Stop Hiding: How to Lead with the Gifts You’ve Buried
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Ever notice how a compliment can make you want to disappear? We’ve been there. Today we unpack the quiet habit of playing small—why we downshift our wins, call it humility, and end up living like shadows in our own lives. The story starts with a raw moment on stage: hundreds of men, hard truths shared, an outpouring of gratitude, and the sudden urge to hide. From that tension comes a reframe that changes everything.
We draw a clear line between ego and ownership. Ego performs for validation and needs applause to feel worthy. Ownership is steady and factual. It says, I did the work, this is who I am, without making anyone else less. That grounded strength is magnetic. It shows up in leadership, fatherhood, partnership, and community because people trust congruence. We explore how deflecting praise erodes self-trust, why the nervous system resists being seen, and how small daily choices teach your brain whether your efforts count.
You’ll get practical tools to move from shrinking to alignment: a strengths inventory grounded in proof, asking trusted friends for honest mirrors, receiving compliments with a clean thank you, and swapping minimizing language for clear statements. We also share a weekly “ownership rep” to help you speak one truth where you’d usually soften it. The goal isn’t to be louder; it’s to be real—right-sized, not oversized. Confidence isn’t a trophy you earn later; it’s a posture you can claim now by acting in line with what’s already true.
If you’re ready to stop muting your presence and start leading from your core, press play and take the first step. Then share one strength you’ll own this week. Subscribe, leave a review so more men can find this work, and pass it to a brother who needs the reminder to stand tall.
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Chapters
1. Stop Hiding: How to Lead with the Gifts You’ve Buried (00:00:00)
2. Brotherhood Waitlist Announcement (00:00:04)
3. Naming The Habit Of Playing Small (00:00:44)
4. Deflecting Praise And Fear Of Being “Too Much” (00:02:03)
5. The Stage Story And Panic Of Being Seen (00:03:13)
6. The Hidden Cost Of Shrinking Yourself (00:06:55)
7. The Inner Child And Withholding Recognition (00:08:04)
8. Shadow Living And Disconnection (00:09:47)
9. Reframing Ego Versus Ownership (00:10:49)
10. Identifying Your Real Strengths (00:13:21)
11. Practical Exercises To Own Your Power (00:15:41)
12. Closing And Brotherhood CTA (00:18:14)
21 episodes