I'm Toni and a certified Life Coach. Is there a major life transition benching you? Let’s create a winning game plan to move into your new adventure. Your life only seems to be over, however, there’s still time on the clock. Let’s get you off the bench to start your comeback.
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Your Struggle Is Your Proving Ground: Why God Puts Lions in Your Path
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8:15I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Have you ever felt trapped in an impossible situation with no way out? That's exactly where we find Benaiah in one of Scripture's most overlooked stories – facing a lion in a pit on a snowy day. The symbolism couldn't be clearer: a predator stronger than us, nowhere to run, and treacherous conditions maki…
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When Predictability Becomes Your Prison: Why Letting Go of the Familiar Sparks Growth
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11:08I would love to hear from you! Send a text! What happens when our love of the familiar becomes the very thing that keeps us stuck? That's the question at the heart of this deeply reflective episode on breaking free from comfort ruts. As someone who thrives on routine and predictability—"If sameness has a fan club, I'd be president and treasurer"—I'…
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I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Life transitions often force us into uninvited pauses that feel like being benched, but these pauses are actually opportunities for formation and growth. The stillness after major changes like divorce, empty nesting, or job loss isn't punishment but rather a necessary halftime that prepares us for our com…
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I would love to hear from you! Send a text! We've reached a milestone with our 100th episode, celebrating 100 weeks of showing up to share coaching, strategies, and stories about navigating life's transitions. This journey has been a joy, and I'm grateful for every listener who has allowed me to be part of their comeback story. • Understanding the …
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Nhat has issues with his buggy Madden 26 game. He gripes about Electronic Arts monopolizing video game sports. We touch a little on the passing of Mastodon’s Brent Hinds. Nhat tries to decode why he left a cryptic note for himself about a seagull stealing a sandwich until he finally […]By The Lo Fi Show
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Chalk Dust and Growing Pains: The First-Year Teaching with Andrea Ward Fernandez
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20:29I would love to hear from you! Send a text! The classroom door closes behind you. It's just you and thirty expectant faces. Your teaching degree prepared you for lesson plans and pedagogy—but did it ready you for the real-world challenges of your first year? Whether you're a brand-new educator or a seasoned veteran, this episode delivers candid ins…
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The Stories Our Scars Tell with Brittany Tinsley
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25:53I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Brittany Tinsley, author of "Stories Our Scars Tell," shares her 20-year journey through self-injury, healing, and finding purpose in her pain. This raw conversation explores how scars—both literal and metaphorical—can become powerful storytellers of hope and redemption. • Brittany explains how her strugg…
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We start talking about how much needless information TikTok feeds us. Tony keeps getting misidentified for some random person. Tony vents about his constant house remodeling. We talk about getting a massage by someone with no arms, using only their feet and also getting a pizza made by the same […]By The Lo Fi Show
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From Spain to America: One Teacher's Leap of Faith WIth Guest Andrea Ward Fernandez
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21:27I would love to hear from you! Send a text! That gentle whisper of "it's time"—have you felt it lately? That nudge toward something new, even when everything familiar feels comfortable enough? In this deeply moving conversation with Andrea Ward Fernandez, we explore the complex emotions and practical realities of knowing when it's time to move. And…
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Retiring TO Something, Not Just FROM Something
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10:14I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Ready to retire but feeling uncertain about what comes next? You're not alone. That identity crisis of "Who am I now?" hits harder than most expect when contemplating retirement. This episode dives deep into the emotional side of ending your career—something rarely discussed in traditional retirement plan…
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Codependence in Cubicles: The Loyalty Paradox
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10:35I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Have you ever found yourself questioning whether your workplace loyalty has crossed the line into simply being stuck? That gnawing feeling on Sunday nights, the constant daydreaming about being somewhere—anywhere—else, or the realization that your physical and mental health are suffering at the hands of y…
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We start off talking about the passing of Ozzy Osbourne and that conversation is littered throughout the podcast. We also play an Ozzy inspired Music and Movies game. Tony misses his chance to see Paul McCartney’s concert. Del Taco comes back to Nhat’s neighborhood, so naturally, we had to have […]By The Lo Fi Show
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The Divorce Decision: Four Questions Every Loyalist Must Answer
