Why Anxious Attachment Makes You Drink More (And How to Break the Cycle)

Wild Sobriety

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Hey beautiful Warriors of Love, it’s Mary — and this week’s episode goes deep into something so many of us experience but rarely name out loud.

Have you ever noticed that even when you’re usually grounded, there are certain relationships or moments that throw you off balance — where you start overthinking, over-explaining, or trying to control what you can’t?

That’s what we’re talking about today.

I’m opening up about a recent personal experience that cracked my heart open in new ways — and how even through uncertainty, alcohol never once crossed my mind. I share how my sobriety and the Five Shifts I teach gave me the tools to meet that moment with softness, not shame.

You’ll hear how anxious attachment and drinking can feed off each other… and why the real path to peace isn’t about “fixing” anyone else, but coming back to your values, your boundaries, and your truth.

This episode is about resilience, emotional maturity, and learning to be with yourself — even when everything feels uncertain.

Takeaways:

The surprising link between anxious attachment and drinking
How over-explaining keeps you disconnected from your power
Why saying “no” can be the most loving thing you do
What it means to find safety in silence instead of distraction
How to start trusting yourself again — no matter what’s happening around you

💬 I’d love to know what resonates most for you — leave a comment or message me on YouTube so we can keep this conversation going.

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Chapters

1. Why Anxious Attachment Makes You Drink More (And How to Break the Cycle) (00:00:00)

2. Welcome & Purpose of Wild Sobriety (00:00:05)

3. Secure to Anxious: How It Happens (00:00:55)

4. Sobriety Through Soul-Crushing Moments (00:02:00)

5. Strategy Sessions & Seeking Support (00:03:33)

6. Soft Power, Not Control (00:04:36)

7. Values, Boundaries, and Self-Abandonment (00:05:59)

8. Overexplaining and The Fear of Misunderstanding (00:09:53)

9. Control Urges and Nervous System Drift (00:12:31)

10. Alcohol as a Familiar Shortcut (00:15:18)

11. Silence Practice and Inner Certainty (00:17:03)

12. Chemistry: Dopamine vs Oxytocin (00:19:06)

13. A Simple Path Forward & CTA (00:21:14)

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