I asked him what was different now–

(After the somatic work,
after facing what he'd been avoiding his whole life.)

"I believe in myself now.
I feel stronger inside. I love myself."

He'd never been able to say that before.

But here's what got me:

His daughter is 11.

Before the work,
if you asked her to look in the mirror and say
"I love you" to herself–

She'd start crying.

His son, 9 years old–

Same thing.

Now–

They can both look in the mirror and say it.

And they feel it.

His wife had enough.

After years of trying to connect with a man
who was there but not really there–

Who'd escape to his garage, his tools,
anywhere but the discomfort of being present–

She initiated the separation.

70% of divorces are initiated by women.

The reason is consistent–

Not because the love disappeared,

but because they've been trying to reach someone
who's been dissociated from themselves for years.

He thought he was always right.

Everyone else was wrong.

(Classic avoidant shutdown.)

The wakeup call came when she said:

"I'm done. I'm moving out."

That's when he reached out.

The Overview Experience was where we began–

A meditation where he finally connected
with the younger parts of himself that he'd abandoned.

He started shaking.

Trembling.

Releasing decades of held emotion.

"I've never had that connection before."

Six months later:

His kids are excelling in school, sports, life.

He told me what neighbors have been noticing–

"The kids are wanting to hang out with me now.
It's amazing."

He got a promotion and a raise at work.

(Leadership emerges when you're no longer at war with yourself.)

He went from angry at his ex to grateful–

"I love her for what she did.
Everything she's done has been amazing."

They're co-parenting peacefully now.

The best part–

"If I know how to connect with me,
I know how to connect with them."

His kids learned by watching him heal.

They didn't need therapy.

They didn't need special programs.

They needed a dad who could look in the mirror and love himself–

(So they could learn to do the same.)

The work we avoid doing on ourselves
doesn't just affect us.

It spills.

Onto our partners.

Our kids.

Our teams.

Our entire lives.

And the beautiful thing about healing–

It's contagious too.

Your wingman on the adventure,

Nima

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P.S. If you're in that space–

The limbo of "should I stay or go,"

The pattern of pushing away the people you love,

The exhaustion of maintaining the facade while falling apart inside–

I'm offering a free Blind Spot Session (normally $497).

In 30 minutes, we'll uncover:

The unconscious patterns keeping you stuck

Why your kids (if you have them)
are learning more from your nervous system than your words

The specific shifts needed to move
from avoidant shutdown to magnetic presence.

This isn't about blame.

It's about seeing what you haven't been able to see–

(And taking ownership of the patterns you're passing down.)

Comment or DM with:

Your relationship situation

What you've already tried

What you want to accomplish

End with: "Nima, can I please get a link to your private calendar?"