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9:24I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Divorce is one of the most difficult decisions a loyalist can face, especially when loyalty has crossed into codependence. I share my personal experience and four critical questions to ask yourself before making this life-altering decision. • Loyalty is noble and necessary, but becomes toxic when it binds…
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Breaking Free: When Loyalty Becomes Codependency in Relationships
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11:48I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Have you ever defended someone's behavior while secretly knowing things were exactly as bad as others suspected? That's not loyalty—that's the slippery slope into codependency. Drawing from my own painful journey, I open up about the fine line between standing by those we love and losing ourselves in the …
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Locked Away? This Isn't Timeout—It's a Divine Reset
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10:32I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Feeling stuck in a holding pattern? You're not alone. Life's major transitions—divorce, job loss, empty nesting, or losing a loved one—can plunge us into what feels like solitary confinement. Not the restful solitude we sometimes crave, but the punishing isolation that whispers lies about our worth and fu…
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Your comeback begins when you realize you're finally standing in the shallow end
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10:10I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Have you ever noticed how, after surviving a major life upheaval, you suddenly find yourself standing on solid ground—yet still bracing for waves that aren't coming? That disorienting moment marks the beginning of an unexpected freedom journey. Freedom after transition arrives quietly. After treading wate…
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Anger: Fuel for Your Comeback, Not Your Destruction
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12:08I would love to hear from you! Send a text! That simmering feeling beneath your "everything's fine" smile? It's not your enemy. Anger—especially during major life transitions like divorce, loss, retirement, or relocation—often gets a bad rap. But what if this powerful emotion could actually fuel your comeback instead of derailing it? In this episod…
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Resources for Life's Major Shifts: Books, Podcasts, and Therapy for Your Comeback
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9:16I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Transition is uncomfortable and messy, but you can navigate it with strength and clarity by using the right resources. I share my personal experience with therapy, essential books that helped me through difficult times, and recommended podcasts for those going through major life changes. • Therapy is a no…
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We start off talking about shows and the obnoxious amount of ads nowadays. Then we go into AI generated speech clips and concept movies. Nhat does a movie review for “Love Me” and Tony does one for “Other People.” Tony’s cousin wants to see Metallica, much to his chagrin. We […]By The Lo Fi Show
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Doubt Can Take a Backseat: It's Your Turn to Drive
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9:05I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Standing in my first apartment after a major life change, keys in hand, I felt completely paralyzed by fear instead of proud. Could I really take care of myself? Would the money stretch far enough? How would I handle being alone? That moment taught me something profound about doubt and how it shows up pre…
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Navigating Decision Making in the Soul Wilderness
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9:22I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Ever felt like you're wandering through a wilderness with no map, no cell service, and absolutely no clue what the future holds? That's exactly what we tackle in this raw, honest conversation about the "soul wilderness" – that gritty, confusing, heart-wrenching space where the familiar landmarks have vani…
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You Can Rise Again: Tools for Decision-Making in Times of Shock
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10:47I would love to hear from you! Send a text! The moment when life pulls the rug out from under you doesn't just bring shock—it opens the door for doubt to flood in. Whether you're facing divorce, job loss, an empty nest, or an unexpected diagnosis, that one-two punch can leave you questioning everything, even your ability to make basic decisions. Ha…
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The Empty Nest is Not the End of Your Story
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10:38I would love to hear from you! Send a text! The sudden silence of an empty nest can feel deafening. After dedicating nearly two decades to raising children, organizing schedules, and building your life around their needs, that final graduation ceremony signals a profound identity shift that few discuss openly. But what if this transition isn't an e…
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When They Fly, You Can Soar: Finding Yourself After Senior Year
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10:07I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Graduation isn't just a major life transition for our kids—it's one for parents too. When your child walks across that stage, you're not losing your purpose, you're redefining it; your identity isn't ending, it's evolving. • May brings a weird blend of adrenaline and dread for parents of graduating senior…
