How men’s mental health, masculinity and feminism collide—suicide risk, real strengths, and why “toxic” isn’t the same as masculine.

A candid episode about containers for emotion, respect, repair, and showing up like a grownup—at home, on dates, and with friends.

Content note: explicit language; gender politics; sensitive topics.

If you’re struggling (U.S.): Call/Text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, 24/7).

Episode focus: what “showing up” looks like for men right now—vulnerability with containers, strengths worth keeping (and their costs), dating scripts, resentment loops, and actual masculinity vs. the cartoon version.

We cover:

• “Open up” fails without containers—time, rules, responsibility, consequences
• Strengths worth keeping—protection, provision, service—and their costs (burnout, isolation)
• Dating scripts & resentment loops—how to reset expectations and repair
• Communication basics—boundaries, conflict etiquette, consent, respect
• Real masculinity vs. caricature—courage, responsibility, tenderness, self-control
• Equality among the sexes—how can we avoid the hatred

Hosts/Guest: The DEFECTIVE Schizoaffective (Nick) • IndyPocket (Tony) • Guest: Josh Guffey (“Guff”)

Guest links:

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@guffey2692

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guffey_kgg

IndyPocket (Tony) links:

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@indypocket
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/indypocket
• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@absolutezen

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The DEFECTIVE Schizoaffective (Nick)

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