When the US Army stamps your discharge Chapter 8 and strips your benefits, it’s easy to believe your service didn’t count. Lucy wouldn’t accept that ending. She walks us through growing up in chaos, surviving assault in uniform, and carrying a story so heavy it nearly pushed her over the edge—until a clinician named PTSD and a fellow vet’s challenge rekindled her fire.
We trace the moments that changed everything: a panic attack at work that sent her to the ER, the disappearance of Vanessa Guillen that turned avoidance into action. Lucy shows how advocacy can spark policy change while quietly draining a survivor’s reserves. She speaks frankly about the Netflix spotlight, the flood of requests from other survivors, and her decision t to ask for help.
What follows is a blueprint for sustainable healing and service. Lucy returns to medication on her terms, builds daily breath work and yoga practices. Takes long walks with her husband to decompress and reconnect. She sets boundaries, practices seasonal advocacy, and reframes worth beyond a DD214. The message is clear and compassionate: give yourself grace. If you’re navigating MST, PTSD, or the invisible weight of silence, you’ll find practical tools, hard-won wisdom, and the courage to make your own pace.
Lucy is a proud United States Army Veteran and a lifelong advocate for veterans’ rights and recognition, both in New Jersey and across the country. Lucy currently serves as Program Coordinator for YWCA Northern New Jersey’s Operation Sisterhood, a comprehensive initiative designed to support women veterans as they transition from military service to civilian life. Beyond her professional roles, Lucy is a dedicated volunteer and national advocate. She works with Minority Veterans of America, The Pink Berets, and is a prominent voice in the #MeTooMilitary movement, which emerged in the wake of Specialist Vanessa Guillen’s death. Lucy testified before the House Armed Services Committee on July 29, 2020, during the landmark hearing, The Military MeToo Movement. Her advocacy was featured in the Netflix documentary “I Am Vanessa Guillen.” In recognition of her leadership and service, Lucy was appointed by VA Secretary Denis McDonough to the VA’s Workgroup on Sexual Harassment and Sexual Assault. She was also appointed by Governor Phil Murphy to the New Jersey Commission on Women Veterans. In 2024, she was inducted into the Army Women’s Foundation Hall of Fame. Lucy lives in Essex County, New Jersey, with her husband and four children and is a proud grandmother. Her life’s work continues to center on honoring and uplifting those who have served.

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If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:

• National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.org
• SAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
• 988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.org
• Veterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1
• Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/

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