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Nhat comes across an item on Aliexpress that makes dubious and potentially dangerous claims. We talk about all of the local stores closing down. Tony goes to a punk show with his cousin on his California vacation. Tony runs into people who know people in the classic thrash metal scene. […]By The Lo Fi Show
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Celebrating Mothers in All Their Forms: A Special Mother's Day Reflection
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8:16I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Motherhood isn't defined by biology alone. This heartfelt episode celebrates the many faces of maternal love – from grandmothers who stepped into primary caregiver roles, to aunts who became second mothers, to neighbors who made space for struggling teens. We honor the foster moms, adoptive mothers, stepm…
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God is Still Writing Your Story When Everything Seems Lost
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9:04I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Have you ever felt like your past disqualifies you from a better future? That your mistakes have permanently set your path? Today, we're flipping the script on traditional comeback strategies to explore something far more powerful: redemption. This isn't about soft, sentimental hope. We're diving into the…
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I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Life transitions can feel like death, but they're the beginning of your comeback story—the moment everything falls apart is when transformation begins. • Standing in the middle of a life transition feels like unfamiliar ground • Transitions like divorce, job loss, retirement, or loss feel like something i…
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Navigating the Awkward Re-Entry After Major Life Changes
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11:53I would love to hear from you! Send a text! The re-entry stage following a major life transition presents unique challenges as we navigate newfound freedom and reconstruct our identity. Regardless of whether you're facing divorce, empty nesting, retirement, or loss of a spouse, this final stage of transition requires courage and self-compassion as …
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Limbo: The Prison Sentence That Eventually Sets You Free
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8:57I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Have you ever felt completely stuck between your past and your future? Welcome to limbo—the gritty wilderness of every life transition that doesn't come with a map, a timer, or an easy way out. After the initial shock of a major life change wears off—whether it's divorce, loss, career upheaval, or empty n…
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The Foggy Road Forward: Embracing Your New Reality After Life Blindsides You
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12:10I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Major life transitions can leave us in complete shock, turning our world upside down and making even simple tasks feel overwhelming. We explore how shock is actually the body's way of protecting us from processing too much pain at once and why survival mode isn't weakness but wisdom. • Three non-negotiabl…
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We discuss death and somehow end up on the subject of auto-erotic asphyxiation and the public’s need to know the gruesome details. Tony recalls a Robin Williams movie about this very subject. We come across a new suicide hotline number that appears on a sign posted in a Dunkin Donuts […]By The Lo Fi Show
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Bench Warmers Anonymous: How to Get Back in the Game
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10:48I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Building a strategic game plan for life after major transitions gives you the clarity and direction needed to move forward with purpose. Drawing from sports coaching principles, I share how creating a flexible roadmap can help you get off the bench and back into the game of life. • Major life transitions …
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Symphony of Parenting: The Emotional Cost of Leaning on Your Children During Divorce
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11:52I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Divorce creates emotional turmoil for everyone involved, but leaning on your children for support can cause lasting damage. Professional counseling is essential to navigate this difficult transition while protecting your kids' emotional wellbeing. • The damage of using children as emotional confidants dur…
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Nhat has a run in with a weird visitor late at night. Tony’s hoping he doesn’t have to rescue any more baby raccoons. Tony doesn’t give a fuck about his new boss’ intentions. Nhat doesn’t like most managers. We both agree that we need more Luigis in this world. Tony […]By The Lo Fi Show
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Symphony of Parenting: Navigating Manipulation Tactics for Healthier Co-Parenting After Divorce
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12:26I would love to hear from you! Send a text! This episode illuminates the profound impact that manipulation and triangulation can have on children caught in parental conflict, emphasizing the need for clear communication and boundaries in co-parenting. We discuss examples of manipulation, the emotional toll on children, and actionable strategies for…
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Symphony of Parenting- Co-Parenting with a "Disneyland Parent
