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The State of "I've Got This" | Personal Development Techniques

Want to unlock that confident feeling whenever life throws a challenge your way? In today's episode, I'm breaking down the powerful mindset of "I've Got This" – that extraordinary state where confidence and competence come together to help you tackle anything.

What You'll Discover in This Episode:

How to tap into unshakeable self-confidence using proven NLP anchoring techniques
The neuroscience behind creating emotional states you can access on demand
My personal journey with anchoring and how it's transformed my approach to challenging situations
A practical, step-by-step process to create your own confidence anchor using just your thumb and little finger
Why specific, vivid memories are the secret to building powerful anchors that last

The Power of Anchoring Your Confidence

"When you connect a physical gesture to a powerful emotional state, you create a shortcut to confidence that works even when your mind is trying to talk you out of it." - Paul Clough

I share exactly how anchors are already working in your life (sometimes without you knowing it!) and how intentional anchoring can be a game-changer for your personal development journey.

Your Confidence-Building Action Step

Here's your challenge this week: Follow the simple thumb-and-finger exercise I demonstrate in the episode. Practice accessing your "I've Got This" state daily for the next 7 days. Notice how your approach to challenges begins to shift.

Don't let another day pass letting self-doubt run the show. This simple technique has helped thousands of my clients and students transform their relationship with confidence.

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Personal development involves letting go of anxiety and accessing confidence

Personal development, unplugged, where we look at letting go of anxiety and accessing confidence. And one of the things I hear is I wish I just felt more confident. Poul I what I hear from my clients, I just feel just a little bit more confident. And I like to say to them, just a little bit, or a lot or just confident. And you see, I'd called this episode. I think I've called it anyway. Might change. It's a state. It's called I've got this. The state of I've got this. You see, to me, if you felt and you believed that you've got this, you felt that feeling. I've just got this. That's a real state of confidence and competence because you've got it. You just know you have. You're got to do it. You're going to do whatever it takes, but you're going to access everything you need to get this thing done. And you see anchors, we call it, we’re going to talk about anchoring. Anchoring is a process in nlp. I'm sure it's called anchoring elsewhere. I know it's in hypnosis and things like that, but nlp, anchoring, anchoring a particular state so you can fire off a, trigger, as it were, and you access that state again. So you see thing about anchors is they are everywhere. You can't get away from them. Everything in your life is triggered in some ways by anchoring or anchors. And they can be positive and they can be negative. You see the things you see sometimes unconsciously. You don't necessarily consciously recognize what you see, but it fires off a feeling inside you. For example, it could be that if you come home after a really bad day at work and you see your significant, other or someone regularly, as you come home, you see them and you're not feeling that good, you're feeling d and you're feeling that way and you see their face. And then the next time you come home and you're still, I've had a bad day at work. and as you come home, you see their face again. It doesn't matter whether it's smiling or not. You just see their face and you go, ah, I, still feel so bad. But there's that face. And if this goes on for a little while, the next time you can Just be in a good state and you come home. I've had a great day at work. You come home and you see their face. And that face unconsciously triggers that, ah, feeling again. Nothing they've done. You did it in some ways by getting that face to trigger off or be connected, connected to that emotion. Whenever I'm, whenever I say that again, whenever I'm working with a client and we're talking about some negative things, I'll make sure that they're not looking at me directly all the time, talking about it. Because in the end I'll be anchored to that feeling. So every time they see me, they'll get that feeling. I don't want that. I'll jump in front of them when they're feeling good and they've got the results. But I like to just be at a slight angle so they just don't connect in that way. Sounds are the same, you get a record. But maybe years and years and years ago, you had something happened, good or bad, positive or negative, and it happened and knew that music was around you. You didn't notice it at the time, but it was there. Then years later, that music comes on, you hear it in the background and you don't realize it's even in the background, but you change your emotion. That triggers off the emotion. As's a bugger smells. They'll take you back into all sorts of different contexts of the past or memories, smells and tastes, you know, all your senses. Sometimes if you touch something and it just feels. That's why sometimes if someone is in such. If they were in a real negative mood, negative state and you hug them, you may well be anchoring your hug to that feeling that they have. So the next time you hug them, for no other reason, they go back into that state you have. Be careful. Anchoring is so powerful. I have particular angers that I've set up for myself. And I know, one springs to mind that when I used to do trainings and I'd be up on a stage and I'd be with my son. Cause we used to do the trainings together. He'd be talking and sometimes I'd go out of focus. I'd be focusing on where we were. Or maybe my mind suddenly drifts off or suddenly I get a little bit, little bit nervous about something. I don't know why, but I'd have this one little anchor. But when I touched my, particular finger in a particular way, I'd just suddenly be back in focus and resourceful and Boom. It just brought me straight back. So whenever I found myself wandering far off the anchor and I'm back into it and you see, we're talking about there are some things, when you see some people and you don't know why do you feel awesome? Because you're anchored. That state of awesome is like anchored to them. so every time you see them, you feel good for no reason. You see him come through the door. Brilliant. We had a yoga teacher in a training once that every time his mentor, who he respected, loved, would see him through the little pane of a window of the door where he was doing, in his studio doing his yoga class. And it's that one particular time where as he would look through the window at, him doing the yoga, he suddenly just, we would lose it. And he didn't know why, but it was just somehow that nervousness or whatever it was, was anchored and connected to the guy's face looking through the window for no other reason. I don't know, it just happens. But the thing is, it's such a powerful phenomenon and it's natural.

