Best Selfish Behavior Podcasts (2025)

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Ready to Plan Your 2026 Goals? Join me on Dec 30 or Jan 5! 2:09

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12m ago2:09

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I’m hosting a free training to help you plan your dreams for 2026 and to teach you about the four skills you need to be confident you can reach any goal. I’ll also be sharing about our signature coaching program, A Confident Life which closes just a few days after this training. There are two date options you can choose from for this call: December…

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How to Use Power in Leadership As a Tool, Not a Weapon 10:41

6h ago10:41

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The stakes for leaders today have never been higher. Power that’s applied indiscriminately can erode trust, lower morale, and damage a company’s culture. But leaders who master the art of flexible power use can navigate complex challenges with resilience and success. In this episode, we examine leadership power as a precision instrument. We explore…

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452. How to Be Decisive (Greatest Hits) 26:32

1d ago26:32

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Why is it so hard to make a decision? So many of us get stuck in a cycle of overthinking, second-guessing, or waiting for external validation before we can make a choice. So in this episode, I’m sharing why women often struggle with decisiveness and how our socialization shapes the way we approach decision-making and risk. You’ll learn why embracin…

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451. Coaching Hotline: Social Media Thoughts & Boundaries with Mom 10:18

3d ago10:18

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In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that are all too familiar if you’ve ever gotten sucked into social media comparison or felt like you’re constantly navigating emotional landmines with family. The first is about how to stop feeling awful about yourself every time you scroll through Instagram, comparing yourself …

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How to Deal with a Blame Shifter in Your Team 8:18

7d ago8:18

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Picture a product launch gone wrong, with a team scrambling to point fingers rather than solve the problem. Instead of tackling the root cause, individuals deflect responsibility to others, poisoning team morale and trust. In today’s episode, we dive into one of the most destructive patterns that can derail a team—blame shifting. We uncover why thi…

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450. How to Create Self Trust 25:39

8d ago25:39

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Most of us think self-trust means knowing we'll always make the right decision and that our future self will behave perfectly. But in this episode, you'll hear why this impossible standard actually sets you up to never trust yourself - and how that erodes both your confidence and your ability to create what you want in life. I share examples from m…

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449. Coaching Hotline: Obsessing Over Sexual & Romantic Rejections 10:52

10d ago10:52

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When you’re replaying a breakup, imagining a different version of yourself your partner might have loved more, or worrying that someone is “settling,” the problem isn’t the relationship, it’s the way your brain is using other people’s opinions to try to regulate your self-worth. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions abou…

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3 Research-Backed Ways to Design Power That Drives Performance 9:14

17d ago9:14

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George Washington shocked the world by surrendering power after winning the Revolutionary War. That single decision didn’t just define a leader; it helped shape the foundations of modern democracy. It remains a powerful example of how intentional power design, not personal ambition, builds trust and resilience in organizations. In today’s episode, …

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448. How Your Fantasy Self Can Lead You Astray 21:37

15d ago21:37

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When you imagine yourself in the future, what do you see? Are you meditating at 5 a.m. before diving into the picture-perfect morning routine? Are you living by the beach with a business that makes money while you sleep? Are you making holiday cookies with your kids without ever spilling flour all over the floor? In this episode, I'm breaking down …

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447. Coaching Hotline: Frustration with Kids, Two Flavors 10:31

17d ago10:31

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Playing with your preschooler should be fun, right? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that dig into common parenting frustrations. The first tackles how to show up authentically when your preschooler's bossiness during play triggers irritation. The second explores managing all those thoughts about how children "shoul…

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Why the Fear of Losing Power Makes Leaders Selfish (And How to Prevent It) 9:29

24d ago9:29

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When leaders feel their authority slipping, something ancient is triggered. Fear triggers an instinct not just to survive, but to protect status at all costs. In this episode, we uncover the evolutionary psychology behind power loss and explore how fear can quietly corrupt even the most principled leadership. We explore groundbreaking research show…

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446. Borrow My Thoughts For Your 2026 Goals 39:21

23d ago39:21

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If you have big goals for 2026 but no idea what thoughts your brain actually needs to think to create them, this episode will give you a much clearer map. I’m breaking down the kinds of thought patterns that keep you stuck in body insecurity, imposter syndrome, dating frustration, family tension, or money anxiety and how to use the four Confidence …

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445. Coaching Hotline: Feeling Trapped at Work & Compassion for Other People's Brains 9:02

26d ago9:02

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In this Coaching Hotline episode, you'll hear two listener questions that will feel familiar if you have ever wondered why your new thoughts seem to “stop working” or why believing you can handle future challenges feels harder than it should. I break down what is really happening underneath that experience so you can see it with a lot more clarity.…

