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Why do caring, empathic women end up doing the heavy lifting in love, staying out of guilt and “rescuing” partners at the expense of their own needs? In this episode, Gemma unpacks the unconscious pull to fix others, how childhood patterns (self-sacrifice, subjugation, emotional deprivation) set the stage, and the real cost of over-functioning. You’ll learn how to shift from “fixer” to “feeler,” build healthy entitlement, and make self-supporting choices, even when guilt shouts loudly.
Key Takeaways
- Rescuing often masks self-abandonment learned in childhood; guilt can keep you stuck.
- “Too much empathy” without objective distance leads to empathic distress and burnout.
- Ask: Am I a partner or a parent/therapist/saviour in this dynamic?
- Build healthy entitlement: your needs matter and boundaries are an act of care.
- Shift from fixing them to feeling you: journal, re-parent, seek support, and challenge all-or-nothing beliefs.
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- “If I weren’t rescuing here, what feelings in me would surface?”
- “What belief equates caring for myself with hurting someone else?”
- “Where did I first learn that love = self-sacrifice?”
- “What would healthy reciprocity look like this week (one tangible boundary)?”
Resources Mentioned
- Free Live Masterclass (Sept 10) – The Psychology of Attraction: Why We Bond with Emotionally Unavailable Men (replay available).
- Work with Gemma – Coaching & the Love Wisely program (for women ready to rewrite their love template).
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Why do caring, empathic women end up doing the heavy lifting in love, staying out of guilt and “rescuing” partners at the expense of their own needs? In this episode, Gemma unpacks the unconscious pull to fix others, how childhood patterns (self-sacrifice, subjugation, emotional deprivation) set the stage, and the real cost of over-functioning. You’ll learn how to shift from “fixer” to “feeler,” build healthy entitlement, and make self-supporting choices, even when guilt shouts loudly.
Key Takeaways
- Rescuing often masks self-abandonment learned in childhood; guilt can keep you stuck.
- “Too much empathy” without objective distance leads to empathic distress and burnout.
- Ask: Am I a partner or a parent/therapist/saviour in this dynamic?
- Build healthy entitlement: your needs matter and boundaries are an act of care.
- Shift from fixing them to feeling you: journal, re-parent, seek support, and challenge all-or-nothing beliefs.
Try This (Journal Prompts)
- “If I weren’t rescuing here, what feelings in me would surface?”
- “What belief equates caring for myself with hurting someone else?”
- “Where did I first learn that love = self-sacrifice?”
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Resources Mentioned
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- Work with Gemma – Coaching & the Love Wisely program (for women ready to rewrite their love template).
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