You see, in my first NLP trainings we used to play music

Here's another one. And I still get it. You see, in my very first NLP trainings, and we used to do it as well, every time we have a break, people go for coffee and as usual, everyone gets talking. And you might have. This is a 10 minute break, 10 minute comes and goes, don't come back. So we always used to play the same bit of music right at the end of that 10 minutes. And I can remember the music that was played all the way through my NLP trainings. It was the same piece of music every break. Geeez. But the thing is, now I could be walking through a shot, one of the big supermarkets or something, and they suddenly start playing that music. And I want to go to the toilet before I come back. And I'm thinking, wow, no, I'm not there anymore. And this is years ago. This maybe 15 years ago, but still that music makes me think about going to the toilet to get ready to go back to the training. How weird. But it does, it's so powerful now because it's a natural phenome. We can use it to our advantage instead of letting it randomly happen. Wouldn't it be good? Wouldn't it be good if you could, whenever you need it, get into the state of things like, I've got this, let's do this, I've got this. That would be awesome, wouldn't it? I think so. I love it. So what we're going to do Is something like this. You see an anchor. We're going to use an anchor such as your thumb and little finger. Cause's if they touch together, the tips of one of your hands touch the tip of your little finger and your thumb together. Now that's unusual, isn't it? Because it's got to be unusual, it's got to be unique. It's stimulus and response. So the stimulus will be your little finger touching your thumb. That will then fire off the response far off the anger of a feeling that we're going to set to that. And the reason I do a little finger to a thumb. One is it's unique and one is it's easy to think of. You can change it later, but we can. That's so easy to do. So I'm going to do one thing and then we'll do. You see? Yeah, I'm going. Do you see this thing, this resourceful state of I've got this is also a feeling of feeling good about yourself, isn't it? Because if you really feel you've got this, let's do this. I can access every resource and skill I've got. That's a pretty good feeling. Feeling good about yourself. So what I want you to Do, if you're happy to do this by the way, if you're happy, if you don't, don't listen. I know you do. Because this is awesome. It works. It just bloody works. And I can remember doing this. Well, I don't remember to look it back up. Way back. Five years ago. Five years ago I did a podcast about this. And that's too long, isn't it? Too long. Because people come and go and also I will explain things differently because I'm a different person. What different. Ish.

Use natural stimulus and response to feel good about yourself

So let's go through it together. But first of all I want you to. We're going to go through that state of feeling good about ourselves and think about a word that goes with it. And that word or set of words I think would be something like I've got this, let's do this. Or I like I've got this. So let's go with those three words I've got this. And I want you to say them. Sometimes when I tell you to, you're either say out loud or with an internal voice. It doesn't matter. Out loud is good cause it works inside and out. But if it's only inside cause there's people listening. Well do it that way. Cause what we're going to do is pick this state and we're going to. Going to. We are going to either, and ideally, remember a time when you did have this. You felt good about yourself. You'd just done something and you just knew that you had it, you got it, everything was good, you felt good about yourself. And if you can't remember a time in the past, and it has to be a specific time, I don't want a general thing. We've got to be really specific. So I really want to get the feeling you can imagine it. So either way, think of a time that really happened in your life in the past, because that's when it happened and it's one specific time. A memory, or you've got toa imagine a memory, either way. So this is what we're going to do. We're going to go back to that time. I like to explain these things first so you know what to expect. So you can just let it go and, and have the process. So we're going to remember a time, a time in the past, or imagine it. Use our imagineering. Remember that time. We're going to go back there, go back in our mind, as if you're floating back into that memory, back into the u that was in that memory, and actually look through your own eyes back then, See what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel that feeling of feeling so good about yourself. And as we feel that feeling, I'm going to say some things that's going to make that feeling even more intense. And as it becomes intense, I want you to get that little finger and thumb and when I say squeeze, you squeeze it together and you say to yourself, I've got this. Let's do this. One of those or both, who knows? Doesn't matter. Whatever feels good for you. And then we're going to let our finger, little finger and thumb just open up a little bit so they're not touching. And then we might do a little bit more. And then as it gets more intense again, we're going toa squeeze that little finger and thumb together and say those words, I've got this. And we’re going to stack it, stack that feeling more and more intense. Because when you've done this, the next time you want to feel good about yourself, feel good about yourself, you'll say to yourself, I've got this. And even saying those words will start that emotion, start that state. And as you squeeze that little finger and thumb together, you will trigger off that response, that response of feeling good about yourself saying, I've got this. And you can do it all the time. And whenever you need it, you can have it. And you also do this process again if you want to make it even more intense. Cause you think you might worry that you might have forgotten it or it's not working, you can just do it again. It's always there, though. Trust me. I'm, a therapist, but. You're a therapist. But I just know it works. Cause it works naturally. You don't have to do anything about it in the real world. So we're going to use that natural phenomenon of stimulus and response. But we're setting up the stimulus, and we're setting up the response. Why not? So if you're willing and want to and you desire to feel good about yourself whenever you choose, we could do it now.