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11:38I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Co-parenting can be a challenge when one parent emerges as the "Disneyland Parent," focusing on fun at the expense of responsibility. This episode explores the emotional implications, motivations behind this behavior, and actionable strategies to create a healthier co-parenting dynamic. • Understanding th…
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Tony comes across an ad about renting sex dolls in the Denver Westword. We ruminate about the hygiene issues. Nhat lays out weird conditions for if Tony ever inherited his stuff after he dies. We have lamprey news and a scientific study on the attractiveness of the scrotum. We talk […]By The Lo Fi Show
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Symphony of Parenting: Secrets to Successful Co-Parenting and Single Parenthood Support
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9:39I would love to hear from you! Send a text! This episode emphasizes the significance of nurturing children's emotional stability during and after a divorce by providing effective co-parenting techniques. Listeners are guided through ten essential strategies to help children navigate their feelings and experiences during transitions between homes. •…
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Symphony of Parenting: Transforming Negative Talk into Positive Growth After Divorce
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7:38I would love to hear from you! Send a text! This episode provides practical advice for parents navigating the emotional complexities of divorce and how it can impact their children. By encouraging positive language and actions, parents can promote healthy relationships and emotional resilience in their kids. • Importance of reframing narratives aro…
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Nhat loses his beloved cat, Luna. That’s pretty much it. https://www.thelofishow.com/podcast/2025/2025-02-09-OdeToLuna.mp3 Featured Song of the Week: “Oh Oscillator” – Sorcha Richardson Featured Song of the Week: “Satellite” – Courtney Marie Andrews Outro Song of the Week: “A Hope In Hell” – Bleed From Within…
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Symphony of Parenting: Building Consistency as a Single Parent
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9:53I would love to hear from you! Send a text! The episode highlights the importance of consistency in single parenting, particularly in co-parenting scenarios, and shares practical tips to navigate emotional challenges while nurturing a stable environment for children. The conversation covers tips on establishing routines, communication with children…
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I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Life’s storms can often lead us to question our purpose, making it easy to consider quitting. This episode examines how to combat negative self-talk, embrace quiet moments, and utilize practical strategies to stay resilient, reminding us that giving up isn’t the answer. • Exploring major life transitions …
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Transforming Your Inner Critic: Self- Criticism to Self-Compassion Part 2 with Dana Williams
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25:36I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Imagine if the very words you speak to yourself could transform your health and well-being. In this episode of the Start Your Comeback podcast, my friend Dana and I unlock the secrets of turning negative self-talk into a powerful ally through the transformative lens of scripture. With insights from cognit…
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Transforming Your Inner Critic: From Self-Criticism to Self-Compassion With Guest Dana Williams
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23:51I would love to hear from you! Send a text! How often do we let that critical inner voice define who we are, especially during life's toughest transitions like divorce? This episode invites you to explore the transformative power of self-talk with Toni Thrash and our insightful guest, Dana Williams, founder of Redeemed Identity. Dana opens up about…
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We start out talking about the L.A. fires and why we have so many power lines held up by wooden posts. We ask each other how we’d like to see the world end if we were dying. Tony feels ripped off because he saved up way too many rewards points […]By The Lo Fi Show
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I would love to hear from you! Send a text! Every great dream begins with a dare to try, embracing vulnerability and the need for personal accountability in the pursuit of our resolutions. This episode focuses on the ongoing series about redefining resolutions, the importance of taking actionable steps, and the profound impact of shared support on …
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I would love to hear from you! Send a text! This episode emphasizes the importance of breaking big resolutions into smaller, attainable goals to foster success. Toni outlines five actionable steps to help listeners take meaningful strides towards their aspirations, encouraging support and resilience along the journey. • Embracing life transitions a…
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I would love to hear from you! Send a text! This episode focuses on overcoming life transitions by transforming dreams into actionable goals. We discuss how sharing your dreams, building a game plan, and breaking down resolutions can lead to success. • Exploring the significance of identifying dreams • Sharing dreams to create accountability and co…
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Tony starts off complaining about his work, which prompts Nhat to figure out that he actually cares about his work, despite popular belief. We discuss why we can’t have nice things like a bullet train in this country. We go over some of the supposed “worst guitar solos in rock.” […]By The Lo Fi Show
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