You Don’t Know Me…Yet: Questions That Build Real Connection
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In this episode of Go Coach Yourself!, we do something a little different—and a lot more personal.
We each brought surprise questions the other hadn’t seen. No prep. No polish. Just curiosity. What unfolded? A conversation that deepened our connection, revealed things we hadn’t shared before, and reminded us how powerful it is to ask better questions.
Along the way, we explore:
- How a cinnamon chocolate chip cake led to a revelation about assumptions in long-term relationships
- The surprising science behind why we stop asking deep questions to those we know best
- A power outage, a peaceful plaza, and the small moment Ryan won’t forget
- The early influence of Motown, and why Whitney Houston still gets Vic dancing
- What it means to let go of a belief about success—and what opens up when we do
- Two podcast recs you’ll want to add to your queue (spoiler: they're both excellent)
We also share three practical tips for using questions to deepen your relationships—and a downloadable list of conversation starters to help you get going.
This one’s equal parts thoughtful and joyful. We hope it inspires you to pause, ask, and truly listen.
🔁 Try This: Ask one person in your life a question you’ve never asked them before. Start small. Be present. And just listen.
Tools:
- Our Question Collection – Curiosity-driven prompts to use with people in your life
References:
- Unprocessed by Lia Avellino – The raw and real podcast Vic loves
- Good Hang with Amy Poehler – Ryan’s latest podcast obsession
- It Doesn’t Hurt to Ask: Question-Asking Increases Liking | Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
- When familiarity not novelty motivates information-seeking behaviour | Scientific Reports
This links to the following episodes:
- Go Coach Yourself! Mastering the Art of Asking Questions - Meaningful Conversations Series – For a deeper dive into the mechanics of powerful questions
Hosts:
Ryan Reichert-Estes, StackRise Coaching | LinkedIn | Insta: @stackrisecoaching
Vic Smith, WhistleSmith.co | LinkedIn | Insta: @vic_bk
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