Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides listeners with a brief, thought-provoking episode several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by my clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each episode to inspire listeners to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light.
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Core Desired Feelings Podcasts
”Building Better Marriages: the I do’s and I don’ts of everyday life” Here, we’re diving deep into the heart of relationships, addressing the many feelings, emotions, and core fears that impact the very essence of your relationship. We’re talking about stronger, Christ-centered marriages. In this safe space, we recognize that the problem is the problem, not your identity. The challenges that you are facing are real, entangling your faith with fears. But fear not, for we’ll navigate these wat ...
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The world is shifting. Old ways are crumbling. And many of us feel it in our bones—that business, too, must become something different. Something more real. More sacred. I believe the new paradigm of business will grow from the inside out. It’s not a strategy or a trend. It’s a deeper becoming. One that asks us to root into our own truth and build from there—with care, with presence, with devotion. Emergence is a space to explore what that really means. How do we lead from soft power, not pe ...
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Hope Community Audio is an audio channel for those who want to connect with Hope Community Church to listen to our service audio. Hope Community Church exists to help people far from God, find hope in God. Hope. [hohp]. Noun – ‘the feeling that events will turn out for the best. Verb – to believe, desire, or trust. To feel that something desired may happen. Our name is more than just a name. With every word, it displays the core of who and what we want to be.
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Same Boat Huddle | For the Overwhelmed Woman Who Wants to Live a Life She Craves
Erin Joyce Miller
Same Boat Huddle is a place where real women come to have real talk about the overwhelm, anxiety, lack of self care and loss of individual identity. We talk about not falling victim to this way of thinking, changing our lack mindsets into abundance, and discussing real ways to live a life of happiness and joy while living in alignment. It's about challenging the societal norms and stories and showing ourselves that we don't have to live like we're drowning. Erin is a mother and small busines ...
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Mindfully Masculine: Personal Growth and Mental Health for Men
On "Mindfully Masculine" we support and encourage men who strive to level-up their lives as we share books, media, and personal stories on mental health and well-being. Challenges in your life? We deliver the tips and tools that really help.
Charles and Dan are just two guys talking about relationships, masculinity, and authenticity. Join them as they discuss books and media, as well as their (sometimes messy) personal stories, to encourage men to join the fight for their mental, physical, and emotional health--because a world of healthy, resilient men is a thriving and more secure world for everyone.
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In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan dive into psychologist Dr. Orion Taraban’s provocative appearance on The Diary of a CEO. Taraban is known for his blunt take on dating, relationships, and masculinity—arguing that men are invisible until they bring value, that love is not earned but given, and that relationships at their core …
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083 Living As One God's Design For Oneness in Marriage
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9:41Are you feeling stuck, weighed down by regrets, or unsure if you’re even on the right path in your marriage and life? In this episode of Building Better Marriages – the I Do & I Don’t of Everyday Life, Dr. Deborah takes you back to the basics — the path God created just for you. Through biblical truth and practical steps, you’ll learn how to: Recog…
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Ep. 42. The Hidden Stress of Letting in More Good
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16:35In this episode, I talk about why expansion isn’t always easy on the nervous system, especially if you’ve spent a lot of time in survival mode. We’re sold this story, both in religion and Hollywood: you struggle, you overcome, and then once the good arrives, it’s happily ever after. The End. But what happens after The End? Real life isn’t like that…
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Episode 555: AI relationships (the future of dating)
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11:19Mark my words. AI relationships will be commonplace by the end of this decade, and these agents will soon constitute the sexual marketplace's most threatening competition. Given that most relational needs are psychological, the mind does not need ontologically objective means to satisfy them. And AI agents will likely create less unnecessary suffer…
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Episode 554: Becoming a real woman (the Scarlett effect)
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8:29The Pinocchio story teaches us that men might have to pass through a trial to become fully human. Similarly, women might have to go through an ordeal of their own in order to attain to their full humanity. I call this the Scarlett effect, as it is exemplified in the character arc of Margaret Mitchell's Scarlett O'Hara. Only when broken by life does…
