The Boundary Reframe Every Empath Needs

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The Boundary Reframe Every Empath Needs

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Thrive in 5: The Boundary Reframe Every Empath Needs

Episode Summary:
If you’ve ever felt guilty for setting boundaries or worried that saying “no” makes you cold, this quick episode is your reminder that boundaries are not walls — they’re filters. In just five minutes, Christy shares a powerful reframe for empaths who give, love, and feel deeply… sometimes at their own expense. You’ll walk away with a grounding practice and a mindset shift to help you protect your peace without losing your warmth.

In This Episode:
• Why saying “no” isn’t rejection — it’s redirection
• How to stop confusing peacekeeping with people-pleasing
• A 3-breath somatic practice to anchor self-respect in your body
• The truth about what healthy boundaries really mean for empaths

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TRANSCRIPT

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, beautiful souls. Today's Thrive in five is for my tender hearted empaths who have been told they're too nice, too sensitive, or that setting a boundary means you're being called or a biatch, right? Let's reframe that in five minutes flat because it's thriving. Five baby. Welcome to your Thursday. Thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath, queen. This one's for you. All right, so here's the truth. Boundaries aren't walls. They are filters. Can we start picturing that queen screen? Ooh, did you like that? I didn't even plan that y'all. That's some true organic criming. Okay, so boundaries don't block love. That's not the point of them. They do. They block drain, right? They don't want to encourage what happens when you are around people who drain you. So if you've ever said yes to keeping the peace only to feel resentful or exhausted later, that's your little baby spirit whispering to you.

(01:26)
This isn't peace, this is people pleasing, dressed up as kindness. So when you're an empath, which I am, and we don't want to lose that empathy, we don't want to go the other end, but when you are an empath, your instinct is to nurture, to fix. But the twist is real. True. Nurturing needs to include you too. Yes. Right? You cannot pour. This is one of my favorite quotes, by the way, is you cannot pour from an empty cup, right? So you can't pour love from an empty cup and call it compassion. It's just not going to work. It's not going to work for anybody. So here is your reframe for the week. Every time you say no, imagine it instead as a yes to your peace, your purpose, your healing, whatever it's saying yes to for you. So boundaries are not rejection, they are redirection.

(02:34)
That sounds like something I could say to a class of fifth graders. Boundaries aren't rejection, they're redirection. Everybody now, but your time, your energy and your heart, it's redirecting that toward what truly matters while protecting yourself and your peace. Okay? So what's a little somatic anchor? We can, you can ground the truth in your body through this little exercise. Yay. It's exercise time. All right. Take one hand to your heart and one to your belly. Now, breathe in through that nose. My favorite halo breath, inhale. As you inhale, my peace matters. Exhale and think it's safe to protect my energy in my peace matters out. It's safe to protect my energy, especially before saying yes to something that doesn't feel aligned. Check in with yourself first and remind yourself with this little tiny exercise one more time, and you can write this down on a little sticky note.

(03:48)
Put it on your mirror, put on your car. Inhale, my peace matters. Exhale it safe to protect my energy. Okay? You're not being cold, you are being clear. That's okay. You're not being a jerk because you're being firm even, okay? Even if you have to get firm, you're not being a jerk. You're being clear. You're being truthful, you're being honest. That doesn't equal cold, that doesn't equal mean. And if you didn't watch or listen to Tuesday's episode, go check that out. We dive deeply into this stuff and you're getting clear, right? The clearer, the more you practice this, basically, the clearer you're going to get on what you want, what you desire, what you need, and that's not selfish. That's about damn time. Okay? Can we quote that? So if this hit home, go back and listen to Tuesday's full episode. If you didn't, it's called Why Empath Struggle with Boundaries and How to fix it Without Becoming Colder Mean, right?

(05:00)
For that deeper healing. And of course, I will tell you my schedule is getting very, very, very smaller. Smaller. It's a great thing. It's wonderful that I'm getting to reach more people, but if you want to do the deeper transformation, you need to jump in because my schedule's very, very tight. So you go ahead, find the links in my show notes. I have two offers right now. I have the monthly offer, and that does have two payment options, and then there's the three month I am. This is like you are ready to dive in and see a whole new world. Three months of this face right here, this voice, right? Three months of transformation. We're talking coaching, and we're talking somatic healing. And in between, you get the bonus of Voxer all access to Christie all the time. No, not all the time. I have boundaries too, but once a day, you can leave me a message and I'll get back to you within the 24 hours.

(06:08)
Usually it is that day. If just something comes up, you need to vent, you need advice, whatever it is that is in between our weekly calls, the monthly is weekly calls, and you do have to stay up on your weekly calls. This isn't like, Hey, we're going to have one session here, and then three months later we're going to have a session. If you want to work with me. I am very serious about layering on, it's like stacking right? You do it week after week. If you miss a week here and there, that's fine, right? I'm not like crazy rigid, but we do want to keep consistent because that is where the deep work happens. And I want transformation, and you want transformation. So if you're going to invest in yourself, show the fog up for yourself, okay? All right. So I love you guys, and I will see you in the next episode.

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