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The Hidden Saboteur: Why Your Team Is Falling Apart and How to Fix It 8:00

1M ago8:00

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A silent saboteur can quietly dismantle team cohesion, sabotage leadership, and derail productivity without anyone realizing until it's too late. In this episode, we explore the subtle yet destructive behavior of organizational sabotage, where colleagues, bosses, or subordinates undermine others and erode trust from within. Drawing on evolutionary …

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444. Acting on Possibility & The Purpose of Goals (Confidence Compass Skill 4) 18:33

30d ago18:33

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If you could become the fullest version of yourself, what would that even look like? After coaching thousands of women for nearly a decade, I can tell you this is the real question beneath every goal, every dream, and every moment of frustration. We all want self-actualization, but most of us stay stuck not because we lack ambition, but because we …

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443. Coaching Hotline: Doing Something Bigger & A Complaining Diet 12:19

1M ago12:19

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What happens when you’re stuck between wanting more for yourself but not knowing how to get there? In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I dive into how to break free from the confusion and indecision that come with craving something bigger, but not knowing what that actually means for you. I also address the all-too-common habit of complaining and why …

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How Hard vs. Soft Power Affects Leadership Motivation and Success 8:29

1M ago8:29

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Leadership is often about influence, but how you wield power matters. In today’s episode, we explore the evolutionary psychology of leadership and the profound difference between hard and soft power, exploring how leaders can leverage their power to not only get results but also foster long-term motivation in their teams. From Florence Nightingale’…

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442. Self Belief v Self Esteem (And Which One Wins) (Confidence Compass Skill 3) 20:40

1M ago20:40

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We hear a lot about self esteem these days. Why it matters, how to get more of it, and what it means when you feel like you do not have enough. Most people think that improving their self esteem will automatically make them more confident, but to create real and lasting confidence, they are missing something essential: self belief. In this episode,…

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441. Coaching Hotline: Thoughts That Made Me My First Million & Relationship Betrayal 15:36

1M ago15:36

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When you're building a business, raising a family, or navigating relationships, those uncomfortable feelings of inadequacy, jealousy or betrayal feel like roadblocks. But what if they're actually signposts pointing you toward exactly what you need to examine? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that dig into the messy,…

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How to Stop Free Riders in Your Team (Without Confrontation or Conflict) 10:18

2M ago10:18

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Ever had a teammate show up just in time to take credit but rarely pitch in during the grind? In this episode, we confront a subtle yet corrosive leadership challenge: the piggyback rider. These are the team members who contribute little but expertly manage up, claiming wins and dodging accountability, all while morale takes a hit. We break down th…

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440. Self-Compassion Without Self-Pity (Confidence Compass Skill 2) 18:53

1M ago18:53

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Do you worry that if you practice self-compassion, you’ll stop getting things done or start letting yourself off the hook? This is a common fear, and it comes from confusing self-compassion with self-pity. In this episode, I’m teaching the second skill of the Confidence Compass: self-compassion. You’ll learn how self-pity, self-criticism, and self-…

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439. Coaching Hotline: Making Thoughts Conscious & How to Stop Being Overwhelmed 9:13

2M ago9:13

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Most of your thoughts are running on autopilot, shaping how you feel and act without you even realizing it. The good news is that you can learn to access those unconscious thoughts and bring them into your awareness, but only if you know how to look for them. This week, I’m answering two questions that get right to the heart of this work: how to un…

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Hard vs Soft Power: Are You Using the Right Power in Leadership? 8:00

2M ago8:00

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Power is a multifaceted tool in leadership, not a single monolithic force. Join me as we kick off a brand new miniseries that will dissect the nuances of power, from its evolutionary origins to its modern-day application in leadership. We begin by examining the foundational elements of power, focusing on the distinctions between hard and soft power…

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438. Creating Accurate Self-Awareness (Confidence Compass Skill 1) 17:56

2M ago17:56

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When I was in my twenties and early thirties, I thought I was deeply self-aware. I’d read the books, gone to therapy, and could explain all my patterns in perfect detail. But nothing was really changing. It wasn’t until I learned what self-awareness actually means and why understanding your story isn’t the same as understanding your mind that I fin…

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437. Coaching Hotline: Fear of Flying and Was Elizabeth Holmes Using Thought Work? 18:04

2M ago18:04

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In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two questions that get to the core of how we manage our minds. The first explores how to handle phobias, like the fear of flying, and panic attacks by changing our relationship with anxiety itself. The second dives into a meta question about thought work: could managing our thoughts turn us int…

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How to Handle a Selfish Teammate Without Creating More Conflict 10:52

