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Can People Really Change? What Neuroscience and Relationships Teach Us with Dr. Kathryn Ford
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If you've ever found yourself wondering, “Can people really change?” — especially after years together — this episode is for you.
This week, Katie sits down with renowned psychiatrist and couples therapist Dr. Kathryn Ford, author of The Aperture Effect, to explore what change actually looks like in long-term relationships. They dive deep into the science behind transformation, the emotional and psychological conditions that foster lasting shifts, and why some couples stay stuck while others thrive.
Together, they unpack:
- Why neuroscience proves we’re wired for change — at any age
- How the right conditions (not pressure) inspire real transformation
- What not to do when you’re hoping your partner will change
- The stages of change and why early efforts often feel like failure
- How to create a “change-friendly” atmosphere in your relationship
- The truth about teamwork and why no one changes alone
- Why tiny tweaks can lead to massive connection
Dr. Ford also shares simple but powerful tools from her book, including her signature Aperture Effect method, to help couples shift from closed-off to open-hearted — without hours of conflict.
If you're tired of hearing “this is just how I am,” and you're ready to experience growth (for yourself and your relationship), this episode offers a grounded, hopeful, and practical roadmap forward.
Links & Resources:
Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples
Couples Goal Setting Workbook
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