Close your eyes and remember a time when you felt good about yourself

Okay. So it's good to close your eyes, by the way, it's good to close your eyes when you do this. Cause there's less distractions. Just my voice and your imagination or your memory, whichever suits your best. Memories could be better. But whatever suits you. So if it's okay with you, close your eyes. And I want you to remember a time, a specific time in the past where you really did feel good about yourself. For whatever reason, you've achieved something, you'd done something, and it made you feel so good. Good about yourself. You knew that you'd used all your skills or your resources. And you achieved something that made you feel good about yourself. See, it doesn't matter what. What you achieved. It's that state. So just think of that one specific time when you really felt good about yourself. Because you've done something, you've achieved something. And it made you feel good. And as you think about that time, or imagine that time, go back there. Now imagine, like, just leaving your body and floating into that. You in that memory. Go all the way back to. Because it's a good time. And as you float back to that good time, flow into your body back then. So you can live it again. Live it again. See what you saw. Then see everything. Sometimes clearly, sometimes just awareness. But you know what you're seeing. Hear what you heard back then. Hear the sounds, even maybe the sounds of your own inner voice. Or maybe you were saying it out loud, how good it was. And as you see what you saw. M. Hear what you heard. Or imagine seeing what you saw. And imagine hearing what you could have heard. Feel the feelings. Feel those feelings, of feeling so good about yourself. Nobody else, just you. You're feeling. Good about you, good about yourself. And as you feel those feelings now, you didn't realize, but you can double them now. Just double that feeling, increase it, make it more intense. And as you make it more intense, feel it even more. And as you feel it even more, get that little finger and thumb and just squeeze them gently together and say, I've got this. I've got this. And as you get that feeling so good about yourself and that little finger and thumb squeezing together in the words, I've got this. Yeah, feel that feeling. And then just let that little finger and thumb just open a little bit so they're not touching. And I want you to imagine now that feeling has a color. What color would it be when you feel this good about yourself? And when you have that feeling and the color, make that color more intense. maybe brighter, maybe so deep that it makes that feeling even more. So much more. And as you see that color, you can imagine that feeling spinning, maybe spinning in a direction that just feels so good. Because every motion moves around the body in some circular fashion. So when you just get that feeling and you start to spin it even more, and the more you spin it, the more intense you get that feeling. I feel so good about myself. And as you feel that feeling as it spins with that wonderful color, get that little finger, thumb, squeeze them together now and say, I've got this. I've got this. And feel that feeling getting so intense. And then let that little feeling, little finger and thumb open up a little bit and breathe this feeling through every cell of your body. And as you breathe that feeling through every cell of your body, feel it, get, double it, double it again. And squeeze that little finger and thumb together and feel that feeling so much. Imagine that feeling coming all over every cell of your body, squeezing that little finger and thumb together and saying, I've got this. Really stack that feeling now so much that your unconscious mind can now link it with this little finger and thumb together and the words I've got this. So you, the unconscious mind can fire this feeling off whenever they squeeze their little finger and thumb together and say, I've got this. You feel so good. Give them this wonderful resourceful state because it'll keep them safe. And they can start, absolutely everything feeling so good, because that's when you feel so safe. And then just let that little finger and thumb open up and just float back into your body, leaving that memory over where. Where it was or that imagined memory where it was, and come back into your body. Open your eyes now, you could do that again. You could rewind and just go back to the beginning and do it again. But first of all, before we do that, if you need to do that, I think it's good to do that. What you could do is just think of something. Can you spell your surname, backwards? Can you spell your Christian name backwards? Can you think of your mum's maiden name? I don't know why people ask that. Anyway, havingn't got that, just squeeze that little finger and thumb together and say, I've got this. And notice how your state changes. If it changes lovely, intensely. That's it, you've done it. And all you need to do is let go that finger and thumbnail. Whenever you want this feeling again, you squeeze that little finger and thumb together and say, I've got this. If you want it more powerful, then just rewind and just do the same thing again. So you really stack that feeling. You stack it so intensely that you could just have it whenever you want and then whenever you need it. Now, it could be at the beginning of something. Maybe it's a project or something you're doing or you're going to meet somebody that you're a little bit nervous of or doing something you're just a little bit apprehensive of. Just before you do it, squeeze that little finger and thumb together and say, I've got this. And you'll feel that state come and then you just go and do it. And the more you do this, the more doing things will fire off this good resourceful feeling.