2M ago10:52

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A selfish team member is a common yet tricky issue that every leader faces. When a colleague hoards resources, withholds vital information, and prioritizes personal success over collective progress, it can undermine trust, morale, and ultimately, productivity. How should you respond to such behavior and turn things around? In today’s episode, we ex…

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436. The Only Tool You Need for More Confidence in 2026: The Confidence Compass 17:52

2M ago17:52

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You’ve hit the milestones: the degree, the dream job, the relationship that looks right on paper. But no matter how much you achieve, that deep sense of confidence still feels out of reach. That isn’t because you’re missing something; it’s because we’ve all been taught to think about confidence the wrong way. Tune in this week to discover what The …

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435. Coaching Hotline: Regretting Years in Therapy & Dealing with Romantic Rejection 11:18

2M ago11:18

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You’ve done the therapy, read the books, and gained awareness, but the same anxious thoughts still run the show. This week’s Coaching Hotline episode dives into why understanding your patterns isn’t enough to change them and what’s really required to create lasting emotional shifts. I help one listener who’s been through years of therapy without re…

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Autism, Sexuality, and the Power of Neuroculture w/ Candice Christiansen (Season 2 Finale) 46:52

2M ago46:52

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In the season finale of season 2, Mike and Chaya sit down with Candice Christiansen, a leading voice at the intersection of neurodiversity, trauma, and intimacy, for a conversation that gets existential—and a little bit weird. The three explore the sacred energy of creation, the challenge of healing in a world that isn't always helpful, and what it…

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How to Build Trust as a New Leader (Without Forcing Authority) 35:02

2M ago35:02

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Today, we kick off a new series, "Mammoth Encounters," with Anton Luchner, a seasoned leader with diverse expertise ranging from business to sports. We explore leadership from a raw, real perspective as Anton shares pivotal moments in his career where he faced hidden forces, or what we call the "mammoths," shaping his decisions and actions. Anton o…

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434. What Everyone Gets Wrong About Confidence (Greatest Hits) 15:49

2M ago15:49

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Most people think confidence is just about feeling good about yourself, but that is only the beginning. In this episode, I am revisiting one of the most important concepts I have ever taught: what true confidence actually is, and what it is not. When you stop thinking of confidence as a fleeting feeling and start seeing it as a mindset and a relati…

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433. Coaching Hotline: How to Not Take On Other People’s Pain 14:59

2M ago14:59

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In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that get to the heart of managing our emotions and taking action despite resistance. The first listener struggles with guilt when their actions unintentionally cause someone they love pain. The second listener is trying to build a consistent thought work routine, but often doe…

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Montessori Magic: How Freedom-Based Learning Supports ADHD and Autistic Children w/ Rupali Sharma 47:04

2M ago47:04

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Mike and Chaya sit down with Rupali Sharma, founder and director of The T.E.C. Schools in Worcester, Massachusetts, who shares her journey from architecture to Montessori education, revealing how autonomy, observation, and child-centered learning create environments where neurodivergent children thrive without labels or limitations. We Also Cover: …

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How to Lead When One Team Member Dominates the Room 10:45

2M ago10:45

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We’ve all been there. A team meeting is derailed by one person who can’t stop talking. The “gunner” who jumps in, interrupts others, and takes over the conversation. In this episode, we explore what’s really behind that behavior and how leaders can turn it from a frustration into a strength. Through the lens of evolutionary psychology, we uncover w…

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432. Creating Self-Confidence (Greatest Hits) 23:38

2M ago23:38

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Confidence doesn’t come from promotions, degrees, or other people telling you that you’re impressive. In this episode, I revisit one of the earliest conversations on the podcast to break down the myths about where confidence comes from and why relying on external validation alone never works. You’ll learn why starting with your past accomplishments…

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431. Coaching Hotline: When To Speak Up and How 13:52

2M ago13:52

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Other people are going to make choices you don’t agree with - your partner won’t go to therapy, your family says things that clash with your values, your friends act in ways that frustrate you. The real question isn’t how to change them - it’s how you’re going to show up for yourself when faced with choices you don’t like. In this Coaching Hotline …

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One Size Fits One: Derek Crager on Diagnosis, Design, and Doing Different 48:07

3M ago48:07

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Mike and Chaya sit down with Derek Crager to discuss his journey of being late-diagnosed AuDHDer, how embracing his neurodivergence led him from the manufacturing floor to building transformative accessible AI tools for the neurodivergent community, and what it truly means to create human-centered technology that actually fits. We Also Cover: How r…

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The Ultimate Guide to Designing Effective Leadership Hierarchy 9:25

3M ago9:25

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Powerful leadership doesn’t have to mean rigid hierarchies. We wrap up our hierarchy miniseries with a practical playbook on how to design effective and scalable hierarchies that lead to success. We’ll explore lessons learned from our evolution and how to adapt traditional structures to modern leadership needs, ensuring clarity, fairness, and trans…

