From Shy To Self-Assured: How Listening And Storytelling Build Kids’ Confidence
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Ever ask “How was your day?” and get “fine”? We dig into why that question stalls and what to ask instead to unlock real stories, richer details, and genuine confidence. With strategist and storyteller Anna Tran, we explore the simple shift that changes everything: listen first, then guide with curious questions that help kids hear themselves think.
We talk about transforming shy voices into self-assured communicators by making storytelling a daily ritual, not a performance. Think eye-level conversations, calm pauses, and prompts that open doors: What made you feel proud? Who surprised you at lunch? What did you learn that you didn’t expect? As children narrate their day, they practice structure, recall, empathy, and clarity—the same skills leaders use in boardrooms. We also draw parallels between coaching teams and parenting: when we ask better questions and avoid rushing to fix, kids develop agency and problem-solving muscles that last.
Social media hovers over modern childhood, so we tackle how to build offline self-worth before the likes arrive. We share ways to spot unhelpful thought patterns, create healthy digital boundaries, and ground a child’s identity in effort, kindness, and contribution. Practical tools make it doable: a family gratitude jar for tough days, a one-minute story round after dinner, and a rotating “listener-leader” whose job is to ask follow-ups before anyone gives advice. Along the way, we trade honest stories—from sibling dynamics to classroom debates—to show how small habits become lifelong confidence.
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Chapters
1. From Shy To Self-Assured: How Listening And Storytelling Build Kids’ Confidence (00:00:00)
2. Meet Anna Tran And Her Story (00:01:10)
3. Shy To Self-Assured Through Listening (00:02:14)
4. Giving Kids Space To Speak (00:04:20)
5. Questions That Open Real Conversation (00:04:34)
6. Storytelling As A Daily Ritual (00:05:15)
7. Modeling And Motivating Story Skills (00:06:14)
8. What Kids Teach Us About Goodness (00:07:52)
9. Talk With Kids Not Down To Them (00:08:57)
10. Guide With Questions Not Orders (00:11:00)
11. Building Confidence Offline In A Social World (00:13:23)
12. Lead By Example Through Small Stories (00:15:55)
13. Gratitude Jar And Quiet Confidence (00:18:12)
14. Where To Find Anna And Her Work (00:19:34)
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