Self-pity is one of the most overlooked emotions we experience, and one of the most powerful. It doesn't stomp in and throw a tantrum. It shows up quietly, as I have to, I deserve this, or no one ever includes me. And because it feels true, we don't even question it. We just… sabotage ourselves.

In this episode of the Total Health in Midlife podcast, I'm sharing a deeply personal moment that pulled back the curtain on my own self-pity spiral—and how it almost derailed my day (and my health habits) before I realized what was happening. We'll explore how this hidden emotion can show up in your thoughts, your food choices, and even your relationship with exercise and rest.

If you've ever felt stuck in your routines, quietly resentful of your habits, or unsure why you keep "treating yourself" in ways that don't actually feel good… you'll want to listen all the way through.

This might be the clarity you didn't know you needed.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

• Why self-pity is so sneaky—and how to spot it

• How victim thinking shows up in everyday health habits like eating and exercise

• A simple mindset shift that restores your sense of agency without judgment

RESOURCES

• The 8 Basic Habits Healthy People Do (Guide + Checklist)

• The Total Health in Midlife Listener's Guide

• Episode 159: Fault vs Responsibility

Get full show notes and more information here: https://elizabethsherman.com/245