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082: Our Christ-Centered Love Story – A Conversation with My Husband
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48:34Every marriage has a story — moments of joy, seasons of struggle, and the grace of God holding it all together. In this very special episode of Building Better Marriages – the I Do & I Don’t of Everyday Life, Dr. Deborah is joined by her husband for an open and heartfelt conversation about their Christ-centered love story. Together, they share: How…
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Episode 553: The price of safety (the man or the bear)
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11:05Everything in this world has a cost, and the price of safety is civility. In order to live in society, the more powerful have to be induced to not impose upon the less powerful – an arrangement the less powerful have traditionally bought with respect. Reneging on this agreement is a form of tempting fate. In choosing between the man or the bear, wo…
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Episode 552: Don't chase (the power of attractiveness)
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10:50Almost every dating coach tells his or her clients not to chase the opposite sex. However, if both sides listened to this advice, wouldn't that lead to a stand-off in the sexual marketplace? It would, if both sides were indefinitely equal with respect to their power balance – and this is not the case. In general, the more powerful force the less po…
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In this special solo reflection, Charles shares his perspective on the assassination of Charlie Kirk and what it reveals about masculinity, resilience, and political violence. He argues that true masculine strength lies in threat assessment, resilience, and the ability to live alongside opposing ideas without collapsing into reactivity. Violence—wh…
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081 Building Bridges Closing the Gap Between His Needs and Her Needs
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13:08Every couple feels it at some point — the gap between his needs and her needs. Maybe it’s in how you communicate, how you show love and respect, or how you approach intimacy and spiritual leadership. In this episode of Building Better Marriages – the I Do & I Don’t of Everyday Life, Dr. Deborah shares biblical truth and practical tools to help you …
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The Rise of AI Girlfriends: "Boyfriend" or "End User"?
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38:09What happens when your “perfect” girlfriend lives in your phone, hits your credit card for $9.95 a month, and never says no? In this episode, Charles and Dan explore the rise of AI companions and what draws men to digital relationships over real ones. We dig into questions like: Why some men are choosing AI girlfriends instead of dating apps or rea…
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Episode 551: Why women get ghosted (they're not worth it)
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12:39Many women incorrectly believe that sleeping with a man will decrease the likelihood that he consider her as a long-term prospect. However, this is not true. In some cases, the sex is the most positive aspect of the nascent relationship. The reason why women get ghosted after sex is because they've anchored their opportunity at too high a price poi…
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It took nearly dying on the adventure of a lifetime for Samwise Gamgee to make a move on Rosie Cotton. The hack to overcoming your approach anxiety is to build a habit of doing more difficult things: a conclusion that is borne out by one of my favorite psychology experiments, the study of the two bridges. If talking to a woman is the scariest thing…
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080 The Power Of Unity and Why Marriage Needs Two Voices Not Just One
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18:30Marriage was never meant to be a solo journey. In this episode of Building Better Marriages – the I Do & I Don’t of Everyday Life, Dr. Deborah shares why God designed marriage to thrive when both voices are heard, valued, and respected. Discover how unity in marriage is built not on sameness but on complementing each other’s strengths, perspectives…
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079a Getting Back To Basics - The Path God Created For You
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15:04Are you feeling stuck, weighed down by regrets, or unsure if you’re even on the right path in your marriage and life? In this episode of Building Better Marriages – the I Do & I Don’t of Everyday Life, Dr. Deborah takes you back to the basics — the path God created just for you. Through biblical truth and practical steps, you’ll learn how to: Recog…
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The Let Them Theory: Clarity, Commitment, and Closure
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39:45In this final episode of our Let Them Theory series, we dig into the last three chapters of Mel Robbins’ book—and we don’t hold back. We talk about why the honeymoon phase blinds us to red flags, how to tell if someone is truly compatible (hint: if you’re confused, they’re not), and why waiting for a partner to change is wasted time. We also break …
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Episode 549: No one-night stands (how not to find your husband)
