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When does empathy become toxic? When it leads to self-abandonment.

Yes, empathy is beautiful—it helps us connect, support others, and hold space. But what happens when your empathy starts costing you your peace, self-worth, and well-being?

Join me as we explore:

• What toxic empathy is and how it differs from healthy compassion
• How people-pleasers and highly sensitive people (HSPs) often fall into this pattern
• Real-life examples of toxic empathy in romantic, platonic, and family relationships
• The shift from enabling to empowered empathy
• How to set boundaries without losing your compassion

🛑 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why understanding someone’s trauma does not justify harmful behavior
• How toxic empathy often looks like:
  • Making excuses for others
  • Self-abandonment
  • Avoiding boundaries
• Why empathy without boundaries leads to resentment and emotional burnout
• How to begin using empathy as information, not justification

🔍 Real-Life Examples Discussed:

1. The Neglectful Partner – Understanding someone’s trauma doesn't mean tolerating emotional unavailability.
2. The Flaky Friend – Compassion for someone’s anxiety shouldn’t leave you doing all the work in the friendship.
3. The Critical Parent – Empathizing with your parent’s pain doesn’t mean accepting their constant criticism.

✨ This Week’s Reflection Invitation:

Ask yourself:

• Where has my empathy crossed into enabling?
• What behavior have I been tolerating in the name of understanding?
• Am I sacrificing my needs while waiting for someone else to change?

Then take one small step:
Set a boundary.
Stop chasing.
Initiate a long-overdue conversation.
Let self-compassion lead the way. 💛

📞 Want More Support?

If you're recognizing patterns of toxic empathy in your relationships and you're ready to make a change, I’d love to support you.

✨ I'm currently offering 6-week 1:1 coaching packages where we’ll dive into your specific situation and build a more empowered, balanced way of showing up in your life and relationships.

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