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430. How to Embrace Friction and Grow From It 14:13

3M ago14:13

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Friction feels annoying, stressful, and uncomfortable, but it is also where real growth happens. In this episode, I show you how to stop avoiding discomfort and start using it to build confidence, resilience, and stronger connections. You’ll learn why your brain resists effort and failure, how to reframe frustration as progress, and simple ways to …

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429. Coaching Hotline: How to Handle “Bad Behavior” From Your Partner 14:27

3M ago14:27

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We spend so much time telling ourselves how other people should act and it keeps us frustrated, anxious, and stuck. In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that expose this trap. One caller is constantly angry about her partner’s availability, the other worries that her friends aren’t putting in as much effort as he…

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How Generational Trauma Shapes Your Life w/ Anu Dayal-Gulati 44:50

3M ago44:50

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Mike and Chaya sit down with Anu Dayal-Gulati, a certified ancestral healing practitioner, to explore how inherited emotional patterns can create subconscious blocks in our lives. Anu explains how everything from our relationships to our finances can be impacted by these generational traumas, including how they can uniquely affect neurodivergent mi…

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Why Prestige Is a More Powerful Leadership Tool Than Dominance 9:43

3M ago9:43

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In this week’s episode, we explore the concept of prestige as a form of leadership influence. Unlike dominance, which compels obedience through fear, prestige attracts followership through admiration and respect. This distinction is crucial for modern leaders who wish to build lasting, trust-based influence that empowers others to excel. Through an…

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428. How to Stop Emotional Outsourcing with Bea Albina 30:40

3M ago30:40

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Ever feel like you’re constantly giving love, safety, or approval away, but never getting enough back? Today’s guest is Bea Albina, author of the brand-new book End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. We’re breaking down emotional outsourcing, the habit of looking outside yourself for …

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427. Coaching Hotline: When You're Told to "Just Get Over It" 9:27

3M ago9:27

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Ever been told to “just get over it” and felt like it made everything worse? In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I answer a listener who’s struggling with that exact phrase and the pressure to move on before they’re ready. We dig into why vague instructions like this don’t help your brain—and what actually does. I also tackle a question about imagined…

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The Art of Being Kind to Yourself w/ Diana Stelin 47:28

3M ago47:28

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Mike and Chaya sit down with Diana Stelin, an award-winning artist, educator, TEDx speaker, and founder of The Plein-Air Art Academy. Diana shares her journey and expertise on the connection between art and emotional healing, explaining how anyone can use creativity to manage burnout, connect with their intuition, and foster better confidence. We A…

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Fear vs Respect in Leadership: What Ancient China Reveals About Lasting Authority 9:34

3M ago9:34

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Throughout history, leaders have relied on fear, intimidation, and punishment to compel obedience. But does dominance actually sustain power? In today’s episode, we explore the paradox of coercive leadership: why it works in moments of crisis yet almost always collapses over time. We’ll talk about the hidden costs of fear-based leadership, why domi…

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426. Scientific Proof This Coaching Works Published in JAMA: A Conversation with Dr. Tyra Fainstad and Dr. Adrienne Mann (Greatest Hits) 41:10

3M ago41:10

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In this Greatest Hits episode, we’re diving into the science behind why coaching works—and why it can completely transform high-pressure careers. I’m revisiting my conversation with Dr. Tyra Fainstad and Dr. Adrienne Mann about their groundbreaking research, published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA), and how structured coa…

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425. Coaching Hotline: Resisting Pleasure or Not Enjoying It 10:46

3M ago10:46

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Do you ever feel like you're chasing future happiness—only to miss out on the joy of right now? That nagging feeling that you should be doing something else or preparing for what’s next keeps you stuck in a loop of dissatisfaction. In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two questions about being present and actually enjoying life, i…

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Accommodation vs. Integration: Why Your Neuro-inclusive Program Isn't Working w/ Gabriela Tardea 1:03:23

3M ago1:03:23

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Mike and Chaya sit down with neuro-inclusion consultant Gabriela Tardea to get practical about building workplaces where neurodivergent talent can thrive. From auditing culture and rewriting job descriptions to unlearning bias on teams, Gabriela breaks down how to bridge the gap between good intentions and real, embedded change. We Also Cover: Brid…

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Why Every Flat Organization Eventually Turns Into a Hierarchy When Scaling Up 10:33

3M ago10:33

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In every growing business, there comes a breaking point when the flat, egalitarian model that once fueled creativity begins to collapse under its own weight. In this episode, we explore why hierarchies emerge as organizations scale and how leaders can use them not as power plays, but as vital tools for efficiency and clarity. Through history, resea…