You're Not a Jerk, You're a Genius EP 125

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You're Not a Jerk, You're a Genius EP 125

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In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn flips the script on what it means to be “the jealous one” in a relationship—and trust us, you’ll never see your spirals the same again.

Ever swear you’re not going to snoop, spiral, or snap... and then do it anyway? That doesn’t mean you’re some controlling jerk. It means you’ve got a genius-level nervous system doing exactly what it was wired to do: keep you safe.

This solo episode unpacks the psychology behind jealousy, why it’s not sabotage but stabilization, and how to trade unhealthy patterns for new, empowering ones—without shaming the old you who just wanted to feel safe.

Oh, and there’s a German shepherd, a deer, some stargazing, and one mood-ruining poop. You’ve been warned.

💎 Golden Episode Nuggets:

Jealousy isn’t sabotage—it’s a stabilizer your nervous system picked to survive pain
You don’t need to feel ashamed of your coping strategies—they were genius solutions for impossible circumstances
You can teach your body new patterns—because you’ve done it before
The most powerful shift isn’t “How do I stop this?” but “What was my system trying to protect me from?”
New stabilizers aren’t about perfection—they’re about choosing different

🗝️ Key Moments:

1:10 – Why repeating patterns doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means your body is succeeding at survival
3:40 – What stabilizers are and how they show up as jealousy, control, or overeating
6:20 – Why we don’t pick yoga or the gym as coping tools (hint: your nervous system doesn’t give a damn about kale)
13:20 – How the jealousy loop works and why it feels so hard to break
17:30 – You’re not controlling—you’re a genius at creating predictability
25:00 – The dog poop that ruined a magical moment (and why it matters)
27:00 – What it looks like to pick new, healthy stabilizers and stop suffering silently
28:50 – Introducing: 30 Days to Different, the transformative new experience to rewire your relationship patterns from the inside out

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🎧 Perfect for Listeners Who:

Feel ashamed or guilty about their jealousy or control habits
Want to understand why they keep reacting the same way
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