Grieving Your Way: Three Things You Don't Need to Do
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Grief does not come with a rulebook. Yet society often places unspoken expectations that make the journey even harder. In this episode of A Better Way to Heal, cohosts Elly and Isa share three things you do not need to do while grieving, from pretending you are fine to following a strict timeline.
They begin by challenging the pressure to care for everyone else while neglecting your own emotional needs. Drawing from personal stories and biblical wisdom, they explore how well meaning friends can unintentionally make someone’s grief about themselves. With compassion, they offer practical guidance on creating boundaries and honoring your own healing process, as well as insights for supporters who want to truly help without adding to the mental load.
The conversation deepens as Elly and Isa dismantle the myth that grief must look a certain way. Vulnerability, they explain, requires discernment, but acknowledging your true emotions creates authentic connections. They emphasize that emotions will ebb and flow. Feeling okay one day and overwhelmed the next is part of the process, not a failure.
Perhaps most freeing is their discussion of timelines. They explain why the five stages of grief were never meant to be sequential steps, illustrating through personal stories of losing their mothers how grief can resurface unexpectedly years or even decades later. They also point to biblical examples like Jesus grieving Lazarus and John the Baptist to show that even perfect faith does not erase sorrow, but it does provide hope within the pain.
Whether you are grieving the loss of a loved one, a broken relationship, an unfulfilled dream, or even lamenting the state of the world, this conversation offers permission to grieve authentically and gently.
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Chapters
1. Don't Pretend You're Fine (00:00:00)
2. Don't Take Care of Everyone Else (00:05:22)
3. It's Okay to Not Be Okay (00:10:15)
4. Grieving Has No Timeline (00:14:20)
5. Making Meaning Through Loss (00:17:45)
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