When Life Feels Out of Control

When everything around you seems chaotic, the first step is to pause and breathe. In moments of turmoil, the mind often magnifies problems, making them appear larger than they are. By slowing down, you give yourself the space to regain perspective. Focus on what is within your control — your thoughts, reactions, and daily actions. Write down the top three things you can realistically manage today, and let go of what is beyond your reach. Control begins with clarity, and clarity begins with calm.

Next, reestablish structure and connection. Create a simple routine, even if it’s just waking up at a set time, exercising briefly, and reflecting in prayer or journaling. Consistency stabilizes emotions. Surround yourself with supportive voices — mentors, friends, or faith-centered communities — who remind you of your purpose and strength. Remember, feeling out of control doesn’t mean you’ve lost your direction; it’s an invitation to refocus your energy on what truly matters and rebuild from within.

Dr. Fred Clary, founder of Functional Analysis Chiropractic Technique and lifting/life coach/ gym-chalk covered philosopher talks about what action steps to take when 'your life feels out of control'.