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Growth After Loss

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Welcome to the When Grief Comes Home podcast. We're glad you're here. This podcast supports parents who are grieving a spouse, partner, or child while helping their children who are living through the loss of a parent or sibling. With personal grief stories and professional guidance, we offer parents practical tips for supporting their child who is grieving while caring for their own grief.

What if the only way out of the storm is through it—and what if that path could widen your life? Erin and Colleen explore how leaning into grief, rather than outrunning it, can open doors to strength, empathy, deeper relationships, and a renewed sense of meaning. This isn’t about silver linings. It’s about honest pain, real support, and the surprising growth that can follow when we feel, speak, and share our losses.
We unpack post‑traumatic growth through five research‑backed domains—personal strength, closeness with others, new possibilities, appreciation of life, and spiritual or existential expansion. Erin and Colleen bring this to life with stories from families and kids, from the teen who finally opened up after being asked “What’s one thing you want me to know about your dad?” to parents who learned that modeling emotions teaches children that big feelings are survivable. You’ll hear practical tools you can use today: letting waves of grief crest and recede, breathing and bilateral movement, journaling or voice notes, nighttime “dosing” strategies to protect rest, and building a circle of trustworthy helpers so you don’t carry this alone.
We also talk about keeping bonds alive. As Dr. Alan Wolfelt teaches, death ends a life, not a relationship. Bringing your person into everyday moments—“What would Mom think of this?”—can lighten the body and soften the day. And we’ll be honest about avoidance: when we stuff feelings, they leak into our bodies and behaviors. Turning toward pain gently, with support, lets healing do its quiet work. Grief may never end because love never ends, but a larger, kinder life is possible.
If this conversation helps, share it with someone who needs it, subscribe for future episodes, and leave a rating and review so others can find the show. For free grief resources or peer support, visit jessicashouse.org, and email topic ideas to [email protected].

Order the book When Grief Comes Home https://a.co/d/ijaiP5L

Send us a text

For more information on Jessica’s House or for additional resources, please go to jessicashouse.org

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Chapters

1. Welcome & Purpose of the Series (00:00:00)

2. Naming the Storm: Grief and Resistance (00:01:03)

3. Choosing to Feel vs. Avoidance (00:03:19)

4. Post‑Traumatic Growth: Hope After Hurt (00:05:44)

5. Despair, Hope, and the Metamorphosis (00:08:55)

6. What “Walking Into It” Looks Like (00:12:15)

7. Leaks, Bodies, and Unhealthy Escapes (00:16:12)

8. Growth Costs: Wisdom, Strength, Empathy (00:19:40)

9. The Five Domains of PTG (00:22:29)

10. Meaning, Faith, and Both‑And Living (00:27:12)

11. Support That Actually Helps (00:30:10)

12. Modeling Coping for Kids (00:32:07)

13. Break & Resource Reminders (00:33:22)

14. Let Kids Feel, Then Lighten (00:34:20)

15. Questions That Open Doors (00:36:40)

16. Keeping Bonds: “Death Ends a Life…” (00:38:27)

17. Normalize Ongoing Conversation (00:41:20)

18. Closing Reflections & Review Request (00:44:18)

19. Final Resources & Contact Info (00:45:19)

26 episodes

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Manage episode 518845576 series 3602444
Content provided by Erin Leigh Nelson, Colleen Montague LMFT, and Brad Quillen, Erin Leigh Nelson, Colleen Montague LMFT, and Brad Quillen. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Erin Leigh Nelson, Colleen Montague LMFT, and Brad Quillen, Erin Leigh Nelson, Colleen Montague LMFT, and Brad Quillen or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

Welcome to the When Grief Comes Home podcast. We're glad you're here. This podcast supports parents who are grieving a spouse, partner, or child while helping their children who are living through the loss of a parent or sibling. With personal grief stories and professional guidance, we offer parents practical tips for supporting their child who is grieving while caring for their own grief.

What if the only way out of the storm is through it—and what if that path could widen your life? Erin and Colleen explore how leaning into grief, rather than outrunning it, can open doors to strength, empathy, deeper relationships, and a renewed sense of meaning. This isn’t about silver linings. It’s about honest pain, real support, and the surprising growth that can follow when we feel, speak, and share our losses.
We unpack post‑traumatic growth through five research‑backed domains—personal strength, closeness with others, new possibilities, appreciation of life, and spiritual or existential expansion. Erin and Colleen bring this to life with stories from families and kids, from the teen who finally opened up after being asked “What’s one thing you want me to know about your dad?” to parents who learned that modeling emotions teaches children that big feelings are survivable. You’ll hear practical tools you can use today: letting waves of grief crest and recede, breathing and bilateral movement, journaling or voice notes, nighttime “dosing” strategies to protect rest, and building a circle of trustworthy helpers so you don’t carry this alone.
We also talk about keeping bonds alive. As Dr. Alan Wolfelt teaches, death ends a life, not a relationship. Bringing your person into everyday moments—“What would Mom think of this?”—can lighten the body and soften the day. And we’ll be honest about avoidance: when we stuff feelings, they leak into our bodies and behaviors. Turning toward pain gently, with support, lets healing do its quiet work. Grief may never end because love never ends, but a larger, kinder life is possible.
If this conversation helps, share it with someone who needs it, subscribe for future episodes, and leave a rating and review so others can find the show. For free grief resources or peer support, visit jessicashouse.org, and email topic ideas to [email protected].

Order the book When Grief Comes Home https://a.co/d/ijaiP5L

Send us a text

For more information on Jessica’s House or for additional resources, please go to jessicashouse.org

  continue reading

Chapters

1. Welcome & Purpose of the Series (00:00:00)

2. Naming the Storm: Grief and Resistance (00:01:03)

3. Choosing to Feel vs. Avoidance (00:03:19)

4. Post‑Traumatic Growth: Hope After Hurt (00:05:44)

5. Despair, Hope, and the Metamorphosis (00:08:55)

6. What “Walking Into It” Looks Like (00:12:15)

7. Leaks, Bodies, and Unhealthy Escapes (00:16:12)

8. Growth Costs: Wisdom, Strength, Empathy (00:19:40)

9. The Five Domains of PTG (00:22:29)

10. Meaning, Faith, and Both‑And Living (00:27:12)

11. Support That Actually Helps (00:30:10)

12. Modeling Coping for Kids (00:32:07)

13. Break & Resource Reminders (00:33:22)

14. Let Kids Feel, Then Lighten (00:34:20)

15. Questions That Open Doors (00:36:40)

16. Keeping Bonds: “Death Ends a Life…” (00:38:27)

17. Normalize Ongoing Conversation (00:41:20)

18. Closing Reflections & Review Request (00:44:18)

19. Final Resources & Contact Info (00:45:19)

26 episodes

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