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Healthy Boundaries = FREEDOM!
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Have you ever felt trapped by your own inability to say "no"? In this powerful conversation with boundaries coach Barb Nangle, we explore how setting healthy limits can transform your life from constant people-pleasing to genuine freedom.
Barb shares her remarkable personal journey that began when she invited a homeless man to stay in her home during a snowstorm – a seemingly kind gesture that quickly spiraled into feeling trapped in her own space. This crisis point led her to discover 12-step recovery programs and the profound concept of "reparenting" herself. As she explains, many of us grew up in environments where dysfunction was normalized, leaving us without models for healthy boundaries.
The conversation delves into practical strategies for developing an "inner loving parent" to counter the harsh inner critic most of us carry within. Barb introduces the transformative concept of "info, not ammo" – using self-knowledge as information for growth rather than ammunition for self-criticism. This shift from judgment to curiosity creates space for genuine healing and empowerment.
What makes this episode particularly valuable is the honest examination of how uncomfortable boundary-setting can feel initially. Many people describe feeling like they might "die" when first establishing limits, especially if they've spent a lifetime in enmeshed relationships. Yet as Barb powerfully states, "Choose your difficult – do you want difficulties to last forever and get worse over time, or do you want to go through a very difficult time for a brief period and then have healing on the other side?"
Whether you struggle with people-pleasing, feel responsible for everyone's happiness, or simply want more freedom in your relationships, this conversation offers practical wisdom for building the boundaries that will transform your life. Subscribe now and discover how emotional intelligence can become your greatest asset and key to success.
Barb's links:
Free Boundary-Building Starter Kit: boundariesstarterkit.com
podcast: fragmentedtowhole.com
https://higherpowercc.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/barbnangle/
https://www.instagram.com/higherpowercoaching/ https://www.youtube.com/@higherpowercoaching https://www.facebook.com/HigherPowerCoaching
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Chapters
1. Understanding Reparenting and Inner Critics (00:00:00)
2. Barb's Journey to Recovery (00:02:01)
3. Breaking Free from Victim Mentality (00:06:05)
4. The Boundary Building Process (00:10:01)
5. Setting Boundaries and Finding Freedom (00:18:20)
6. Final Thoughts on Enforcing Boundaries (00:36:51)
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