Breaking the Good Girl Spell with Julie Vander Meulen
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What if the rules you’ve been following are the bars of an invisible cage? In this powerful and deeply relatable conversation, Aideen sits down with empowerment coach and writer Julie Vander Muelen to unpack Good Girl Syndrome - the quiet conditioning that keeps women overgiving, overworking, and chasing approval long after they’ve already proven themselves.
Julie shares her journey, from living by social norm that didn’t fit, to finally understanding the pattern. And how trading “being good” for “being free” transformed everything from her career to her relationships.
Explore:
* Awareness practices that help you catch the “Good Girl” voice before it takes the mic
* Simple boundary tools—like the power of “Let me think about it” and a clean, confident “No”
* How laughter, joy, and creativity reconnect you to desire without guilt
* The hidden cost of invisible labor and how to reclaim your time, worth, and voice
This episode is an invitation to stop earning your 'enoughness' and start trusting your own authority. Julie’s message is both grounding and liberating: You are already worthy. From that truth, desire becomes a compass not a crime.
Stay connected with Julie on LinkedIn and sign up for her free Sunday Sanctuary newsletter for reflective prompts and soulful stories that inspire courageous change.
Connect with Julie
Instagram: @juvdmeul
LinkedIn: @julie-vander-meulen-the-empowerment-coach
Website: www.ownyourlife.academy
Newletter: Free Own Your Life Newsletter
Quiz: Good Girl Syndrome Quiz
Articles: My articles on Good Girl Syndrome
Booking Page: Work with Julie
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Chapters
1. Defining Good Girl Syndrome (00:00:00)
2. Beyond Imposter Syndrome (00:02:40)
3. Approval, Overgiving, And The Ceiling (00:05:20)
4. Choosing Freedom Over Goodness (00:09:40)
5. Courage, Voice, And Family Scripts (00:13:10)
6. Tools: Awareness, Pause, And Pacts (00:17:50)
7. Friends As Mirrors And Spotters (00:24:00)
8. Relearning Imagination And Joy (00:28:30)
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