Stop Shrinking to Fit Into Someone Else’s Story—Why Playing Small is the Most Dangerous Form of Self-Abandonment
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Have you ever dimmed your light so someone else could feel more comfortable?
Maybe you’ve caught yourself downplaying a promotion… hiding a new relationship… or making yourself smaller just to fit into someone else’s version of you. If so, you’re not alone—and this episode will feel like someone finally put words to what you’ve been carrying for years.
This week on The Femme Cast, I’m pulling back the curtain on a deeply embedded pattern so many women live out unconsciously: shrinking to earn love, maintain connection, and avoid triggering others’ insecurities.
We’ll talk about:
🎤 The hidden emotional cost of “not being too much”
🎤 How the sisterhood wound silently programs women to compete instead of celebrate each other
🎤 Why taking responsibility for someone else’s discomfort is not love—it’s self-abandonment
🎤 The energetic imbalance created when you put other people’s feelings above your truth
🎤 How I started reclaiming my power, stopped shrinking, and watched my podcast—and my life—take off
This isn’t just about friendships. These patterns show up everywhere: in romantic relationships, family dynamics, the workplace. And left unchecked, they quietly erode your confidence, purpose, and capacity to receive aligned love and support.
This is one of the rawest, most important conversations I’ve had—and it’s one I believe every woman needs to hear.
🎤 Because your light was never meant to be dimmed.
🎤 Because your truth doesn’t need to be watered down.
🎤 Because your full, radiant expression is not a threat—it’s a gift.
Tune in now and start taking your power back—one unapologetic truth at a time.
PS: Stop begging to be chosen. Choose yourself instead.
In case no one told you today, you’re not here to beg, chase, or perform for the bare minimum. You’re here to reclaim your power and become magnetic to real, soul-aligned love, success, and abundance.
Reclaim the version of you that never had to beg to be chosen.
Book your 90-minute Sacred Reclamation Intensive here:
https://thefemmecast.kit.com/products/intensive
But fair warning—authentic connections, aligned opportunities, and breakthroughs in love, money, and purpose are inevitable.
Chapters
1. Stop Shrinking to Fit Into Someone Else’s Story—Why Playing Small is the Most Dangerous Form of Self-Abandonment (00:00:00)
2. The Danger of Shrinking for Love (00:01:02)
3. Understanding the Sisterhood Wound (00:02:36)
4. The Cost of Playing Small (00:05:34)
5. My Podcast Journey and Growth (00:09:49)
6. Finding Purpose in Authenticity (00:15:08)
7. Taking Uncomfortable Steps Forward (00:22:33)
8. Closing Thoughts and Call to Action (00:34:13)
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