If you feel flat or overwhelmed even when you “should be grateful,” you’re not ungrateful. You’re depleted.

You can remind yourself you have a good job, a solid paycheck, or meaningful work. You can list all the reasons you should feel thankful. But when your system is overloaded, gratitude becomes a performance instead of a feeling. And that is where so many lawyers get stuck.

This episode of The Lawyer Burnout Solution breaks down why “I should be grateful” is often a protective thought rather than real gratitude, and how chronic stress disconnects you from your own emotional truth. This is not about mindset. It is about physiology. When your nervous system is overwhelmed, your emotional range narrows and appreciation becomes harder to access.

Heather Mills shares how moralized thinking turns normal human emotions into judgments about your character, why women lawyers experience this pattern so intensely, and how forced gratitude quietly keeps you small.

You will learn:
• Why “I should be grateful” becomes self-correction instead of support
• How depletion creates numbness that looks like ingratitude
• The difference between gratitude that expands you and gratitude that silences you
• Why women lawyers use gratitude to stay agreeable and avoid conflict
• How real gratitude returns naturally once your system has rest, safety, and space

Drawing on nervous-system science and years of coaching women attorneys, Heather explains how the Gratitude Trap forms and what it takes to reconnect with yourself without guilt or pressure.

Every time you choose honesty over self-silencing and compassion over self-judgment, you step out of the Gratitude Trap. That shift changes how you feel, how you relate to your work, and how you show up in your life.

If you’re ready to understand why gratitude has felt out of reach and what it takes to feel genuine appreciation again, this episode offers a grounded path forward.

Want more support?
Ready to move from depletion to grounded self-connection? Book a free Stress Reset Call with Heather at heathermillscoaching.com/call. Together you will look at what has been weighing on you and explore your next step toward emotional steadiness and self-trust.

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Full Show Notes, References, Episode Transcript, and More Resources for Women in Law:
029 The Gratitude Trap: Why “I Should Be Grateful” Keeps Lawyers Stuck
https://www.heathermillscoaching.com/blog/029-gratitude-trap-lawyers