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9:56Many women believe that initiating a sexual relationship too quickly will disqualify them from a long-term relationship: no one-night stands! However, this is not true. In today's dating scene, sex precedes commitment. Therefore, functionally all relationships begin as one-night stands: as a single event without the guarantee of a repeat performanc…
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Episode 548: Don't waste her time (how women set themselves up to fail)
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10:57It is a commonly-held belief that men who are not serious about a woman's long-term commitment should leave her be – especially in her 30s. Don't waste her time! However, disqualifying men because they will not comply with a woman's time line is a poor dating strategy. Good things take time – irrespective of when they are begun. This is how women s…
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079 Getting Back To Your Roots, The Path God Created For You
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15:04Have you ever felt weighed down by regrets or restless in your walk with God? In this episode of Building Better Marriages, Dr. Deborah shares how to recognize when you’ve wandered off God’s path and how to return to the one He designed just for you — a path filled with joy, peace, and purpose. Through Scripture, practical wisdom, and heartfelt enc…
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Episode 547: The core of respect (approaching the O word)
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12:58There is evidence to suggest that men need respect in a sexual relationship more than they need love. However, many women legitimately don't know how to respect a man. In today's episode, I will lay bare the core of respect, the essential element without which no respect exists: obedience. By approaching the O word, women can learn how to have more…
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The Let Them Theory: Support, Don't Rescue
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39:58In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan dive into Chapters 16 and 17 of Mel Robbins’ The Let Them Theory: The More You Rescue, The More They Sink and How to Provide Support the Right Way. They explore why stepping in to “rescue” often backfires, how shame and denial complicate real support, and why presence and patience are more pow…
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Episode 546: Getting vs. keeping (emotional labor in dating)
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10:48Since men and women gatekeep different aspects of a relationship – commitment and sex, respectively – the burden of effort over the course of a courtship falls on the one who is actively trying to be let in. It's not just women who perform emotional labor in dating. It take a lot of work for men to initiate the sexual relationship. However, there i…
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078 10 Phrases That Harm Your Marriage and What To Say Instead
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20:09Have you ever said, “You always…” or “Forget it” in the heat of the moment? Words like these may seem small, but they can quietly tear down intimacy and trust in your marriage. In this episode, Dr. Deborah uncovers 10 common sayings that sabotage communication between husbands and wives—and shares biblical, practical ways to replace them with words…
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Episode 545: Don't be her option (why you get left on read)
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12:11Most men are a woman's option – not her priority. And many are complicit in relegating themselves to this role. In today's episode, I discuss how over-pursuing and over-committing lead to suboptimal outcomes. If you want to get what you want, don't be her option. Giving too much, too soon is why you get left on read. Join my community: https://the-…
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The Let Them Theory: You Won't Change Them
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39:19In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan unpack Chapters 14 and 15 of The Let Them Theory—and the uncomfortable truth that you can’t force anyone to change. We dive into why pressure backfires, why rescuing keeps people stuck, and how the most powerful form of influence comes from backing off. From partners and kids to friends and co…
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Episode 544: Go f**k myself (how to accelerate your growth)
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9:47To get what you want in life, it is helpful to cultivate a “fuck you” attitude, that is: the capacity to go without the support or approval of others. However, it may be even more helpful to cultivate a “fuck me” attitude to achieve your dreams. This is the ability to consciously override the habits and preferences that block your effective action.…
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077 The Unspoken Desires of a Wife, What She Really Needs But Rarely Says Outload
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13:52In this episode of Building Better Marriages: The I Do and I Don’t of Everyday Life, Dr. Deborah Skomba turns the conversation toward the heart of a wife. Drawing from Ephesians 5:25, the Greek agapaō (to love with Christ-like commitment), and Proverbs 31:11, the Hebrew batach (to trust with security), Dr. Deborah unpacks three needs many wives car…
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Episode 543: Why men lose interest in sex: Love (where men love they do not desire)
