What to do when your kid gives up before they even TRY? #49

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In this episode, Jon answers three real parent questions about kids who shut down, melt down, or avoid trying altogether — the moments when, as one child put it, “I’d rather not try than be bad at it.” Through stories, neuroscience, and relatable examples, Jon offers a grounded way to understand the gap between a child’s stress limit and their skill limit, and why “new things are hard” becomes a life-changing mantra for both parent and child. Listeners walk away with clarity, compassion, and a more connected path forward for supporting kids in those tender I-can’t moments.
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Chapters

1. Setting The Goal: Tolerance Before Skill (00:00:00)

2. Live Setup And Personal Update (00:01:30)

3. The Blood Draw Story And Anxiety (00:02:45)

4. Expectations Versus Reality For Parents (00:05:15)

5. Framing The Theme: New Things Are Hard (00:06:40)

6. Question 1: Homework Shutdowns (00:07:12)

7. Teach The Mantra And Break Tasks Down (00:10:56)

8. Shrinking Problems And Timed Work (00:13:51)

9. Question 2: Five-Year-Old Meltdowns (00:16:51)

10. What Frustration Tolerance Really Is (00:19:01)

11. Waiting Before Helping, Not Sink-Or-Swim (00:21:56)

12. Spotting Overwhelm Versus Growth (00:24:41)

13. Question 3: Fear Of Failure At Nine (00:27:41)

14. Highly Sensitive Kids: Watch, Model, Connect (00:29:51)

15. The Five-Part Playbook Recap (00:32:41)

16. Closing Thoughts And Reassurance (00:34:51)

17. Ratings, Sharing, And Substack Support (00:40:41)

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