If you live with ADHD, autism, trauma, or the full neurospicy trio, peace isn’t always peaceful at first.
Sometimes it feels suspicious.
Sometimes it feels empty.
Sometimes it feels like something must be wrong — because nothing is wrong.

In this episode, I’m talking about the strange, uncomfortable, beautiful journey of learning to trust peace when your nervous system only trusts intensity.

We dive into:

• why “calm” can feel unsafe
• how ADHD, autism & trauma all disrupt your relationship with stillness
• the awkward stage of healing when nothing’s wrong but everything feels weird
• pattern recognition spirals (aka over-analysing EVERYTHING)
• how to stop mistaking quiet for disconnection
• how to slowly, gently, teach your body that safety is real
• and the moment you finally realise you’re not bracing anymore

This episode is honest, vulnerable, a little bit funny, and full of aha-moments if you’ve ever felt “too much,” “too alert,” or “too sensitive” in dating, love, or life.

And if peace still feels foreign to you — you’re not behind.
You’re just learning a new emotional language.

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Thank you for being here.
Thank you for healing in ways no one sees.
And thank you for choosing the calm — even when your storm feels easier.

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