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11:20In this third installment on my series on male sexuality, I discuss another reason why men lose interest in sex: love. Like it or not, a good deal of male arousal is predicated on objectification. Once a man begins to care for the person inside the body, the sexual act is increasingly divested of its aggressive element, which can vitiate the experi…
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The Let Them Theory: New Friends, Old Friends, and No Friends
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27:31Friendship in adulthood isn’t what it used to be — and in this conversation, we get into why that’s not always a bad thing. Charles and Dan dig into the myths we carry from childhood about how friends “should” work, and how those expectations crash into reality once proximity, free time, and shared schedules disappear. We break down Mel Robbins’ “t…
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Episode 542: The magic ring (marriage isn't the answer)
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10:08Despite appearances to the contrary, there are many men today who believe in magic. That is, they believe that marrying a woman will solve the problems that exist in their relationship. In this case, marriage isn't the answer. It's important to understand that any problems that exist in the courtship stage – unburdened, as it is, from any real resp…
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076 Beyond Happy Wife Happy Life - What Husbands Really Need
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17:58What if God’s design for marriage is bigger than “happy wife, happy life”? In this episode of Building Better Marriages, Dr. Deborah unpacks Ephesians 5:33 — where husbands are called to love and wives are called to respect — and shows how this mutual exchange creates lasting joy, not just temporary happiness. You’ll hear biblical wisdom, practical…
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Episode 541: Why men lose interest in sex: Habituation (the allure of the new)
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14:06In my second episode on the subject, I discuss another variable antagonistic to male sexuality: habituation. For better or worse, men – or males, more generally – are biologically programmed to spread their seed. This strategy is supported by the Coolidge Effect, which is a psychological phenomenon that makes novel sexual opportunities appear more …
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The Let Them Theory: Comparing and Craving
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48:39In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan continue their exploration of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins, turning a critical eye toward two major ideas: fairness and comparison. First, they take on the statement “life isn’t fair”—not to reject it outright, but to unpack its usefulness. Is declaring unfairness a helpful truth, or a d…
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Episode 540: Spilling the tea (why men will walk away)
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15:41Tea, a popular new app that purports to “make dating safer for women,” has (deservedly) received a lot of backlash in recent weeks. In this episode, I argue that Tea – and apps like it – have the potential to sever a dating market that is already only hanging on by a thread. Rather than dissuading bad actors, these apps are more likely to terrify g…
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In this episode of Building Better Marriages: The I Do and I Don’t of Everyday Life, Dr. Deborah Skomba unpacks John 10:10 and the powerful promise Jesus gives couples facing spiritual attacks. Discover how the enemy works to steal, kill, and destroy marriages — and how Christ offers zoē life, overflowing with love, peace, and purpose. Learn how to…
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Episode 539: Pet or partner? (you can't have it both ways)
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12:57Just like there are many different ways to structure a company, there are many different ways to structure a romantic relationship. Today I discuss two of the most common such structures: pet and partner. One is not necessarily better than the other, and there are pros and cons to each. It's important to consider your needs closely, because you can…
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The Let Them Theory: Immature Reactions, Mature Moves
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38:57Why do grown-ups still throw tantrums? And why does doing the right thing sometimes feel awful? In this episode, Charles and Dan dive into Chapters 7 and 8 of The Let Them Theory—where emotional maturity meets real-life discomfort. We unpack how adults act like kids (just with more email silence and fewer juice boxes), how to hold your ground when …
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Episode 538: Sex is about power (the fantasy of most men)
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8:49Oscar Wilde once wrote: “Everything is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power.” In this second installment of a two-part series, I discuss the truth of this statement's second claim. Sexual selection is one the most reliable methods of determining men's relative power rankings. Furthermore, most sexual fantasies typically revolve around the use …
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In today’s episode, I’m inviting you to step away from the noise and into the quiet presence of God—to pause, rest, and remember that joy, laughter, and love were always part of His design for marriage. I've compiled seven summer night fun date night ideas to help you get started. We’ll explore what the Bible says about rest and renewal, and introd…