You can anchor any state you like using a little finger and thumb

So in the end, you'll find sometimes you'll even forget to remember to squeeze that little finger and thumb together and you'll have that feeling. Because your unconscious mind knows this is a good state to be. And when you're in this state, you, And being able to access all the resources and skills you ever need, you will be safe. Even if it's something like this come to mind. Even if you just wanted to pause and be quiet for a moment or two, just to relax, you could actually say, I've got this. Squeeze that finger and thumb together and just know that you've got this as a time to relax, to be comfortable, to pause, to take a breath. Because you can use this resourceful state in any way you want. So many opportunities for it. There you go. The art and science of anchoring. And the thing is. And the thing is, because some people might think, oh, is this the only state I can ancher? I've got this state? No, you can anchor any state you like. Remember the one I did with my training? I had to get a focusing, a, focus to really Be in the resource of training to share. Sometimes I need a state where I like to go into self hypnosis. So I fire off a little anchor of self hypnosis. Could be calm, as we said, peaceful. All you have to do is think of a time when you had that state and you go back there in your mind, see what you saw, hear what you heard, feel the feelings and set it up on a different finger and thumb. Not a different thumb because you've only got, well, you've only got two. But don't do it with a little finger because you've already anchored that to something else. Have fun with that. And if you want a little bit more, let me know. Email me [email protected] I'll find a way for you hopefully and know this was in some ways asked again by a listener a little while ago. hopefully they'll get this. But everyone can get this. I'd love to know what are the type of states that you have or would like to be able to access more often because it's two things sort of too there and laads of things. But I'd be more than happy to do a little maybe hypnosis. There's a hypnosis if you go back to #175 on my complimentary hypnosis tracks 60 or 70 of them. Just go there paulcloughonline.com/podcast and you can listen to that one. Or I could create another one with a particular state. I've got this state which I just wanted to produce a resourceful state. But maybe we could do anything at all. It's up to you. But I'd love to hear the type of states that you, you've developed for yourself, as an anger and how well they work, what it allowed you to achieve, to do, to be. Love to hear about that. So please do give me that feedback. I hope and always say I hope that I've been able to communicate this in a way that has been easily be able to follow and do. If I haven't, let me know because I need to improve the way I communicate every day. I've got all these thoughts and things and bits I want to share with you, but I need to be able to communicate it in a way that is's shareable. So let me know if you would. And talking about shareable, obviously as a way of paying this forward because it's cost you nothing, you know, it's complimentary. All these podcasts, well, they all are, aren't they really? Well, some aren't, but most of them are. But just as a kind of thank you, it would be great if you could share this this episode and tell everyone about this podcast. That would be nice. There's normally a share button on, on whatever you're listening to, so if you can share this, it'd be really great with one or two or all your friends. And if you haven't subscribed, you haven't followed, please do, please press that button. And if you want to let me know, by the way, not on email, you can find me on things like Instagram and TikTok and all those funny old platforms. I'd love to hear from you. D love to hear from you. And yeah, I think that's it for today, isn't it? Have more. I've got this. And wallow in feeling so good about yourself, because you are. And you're always more. See you soon, my friend. It's time to fly. So before you leave this unplugged mindind of mine, this hypnotic mind, if you enjoyed this podcast or any of the other podcasts, please do subscribe. It helps this podcast grow and affect so many more people. And we love to leave everyone in a better place than we found them. And this will help help the podcast. It will help you and it will help, well, everyone that you know. So if you can just subscribe and share, share this podcast to everyone you blooming well know. That's the only cost. Pay it forward to everyone. And when you do that, boom. We are all going toa make a difference to this little old planet Earth of ours and the people in it. But let's make a good world, a nice world. Okay?

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