We all tell ourselves, “I’ll be happy when…” — when the job changes, when the move happens, when life finally clicks into place. But what if you didn’t have to wait? In this episode, I share a powerful exercise to build agency, reduce anxiety, and support both mental and physical health. You’ll learn how to find meaning in the middle of uncertainty, feel grounded before the outcome arrives, and start living the life you want — right now, not “someday.”
🔑 Key Ideas
•Happiness based on future achievements keeps you stuck in dissatisfaction.
•Values, unlike goals, are ongoing directions—not destinations.
•Acting according to values (even in small ways) provides immediate fulfillment.
•Use the question “I’ll be happy when…” to uncover what truly matters most.
Timestamps:
00:30 — The “I’ll be happy when” mindset.
01:41 — What psychology research teaches about real fulfillment.
02:18 — Goals vs. values: the key difference.
03:44 — Story of Jeff: I’ll be happy when I’m rich.
06:59 — My story: I’ll be happy when I move.
11:37 — How to feel fulfillment today.
14:18 — Kindness narrative: Caring for the overlooked
For full shownotes, including resources mentioned, go to: https://www.calmyourcaveman.com/episodes/stop-postponing-happiness