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Episode 537: All men are incels (the bitter truth)
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11:23I've never understood the use of the term “incel” – or “involuntarily celibate” – as an insult. After all, if a man wants to have sex with a woman who doesn't, then – at least, in the context of this relationship – either the man is going to be involuntarily celibate or the woman is going to be involuntarily sexual. And while we do not need to cele…
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The Let Them Theory: Own Your Imperfection
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32:54In this episode, we break down Chapters 5 and 6 of The Let Them Theory—and the exhausting pressure to manage what other people think. From family dynamics to workplace image, we dig into codependence, covert contracts, people-pleasing, and the false belief that being lovable means being perfect. We talk resentment, approval addiction, emotional man…
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Episode 536: Everything is about sex (the true power of male desire)
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8:54Oscar Wilde once wrote: “Everything is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power.” In this first installment of a two-part series, I discuss the truth of this statement's first claim. Especially when it comes to men, I contend that almost everything really is about sex. The sublimation of the sexual impulse into prosocial ends is what makes it poss…
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Ep.41. When Your Work, Concepts, or Posts Get Copied
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26:58As a visionary, thought leader, or someone who simply shares original perspectives, there’s a chance you’ll be copied. Expression, especially online, has a shadow side, and it’s showing up more than ever. You might’ve felt it. That sting when someone copies you. In this episode, I talk about what I do when that happens. How I’ve made peace with it,…
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072 The Power of Pause - Why Slowing Down is Sacred
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12:20Feeling guilty for resting? You’re not alone. In this episode, Dr. Deborah Skomba shares why rest is sacred, modeled by God, and essential for soul renewal. Learn how to practice Sabbath rhythms with practical, grace-filled pauses in your week. Matthew 11:28–30 (NLT) “Come to me, all of you who are weary…” Want to go deeper? Join The Heart Reset: A…
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Episode 535: Why men lose interest in sex: Familiarity (why closeness kills attraction)
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9:39Male sexuality is often misunderstood. In this first in a series of episodes on the topic, I discuss one of the reasons why men lose interest in sex: familiarity. When people live in family-like conditions for many years, they develop a sexual indifference (or aversion) to each other in order to prevent inbreeding. This is known as the Westermarck …
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The Let Them Theory: Alpha Energy or Amygdala Emergency?
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34:27In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan dive into Chapters 3 and 4 of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins—where things get uncomfortably real about stress, overreaction, and the fantasy of control. From checkout-line rage to masculine stoicism, this conversation blends psychology, philosophy, and a fair bit of sarcasm. We cover: Why …
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Episode 534: Her only competition (why men end up in bad relationships)
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9:05When it comes to relationships, women don't actually compete with other women for men's attention. Ultimately, her only competition is his solitude: the degree to which he enjoys his own company. Some men are so self-loathing that they will endure even disrespect or abuse, if the relationship succeeds in taking them away from themselves. This is wh…
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071 Mid Year Reset By Embracing Grace Over Guilt
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11:52Feeling behind this year? You're not alone. In this heartfelt mid-year reflection, Dr. Deborah Skomba invites you to release guilt, receive grace, and reset your heart with God's truth. Discover how to move forward in faith, not frustration, and embrace the rest of this year with peace and purpose.“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past…
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Episode 533: Male cheating and female cheating (what makes them different)
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10:28In this much requested episode, I discuss some of the evidence-supported differences in male cheating and female cheating. Among other things, these behaviors tend to differ with respect to relationship satisfaction, motivation, and dimensionality. By examining what makes them different, we can consider some of the divergent ends to which men and w…
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In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles dives into Chapters 1 and 2 of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins—and let’s just say, it gets heated early. From micromanaging her son’s prom to being left off a girls’ trip, Mel lays out the moments that inspired her viral advice: “Let them.” But is it personal growth… or just a new way to dodge acco…
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