When Your Parenting Plane Gets Diverted to Amsterdam
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What happens when your carefully planned parenting journey takes an unexpected turn? For Archie, specialist ADHD nurse prescriber and director of ADHD Care Limited, raising a neurodivergent child meant learning to embrace a completely different path than the one he'd imagined.
This deeply honest conversation explores the complexity of neurodivergent family life through both professional expertise and raw personal experience. Archie shares his journey raising an autistic/ADHD, 10-year-old son, alongside a 6-year-old neurotypical daughter, describing the unique challenges this creates for siblings, marriages, and personal identity. With refreshing candour, he dismantles the myth of perfect parenting and reveals how even mental health professionals struggle with adaptation.
Archie talks gently about having a neurodivergent child is a bit like planning a trip to Italy but having your plane diverted to Amsterdam – all your preparations suddenly irrelevant as you navigate unfamiliar territory. This metaphor beautifully captures the emotional adjustment parents face, not abandoning dreams but reimagining them in unexpected contexts.
The conversation delves into practical strategies too – from managing morning micro-transitions to creating dedicated spaces where fathers can openly discuss parenting challenges. Archie's perspective as a dad brings much-needed balance to conversations often dominated by maternal voices, highlighting how men frequently lack opportunities to express vulnerability around parenting struggles.
Whether you're raising neurodivergent children or simply wanting to better understand those who do, this episode offers profound insights about acceptance, self-compassion, and finding support in unexpected places. As Archie reminds us, "You're doing better than you think" – words every parent occasionally needs to hear.
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I'm Liz, The Untypical OT. I support parents and carers in additional needs and neurodivergent families to protect against burnout and go from overwhelmed to more moments of ease.
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Chapters
1. Welcome to Untypical Parent Podcast (00:00:00)
2. Introducing Archie: ADHD Specialist (00:00:55)
3. The Myth of Perfect Parenting (00:03:15)
4. Archie's Neurodivergent Family Journey (00:06:47)
5. Navigating Sibling Dynamics in Mixed Families (00:11:49)
6. Self-Discovery and Changing Parenting Approaches (00:17:45)
7. Planning, Transitions and Practical Strategies (00:27:20)
8. Accepting Children's Unique Paths (00:35:38)
9. Top Tips for Struggling Parents (00:41:17)
10. Closing Thoughts and Resources (00:53:27)
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