Hurt People, Hurt People — And Why Compassion Doesn’t Mean Tolerating Bad Behavior
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We’ve all heard the phrase “hurt people hurt people.” It’s meant to encourage understanding — and yes, there’s truth in it. But for empathic, codependent, or anxiously attached women, this well-meaning advice can quietly become a trap that keeps you tolerating what you should be walking away from.
Yes, you can see the wounded child inside someone and understand where their pain comes from. Yes, you can choose compassion over bitterness. But compassion is not the same as permission. Understanding someone’s trauma doesn’t mean you have to let their brokenness break you.
In this episode of The Femme Cast, I’m breaking down:
🎤 How “don’t take it personally” can actually feed self-abandonment patterns
🎤 Why over-compassion can keep you stuck in toxic dynamics
🎤 The truth about emotional intelligence (it’s not about never getting triggered)
🎤 How to protect your peace while still holding empathy
🎤 My personal story of confusing compassion with self-sacrifice
🎤 The magnetic power of taking a strong stand for what you don’t want
If you’ve been asking yourself, “Why do I keep abandoning myself in relationships?” or “How do I choose myself, break the cycle, and become magnetic to aligned love, purpose, and expansion?” — this conversation will shift how you see compassion forever.
Because the most loving thing you can sometimes say is “I want you to eat… but you don’t get a seat at my table.”
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Chapters
1. Hurt People, Hurt People — And Why Compassion Doesn’t Mean Tolerating Bad Behavior (00:00:00)
2. Introduction to the Difficult Conversation (00:01:02)
3. Compassion vs. Tolerating Bad Behavior (00:05:26)
4. Why "Hurt People Hurt People" is Problematic (00:09:46)
5. Breaking the Cycle of Trauma (00:16:05)
6. Taking People at Face Value (00:22:24)
7. Setting Boundaries Without Guilt (00:26:41)
8. Final Thoughts and Call to Action (00:32:11)
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