In this episode of Letters from Midlife, I answer a tender question from a listener who writes, “Some days I feel calm, and other days I feel like I’m coming undone. Am I losing myself? Will I ever feel steady again?”

Together, we explore the emotional turbulence of perimenopause, the mood shifts, tears that appear out of nowhere, the foggy moments, the overwhelm, and the deep confusion about who you are becoming. This conversation unpacks what’s really happening inside the menopause brain, why emotions feel louder, and why you’re not breaking down, you’re recalibrating.
I share gentle, grounded ways to find steadiness again: slowing your inner pace, nourishing your foundations, creating emotional buffers, and remembering that waves don’t define you, they simply move through you.
If your feelings have felt too big lately, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone, and you’re not losing yourself. You’re unfolding into a wiser, more grounded chapter of who you’re becoming.
If you’d like the full written reflection, journaling prompts, and deeper guidance, you can read the full article inside The Midlife Circle on Substack.