: mental load and shared responsibility
- Women's superior forethought abilities as natural alert systems
- The "rug" metaphor: sweeping problems under the rug
- Women's anger as signals that something needs attention
- Seeing through your partner's tone to understand care
- Discussing conflict styles proactively
- Shortening the gap between conflict and reconciliation
About Alessandro Frosali
Alessandro Frosali is a man’s coach, speaker, and retreat leader helping men break free from passive patterns and step into mature masculine leadership, especially in their relationships. Through rites of passage, coaching, and real conversation, he guides men from boy-like behaviour into grounded presence, emotional strength, and purpose-driven action.
Where to find Alessandro Frosali
📝Website: https://alessandrofrosali.com/
📸Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alessandro_frosali/
About the Host
I’m Iris Josephina, a functional hormone specialist, orthomolecular hormone coach, and entrepreneur. Through Cycle Seeds and The Inner Rhythms Podcast, I support people in reconnecting with their cyclical nature, deepening body literacy, and reclaiming hormonal harmony from a place of sovereignty and embodied knowledge. Most people know me from Instagram, where I share stories, tools, and inspiration on cyclical living, menstrual cycles, fertility, hormones, and more.
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Chapters
1. Episode 66 – From Boy to Man: Why Men Aren’t Stepping Up & How to Build Safe, Balanced Relationships with Alessandro Frosali (00:00:00)
2. Alessandro introduces himself as men's coach (00:01:04)
3. Personal story - wife's ultimatum about being more of a man (00:02:06)
4. Why men aren't stepping up - pendulum swing from spine to heart (00:04:08)
5. Cultural role models from Marlboro Man to Homer Simpson (00:05:15)
6. How men experience being told they're not stepping up (00:06:27)
7. Creating safe spaces - learning from his wife (00:08:13)
8. The transformative moment in Hamburg apartment (00:08:35)
9. Why showing vulnerability once can change everything (00:10:43)
10. Creating judgment-free spaces in relationships (00:13:06)
11. The Boy to Man model introduction (00:15:03)
12. Five boy behaviors vs man behaviors (00:16:01)
13. Rites of passage and men who "slipped through the cracks" (00:20:01)
14. The life ship concept introduction (00:22:24)
15. One ship, not two separate ships (00:23:28)
16. Mental load explained through rowing metaphor (00:24:15)
17. Both partners responsible for 50% of life ship (00:26:19)
18. You versus me thinking and feeling hard done by (00:29:09)
19. The rug metaphor - sweeping problems away (00:30:04)
20. Women as alert signals for relationship issues (00:32:47)
21. Research on women's superior forethought abilities (00:33:23)
22. Seeing through your partner's tone (00:35:27)
23. Personal example with anger and family dynamics (00:36:55)
24. Imagining wife as "angry fuzzball" to soften response (00:38:25)
25. Distinguishing your issues from your partner's issues (00:40:31)
26. Allowing partner to self-regulate without interference (00:42:08)
27. Proactive conversations about fight styles (00:44:36)
28. Setting boundaries before fights go too far (00:46:04)
29. Shortening gap between fight and reconciliation (00:47:20)
30. Where to find Alessandro's work (00:48:16)
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