Husbands — is your tone tearing down the very people you’re called to love?

It’s not just what you say — it’s how you say it. In this video, I’m sharing the 5 tone shifts that changed everything for me: the way I talk to my wife, the atmosphere in my home, and the way I lead as a man of God.

I used to snap out of exhaustion, not anger — but my tone was still lethal. Maybe you’ve been there: your wife or kids flinch at your words, even when you didn’t mean harm. That’s when I realized: your tone sets the temperature of your home.

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These 5 shifts are rooted in Scripture + psychology and will help you:

• Pause before you pounce (STOPP method)

• Reframe negative thoughts before they poison your marriage

• Step into your wife’s shoes to unlock empathy

• Anchor calm when emotions run high

• Speak truth in love — so it builds, not breaks

👉 Your tone sets the temperature of your home. Change your tone, and you’ll shift your legacy.

00:00 Introduction: The Power of Tone in Relationships

01:12 Understanding the Root of Emotional Mismanagement

02:07 Shift 1: Pause Before You Pounce

04:24 Shift 2: Reframe the Negativity

05:25 Shift 3: Step Into Her Shoes

06:25 Exciting News: P2P Principles to Practice Journal

07:49 Shift 4: Anchor a Calmer You

08:53 Shift 5: Speak the Truth in Love

09:49 Conclusion: Building a Legacy of Trust

11:26 Final Challenge and Call to Action

Drop a 🙏 in the comments if you’re committing to one shift this week.

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