Being the one who “always steps up” may look like leadership on the surface - but when it’s rooted in fear, urgency, or over-responsibility, it comes with a cost. In this episode, Cara gently unpacks the hidden pattern of over-functioning and offers a grounded path back to clarity, shared ownership, and sustainable leadership.

If you’ve been carrying more than your share - quietly, automatically, and often without acknowledgment - this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we explore:

• What over-functioning actually is - and why high-capacity leaders fall into it
• The hidden emotional and systemic roots of over-responsibility
• How over-functioning affects team trust, growth, and collaboration
• The personal cost: burnout, resentment, loss of clarity, and constant urgency
• Small, sustainable ways to step back without stepping away
• How shared leadership creates stronger teams - and healthier leaders

This episode is especially for leaders who:

• Are tired from being “the reliable one”
• Struggle to delegate without guilt
• Carry more than their share at work or at home
• Worry that everything depends on them
• Feel guilty even thinking about letting go
• Know something has to change, but don’t know how to begin

Key takeaways:

• Over-functioning may feel noble, but it’s not sustainable
• Being needed is not the same as being valued
• Leadership rooted in fear or urgency isn’t leadership - it’s survival
• Shared clarity and shared ownership are essential for team growth
• You deserve a leadership experience that doesn’t drain you

If this episode felt familiar or touched something tender, you’re not alone. Many leaders carry quiet emotional weight behind the scenes. If you’re ready to shift these patterns in yourself or your team, click the “Let’s Connect” button on the Tutum Leadership Coaching website to schedule time with Cara for one-on-one coaching.

You don’t have to lead from exhaustion. Support is here.

About Tutum Talk:

Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection.

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