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There’s a moment after chaos when everything goes quiet, and you realise you’re different.
The rush, the spark, the drama that used to feel like connection doesn’t hit the same. You start to wonder if calm can really be love.

In this episode, Ilja dives deep into rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), the intense emotional pain that comes when we perceive rejection or disconnection.
Drawing from her lived experience with ADHD, autism, and complex trauma, she explores what happens when the brain’s alarm system is always on high alert… and how it turns small moments of uncertainty into heartbreak.

You’ll hear stories of love, loss, friendship, and healing:
💔 The ache of asking for clarity from someone who isn’t ready to give it, and learning to soothe the panic instead of chasing reassurance.
💌 The heartbreak of losing a lifelong friend with no explanation, and how closure can sometimes come from writing your own ending.
🧠 The constant conversation between ADHD, autism, and trauma, one part seeking dopamine, another craving order, another just wanting safety.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt too much, loved too deeply, or carried pain that felt louder than reason.
It’s about learning to pause before reacting.
To notice the wave without drowning in it.
To stop mistaking tension for chemistry, and pain for proof.

Because when you’ve lived a life wired for survival, peace can feel like danger.
But real love, the kind that lasts, is the warmth that stays, not the fire that burns.

🌀 If you’re walking this path too, this one’s for you.
Until next spiral, stay honest, stay gentle, and keep listening for the quiet kind of love that doesn’t demand proof.

🎧 Subscribe, share, and spiral with me.

For more raw, honest takes on dating, ADHD, trauma, and being a woman on high alert — head to iljaabbattista.co.uk

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